Well yes yall got your wish, she dumped me

[Blackstar]

Well not really , or not yet but basicly what she is doing now is she is ganjing me.

Last night i called her to apolagize to her and she didnt pick up , so i texted her and she didnt reply, now at work, she is doing the silent treatment on me, so basicly she is ignoring the fuk out of me in every way possible.

Lol i dont know... i mean although that i know exacly what she is doing and why it still gets me, you know... lol... i dont know, its like.... i dont know.

I mean i do love the girl i guess thats why her ganjing affects me although i know that she is doing it and why.

Now i know that i deserve to get dumped and to be ganjied onm so im not gonna really stress it right now, im ready for whatever, get dumped, ganjied on, cheated on, laughed at, i dont care, its like, nothing means anything to me right now, like fuk everything,

I mean im trynna apolagize and move on but she aint willing to let me do that, and all the fuked up **** that shes done too.... and now that i.... forget it..... im just doing the exact thing she is doing ganjing her although until she approaches me or talk to me again, but my insecurity and immatureness and jealousness man... it is my fault i deserve this.

Hopefully she starts to communicate with me again so we can work it out.

This has been and its a turnaround experience that i needed to go thru, now i know how to handle **** next time around with her or a different chick.

 

[Skweints]

Don't waste your time trying to "work things out" with her. If she wanted to work things out with you, she would. She's being a ***** on purpose... she wants you to disappear, and since you KNOW this, why are you worried about working things out? BTW, she's not Ganjing you... she's ignoring you. Ganjing is disappearing in the hopes of renewing interest level that was lost previously due to mistakes or whatever. She already knew you were interested in her and obviously still knows that you're interested in her, so there's no point in her Ganjing you. So walk away, don't search for closure, because you're wasting your time. Don't get your heart tied in a knot... suck it up and move on.

 

[Blackstar]

Originally posted by Skweints
Don't waste your time trying to "work things out" with her. If she wanted to work things out with you, she would. She's being a ***** on purpose... she wants you to disappear, and since you KNOW this, why are you worried about working things out? BTW, she's not Ganjing you... she's ignoring you. Ganjing is disappearing in the hopes of renewing interest level. She already knew you were interested in her, so there's no point in her Ganjing you. So walk away, don't search for closure, because you're wasting your time.

I mean you right cause thats how she is acting, now this aint the first time that she acts like this the only difference is that all them other times i was the one to approach her and talk to her.

Too she didnt tell me we done, or non like that , had she done that i would do what you said in your post no problem, but she did say the day of the incident , " im not cheating on you, never have never will. thats why i say that we are not broken up, she is just ignoring me as you said.

 

[SevenOne9]

I gotta agree w/Skweints.

You said you didn't care much anymore, then why hope to communicate w/her again? That doesn't make any sense.... It's obvious you still care.

Don't take her B.S. man, next her for good.

 

[Blackstar]

^^^ i do care for her i love her but the i dont care is the feeling that i got inside, its a hopeless one like she got total control.

its like she wrapped me around a rope hanging me from a bridge and she got total control of whats next, weather she is gonna cut it and let me fall into the deep waters or pull me back up, its all on her.


( i do know how to swim though, although it would take time to get to land)

 

[Fenderules]

EXACTLY!!!!!!! THAT IS WHY SHE IS ACTING THE WAY SHE IS!




I mean everyone on the board is sick of the repated posts you keep making about the same stuff over and over again. Imagine how she feels? i mean your afc behaviour has her running for the trees. And the fact that she has control of you being happy or sad is a lot for one person to have. No girl in her mind wants that kind of pressure. I sure as hell dont want to be responsible for controlly somebody's emotions from what my ations do. She cant stand you anymore and has cut you off compltely.

you must follow this advice i am going to give. I am sure every other guy on this site with some sense in his head will agree. If you do not follow this i am no longer going to offer advice and i think neither should any of the other guys since your not gonna use it.




NEXT HER!


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while this may seem trivial it does a few things for you.

She clearly deserves to be dumped if she does that 2 you. LIke the same problem viper had.... she is not considering your emotions and does not care. She does no longer deserve any attention. She will do it again and again to you. Do want to keep living a hell hole?

Nexting her will get you out back in the game again. You will see she is not as great as you thought she was since you put her higher then yourself. You will see other girlz that are better and would never play with your emotions like she has

Nexting her is the only way she will come back. Show her that you do not tolerate such treatment and are moving on. DO NOT count on her coming back. She might and may not. Cut all contact. When she phones dont answer them all and make the convo's brief. If she wants you back she will make it clear and you can decide. This is the only option you have now (Ganji) and dont count on it happening since you drove her away already. You calling her all the time is not helping so back off.

Now you have the advice. do what you will with it but if you do not next her there is no hope for you and i dont blame you if you continued to get burnedl.

now move on and good luck!

 

[Blackstar]

well you know whaat, you right.

I am gonna next her i mean im fed up too man.

Now the next question is how do i next her if she aint talking to me at all? thru a text message? lol

and i was thinking in returning the watch that she got for me when i do that, but first i gotta find out how do i next her in this situation how do i tell her, or do i at all

 

[Fenderules]

like i said in the priv message. if she ignores you, why should you go out of the way to tell her your done????? just move on and when she contacts you finally tell her your busy screwing some hb9 and she has to call back later.



i would not worry about the watch, if she wants it, she can come and get it.

 

[cactus3178]

Originally posted by Blackstar
well you know whaat, you right.

I am gonna next her i mean im fed up too man.

Now the next question is how do i next her if she aint talking to me at all? thru a text message? lol

and i was thinking in returning the watch that she got for me when i do that, but first i gotta find out how do i next her in this situation how do i tell her, or do i at all

Actions speak louder than words. You don't need to do a damn thing. Don't call, don't answer calls from her, don't email/IM her, don't bump into her at the store, etc.

F*ck that ****, two can play this game. But you'll win.

I'll bet if you do just exactly what I said, she'll be the one to crack first. Give it one week, and a if she hasn't tried to contact you, I'll bend over and somehow kiss my own ass.

No matter how hard it is, ignore this b*tch for a while. If she moves on in the meantime, obviously it wasn't meant to be anyhow.

 

[MetalFortress]

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BE A MAN!!! And sell the watch, too.

 

[cave dweller]

the watch???

Hey,

Next her and keep the watch.

Also, break off ALL CONTACT..

Dump her man and move on.........................



cave dweller

 

[dearsappho]

Blackstar - you are AFC. End of.

 

[Jariel]

I don't think anyone would wish this on you. Love is blind, as they say, and it's difficult to see things objectively when you're in love.

Sometimes it takes a harsh lesson like this to save you from future mistakes.

 

[Climax]

hmmm....

Blackstar: I dont know this girl, so i dont know if what i am about to say is correct in her case, but i think that despite what the above posters have said there is something that you need to know about women...

You girl is ignoring you and putting you through the "silent treatment" right? well... this doesnt 100% mean that she isnt interested in you.... have you ever thought of it as a test? Myabe sahe just wants to know how committed you really are for her and how much you will DO to get her back... obviously if you just ignore her and move on like nothing happened you will be telling her that u dont really give a damn for you, and you might be telling her indirectly " you made the right choice in putting me through this test, because i dont really care about you enough to do whatever it takes to get you back" ...

If you really LOVE this girl, u WONT BE ABLE to just move on like that... and what i would suggest you do is go to her work, her house, whever she is, and talk to her in person, and then if she STILL ignores you, take her face, MAKE her look you in the eye's and say to her " So is this what you really want? Do you want us to end?" ... By her reaction to this you should know what she really wants/means by ignoring you etc.

So i am telling you to NOT dump her/end it.. yet. ... I am telling you to go to her face to face, and come to a final decision / conclusion, whether its you 2 getting back togeather, or ending it, it MUST be done face to face!

Laterz...

 

[Blackstar]

Originally posted by cactus3178
if she hasn't tried to contact you, I'll bend over and somehow kiss my own ass.

lol i will keep track of this one week too

but on the 20th it was supposed to be our 3 month "mini-anniversary" i know that she is gonna contact me by then anyway.

But ima do that, thanx yall again, for the last time on this chick, i feel good though, i didnt know that a person could feel this good after a break up in this way.

 

[dearsappho]

Originally posted by Jariel
Love is blind, as they say, and it's difficult to see things objectively when you're in love.

This guy is right. Fight through that **** and see things objectively. Ive been in your situation more times than I care to remember and believe me, with the benefit of hindsight, Im sooooo glad Im not with any of my previous GF's. Snap out of the p*ssy trance...

 

[NewMan]

A Men.

I know your not done with her. Because if you were, you wouldn't feel the need to NEXT her - you would just move on.

This is not finished.

And it will not be finished until you grow some back bone.

 

[Blackstar]

Again everybody says something different, reminds me of a thread i saw a few days ago about this site aint helpful but stressful.

 

[Slickster]

Originally posted by Blackstar
its like she wrapped me around a rope hanging me from a bridge and she got total control of whats next, weather she is gonna cut it and let me fall into the deep waters or pull me back up, its all on her.

The best thing you can do at that point is go out and meet 10 new women. I guarantee you will feel better and your problem won't seem like such a problem any more.

Whether she lets go of the rope or pulls it back up you won't be there.

 

[*29*]

NEXT!

Do I hear an echo?