Went to State Fair Solo, Didn't approach; I am disappoint.

DonChino

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Hey all, well I decided to get out of the ****ing house and go do something today. That something was going to the State Fair (biggest one in the U.S. I might add). I went solo because I literally have no friends and the acquaintances I do have all got there own thing and wouldn't want to come anyways. My plan was to just to enjoy myself, as I haven't been since 6th grade (I'm now 22) and also to attempt to approach some girls.

So I showed up around noon (friday) and payed the entrance and parking fee. Parked got out on foot and just started to explore this huge expo and fair grounds. Lots of cool and fun stuff that would make it VERY easy to come up with situational/observation openers.

Mentally I tell myself I don't care at all about being rejected and I actually still believe this. I have nothing to lose and plenty to gain. But yet I still managed to not approach anyone... Not making excuses because they lead to more excuses but 98% of the girls I saw were with 2-3+ people. I'm not afraid of being rejected but at the same time I don't want to intentionally degrade/make a fool out of myself. Should I just go ahead and do that? I'm so inexperienced with approaching 1 girl but 2-3+ at the same time? Seems like I would intentionally sink my own ship before it even gets out of the dock.

As I said 98% were with a partner or in groups, the other 2% I saw however were not so that was an absolute failure on my part there (when I say 2% I mean very very very few and far in-between).

There were some incredibly physically attractive females, let me tell ya, I had to take double sometimes triple takes on a few. This one girl running a little stall/shop, low 20's in age, was so fine that as soon as I saw her I just thought to myself "damn". Girls like her for sure got a waiting list of guys that are all on call. That being said a lot of girls were definitely jail bait if you know what I mean. So if/when I go back to make amends if I happen to hit on someone below 18 I will still try to continue and number close but I will mentally make a note of it and disregard them immediately. My primary focus is not actually making a day 2 (or day 1 for that matter) with these girls but to approach and go through the motions of wanting to do so.

So yeah, this fair will run another week. So many things to do, eat and see. Ton's of girls but also ton's of guys with said girls. When would be the best day/time to go? mon-sun noon to midnight with the best prospect in meeting single girls.

I failed immensely, but I have a chance to give it another go. Just go in open randomly to the thousands of people at this huge event. I got to do this. I'm intimidated by girls that are with friends but that don't mean I can't spot the opportunities that can let me have a quick dialogue with someone. It was frustrating that when looking around I had thoughts going in my head about how I can make a comment about something in view but I didn't take action to use it.
 

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I failed immensely,
You didn't fail. You went. And that is better than not going, but wishing you did after it's too late. What did you learn? Hopefully, you learned that nobody cared. You didn't get laughed at. You didn't get pointed at by crowds and humiliated. And, you didn't get beat up. Additionally, I hope you learned that there are plenty of opportunities to succeed in approaching and that when you do approach, guess what? Nobody will care about that either. All you have to do is get through a few rejections. Also, that hot chick running the stall? Let that be a lesson that rejection IS better than regret. When you think of all the possibilities if you had just approached, you will realize that none of that goes through your head after being rejected. Instead, you'll be thinking about what you could have done differently. When that happens, it makes the next approach easier, and so on and so on.

In reality, this is a perfect opportunity to get over your initial fears of rejection. Pretty much everybody there are strangers that you'll never have to face again. Who cares what anyone thinks. Get the jitters out of your system. Capitalize NOW. Go back, have fun and talk to girls while you're at it.
 

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There was a downtown Peddlers Fair next to my street last week, and there were loads of great-looking dames. I didn't approach any of them, either. It's tough to do, when a husband may be close by.
RSD mentioned about cold approaches like this-- Moving target pickups are THE most difficult.

Do you have an ugly sister to wing for you?
 

GreatHornedOwl

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I consider myself experienced with women and I never approach groups of girls. I dunno, it's just a weird vibe. Most of them aren't going to be real eager giving their phone number off to a stranger in front of their friends. They don't want to appear desperate.
 
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