well they finally told me the truth

[Jaun_Don]

My roomates have been sleeping together and i found out by going up to the bathroom and hearing them in the shower, needless to say i flipped out banged on the bathroom door and said you aren't any friends of mine, see I have suspected that something was going on for a while I was just waiting for them to have the ****ing balls to tell me.

K the roomie was in tears and freaking out and my ex best friend played the Big man role and told me that my behaviour had been erractic and crazy and i was thinking oh gee I wonder why...she has come between a 9 year friendship and he isn't a friend to me anymore it feels dead., it really does, I did give K a big hug because she was balling her eyes out and i felt bad
but they should NOT have kept it from me, cos it hurts even more now.

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

He's right.....your behaviour was erratic and crazy.

Why do you care so much?

Are you in a relationship with her?

 

[NewMan]

Your obsessed. One-i-tis. you've got it all.

talk about kill that desperation.

I've read your posts, and it seems that no matter what this chick does, you still want and chase after her....

You are blinded by your desperation to fvck her. Do you believe she is all innocent? she's played you like a fvcking fiddle - and you hummed her tune.

If there is anything you learn from this, it should be that you should not put up with sh#t from a woman.

Put this Ho to the curb and move on.

You should have a some back up women on the rotation - use them and move out.

 

[Lost In Translation]

Tough Love From Down Under

got bad news for ya kid

most men are not like me

i couldn't care less about b*tches

you want the B*tch ? i won't touch her.

i got enough and i got plenty of self control.

you need b*tches ? i'll hook you up with some


most men including my friends are WEAK. bros before h0es they SAY

stab another man in the back over a dumb b*tch is what the DO


never never never assume a man will act honourable over a women and choose friendship

SUCH MEN ARE VERY RARE AND THEIR FRIENDSHIP IS FOR LIFE

men these days are WEAK AS WATER when it comes to women ( and most other things too )

i am not going to go into WHY but lets just say it was not always like this


you need to snap the f*ck out of this pity party

yes your friend is a hound

yes the woman is a H0

but what are you ?

you crying like a momma's boy !!!

YOU ARE A MAN DAMNIT ACT LIKE ONE !!!


better you know she is a h0 sleeping with your boy than she sleeping with 10 other men all over town and you never catch them

you lucky it was your boy and you could catch them in YOUR shower


now i am gunna slap you around ready ?

do you live on set of the TV show FRIENDS ?

Will and Grace ?

some other american tv trash show where all the flat mates sleep with each other ?


YOU ARE A DON JUAN

where is your game ?

1. you dumb enough to live with a h0. not wise in my opinion. living with women as flat mates in not for the AFC of heart cause they usually develop feelings for the woman and or lack game so they cannot venture beyond their flat to pimp their own women.

2. you fighting over a h0 when there's a whole world filled with beautiful and attractive women.

3. you lost a friend of 9 years WHO WAS TRYING TO TELL YOUR DUMB A$$ in his own $hitty way that the girl is a freeeeeeeeek and that as a don juan you should NOT develop feelings for the b*tch


do you apologise to your friend ?

noooooo.....

you AFC ! you give the H0 a HUG after she freeeeeks up your shower so you gunna slip over and crack your head when you wash ( LMAO )

and you reward her with a HUG ?

and your put your brother on death row


WAKE UP DON JUAN YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[dannyc]

this is awful afc behaviour. I hope everyone on this board is reading this situation and learning from this guys mistakes. you have a very bad case of oneitis man.

At least youve learned from this situation that this girl was never actually attracted to you and not playing any sort of games with you... but just went for the better man.

where are these other so called girls you have on the side coz if you did.. you wouldnt be posting so much about this girl.

 

[Tazman]

I have NOT once made a pass at this girl or come onto her

Given this fact, why are you going to end your friendship with the guy? How long did you plan on dragging this out? He got the ass, but that's all you say you wanted anyway, why blow up at them if all you wanted to do was fvck her?

 

[DJDamage]

Listen to LIT on this one.

I don't keep girl friends anymore. They make lousy friends and get you involved in their life filled drama. The only girl that warrants me to call her friend is the one I am sleeping with. If I am not sleeping with her then she is just an aquietence. Get some guy friends.

Just look what the girl did to you:

- you fell for her and she is not your girlfriend,

- she made you cry

- You looked like the world's biggest wuss banging on the door while they were getting their freak on.

- you lost friendship with your male friend.

- you fell for her crocodile tears. Everytime a woman cries she plays a victim and the man ends up forgiving her. The oldest trick in the book.

You have no one to blame but yourself for this mess.

 

[h2o]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
My roomates have been sleeping together and i found out by going up to the bathroom and hearing them in the shower, needless to say i flipped out banged on the bathroom door and said you aren't any friends of mine, see I have suspected that something was going on for a while I was just waiting for them to have the ****ing balls to tell me.

K the roomie was in tears and freaking out and my ex best friend played the Big man role and told me that my behaviour had been erractic and crazy and i was thinking oh gee I wonder why...she has come between a 9 year friendship and he isn't a friend to me anymore it feels dead., it really does, I did give K a big hug because she was balling her eyes out and i felt bad
but they should NOT have kept it from me, cos it hurts even more now.

hey, i seriously hope you apologize to your friend. he didn't betray you, and no one lied behind your back. i think you had too much oneitis for this girl, and your emotions are getting in the way.

personally, when i find that i'm not making logical decisions, i take time to think it out. don't let emotions cloud your logic, and don't ever make decisions based on emotion, unless you truly feel it in your gut.

i read your other posts, and it seems to me this girl enjoyed playing you. and for a while it seemed you didn't care, but you really must care a lot if it jeopordizes you friendship with your friend. 9 years, dude...friends are more important that some pvssy.

trust me on this; finding pvssy is 1000x easier than finding good male friends.

 

[Lost In Translation]

DJDamage
I don't keep girl friends anymore. They make lousy friends and get you involved in their life filled drama.

99% Friendships with women are a house of cards

a boyfriend / husband / drama / your friend hook up with her

the smallest gust of wind and NO MORE FRIENDSHIP


h2o
trust me on this; finding pvssy is 1000x easier than finding good male friends.

remember this !

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
My roomates have been sleeping together and i found out by going up to the bathroom and hearing them in the shower, needless to say i flipped out banged on the bathroom door and said you aren't any friends of mine, see I have suspected that something was going on for a while I was just waiting for them to have the ****ing balls to tell me.

K the roomie was in tears and freaking out and my ex best friend played the Big man role and told me that my behaviour had been erractic and crazy and i was thinking oh gee I wonder why...she has come between a 9 year friendship and he isn't a friend to me anymore it feels dead., it really does, I did give K a big hug because she was balling her eyes out and i felt bad
but they should NOT have kept it from me, cos it hurts even more now.

You certainly didn't handle that very well. If your friend knew that you liked the girl, then yes, he betrayed you and you have every right to be angry with him. You should not have caused such a scene, though. You should have waited a few hours, calmed down and thought about what you wanted to do about this. If it's your apartment you should tell him to leave since he betrayed you and tell her to leave because she has a very bad effect on you. If you're going to get a roommate in the future, get either a male roommate that you are more attractive than or a female that you are NOT attracted to...period. Then you won't have this kind of problem again.

 

[BigMike]

LIT, that wonderful reply brought tears to my eyes.

Prefectly said.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Yeah, while in your AFC mind it may look like you were betrayed and people did this and that to you, in reality you fvcked up and now you're blaming everyone else.

You told this girl you liked her, she didnt reciprocate, she wanted nothing to do with to you but you did everything you could to win her approval. That's CRAZY!

Your roommate probably did nothing and she jumped his bones cause he was being a man.

You gotta cut out oneitis and the whole winning her over thing. You gotta make women fight to get your approval not the other way around. That requires a HUGE change in attitude that you can achieve if you try hard, but it requires you to change your worldview.


I dont agre about the no female friends thing. You should probably rephrase that to "no female friends I wan to fvck". I have several female friends and we are just good friends and neither one of us wants to jump eachothers bones, so it works out. Whenever one of them brings up some b.s. about her bf or whatever I say I don't want to hear it and it works that way. "Look I don't want to hear about your boyfriend, I'm not going to get involved in your drama. No matter what advice I give you, it will be ignored and you will just go on doing whatever you wanted, so forget it".

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by DJDamage
Listen to LIT on this one.

I don't keep girl friends anymore. They make lousy friends and get you involved in their life filled drama. The only girl that warrants me to call her friend is the one I am sleeping with. If I am not sleeping with her then she is just an aquietence. Get some guy friends.

Just look what the girl did to you:

- you fell for her and she is not your girlfriend,

- she made you cry

- You looked like the world's biggest wuss banging on the door while they were getting their freak on.

- you lost friendship with your male friend.

- you fell for her crocodile tears. Everytime a woman cries she plays a victim and the man ends up forgiving her. The oldest trick in the book.

You have no one to blame but yourself for this mess.

Men and women can have great friendships IF the friendship is equal and everyone is honest. My best friend is a man and the give and take in our friendship is equal...I'm there for him at least as much as he's there for me, and I would NEVER do anything to hurt him. I love him very much. In fact, I've probably been the most consistent and real friend he's ever had. If a man and woman are able to build a genuine friendship, it's a great thing. However, if one of them are only being friends with the other because they want something more then the friendship is doomed to fail miserably. This guy wasn't honest about his intentions and his "friendship" with this girl wasn't real to begin with because he didn't want to be her friend...he wanted to be her old man. He wasn't trying to be real friends with her, he was trying to get in her pants. She obviously wanted his friend instead and was likely only using him to get close to the friend. So neither one of them were ever really looking for a friendship with the other, not a REAL friendship anyhow. They were only pretending to be friends in order to get something they wanted. The biggest victim in all of this is his male friend who got put in the middle. He got lured by the girl and guilted by his friend. I don't think any of them have a real friendship in this mess. Both Jaun and his friend are placing more value in this girl than they do their friendship.

Men and women shouldn't live together unless they are a couple or are in no way attracted to each other...that's the moral of this story, I'd say.

 

[BlackJackal]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
My roomates have been sleeping together and i found out by going up to the bathroom and hearing them in the shower, needless to say i flipped out banged on the bathroom door and said you aren't any friends of mine, see I have suspected that something was going on for a while I was just waiting for them to have the ****ing balls to tell me.

K the roomie was in tears and freaking out and my ex best friend played the Big man role and told me that my behaviour had been erractic and crazy and i was thinking oh gee I wonder why...she has come between a 9 year friendship and he isn't a friend to me anymore it feels dead., it really does, I did give K a big hug because she was balling her eyes out and i felt bad
but they should NOT have kept it from me, cos it hurts even more now.

This is my first post, but I'm not new here. I've come here every now and then since early 2004. With that said, Juan Don I've read your other 2 post on your story, and this one included. I have to agree with what everybody else said so far. Your didn't betray you, he only did what the girl wanted him to do. Which is what she didn't want you to do.

And why would you hug her, but just disregard your boy as if he was nothing? The only person you could blame is yourself for allowing this situation to get this far in your head. I say make a truce with your friend and then disregard the ***** completely.

 

[Jaun_Don]

I actually woke up this morning feeling fine and not full of any regret really, I am actually pleased it happened in a way it feels like a burden has been lifted..Life is too short...she is moving out and he leaves at the end of the month to go to another city, I did say some nasty **** to the girl and the tears were very well so that's why I hugged her., it felt like the right thing to do.

Your comments helped I need to cut back on my drinking and be careful who I choose to live with I won't ever be seeing her again and we are not friends and never will be, as for him it will take some time but we should get back on track, she is not worth losing a 9 year friendship over.

You are right, the only reason I handled this situation so badly was because of my emotions (which I never understood in the first place) and because I knew it was going on and just wanted someone to come forward and tell me.


She DID give me mixed signals but I just put that down to her playing me and I got suckered I have learnt so much from this and am just moving on now...thanks for all your feedback.

 

[backbreaker]

me and my friends have a phrase... "handcuffing the hoes"

YOu all know what it means... the guy that goes to the club and dances with the girl the entire night and follows her around like she has 1 mil in her purse. The guy that looks at you crazy when you want to dance with her (if you have a girl you care about, wtf are you taking her to the club for anyway)

What's even worse, are guys that are handcuffing these hoes that aren't even theirs!!

You my friend, are handcuffing a girl that wants no part of you. If you are too chicken to make a move, why should your friend not get any ass?

If there is a girl I like and I am too scared to make a move on her, and my friends know I like her, and he ****s her, how can I get mad at him?

 

[zerocelcius]

Originally posted by backbreaker
me and my friends have a phrase... "handcuffing the hoes"

YOu all know what it means... the guy that goes to the club and dances with the girl the entire night and follows her around like she has 1 mil in her purse. The guy that looks at you crazy when you want to dance with her (if you have a girl you care about, wtf are you taking her to the club for anyway)

What's even worse, are guys that are handcuffing these hoes that aren't even theirs!!

You my friend, are handcuffing a girl that wants no part of you. If you are too chicken to make a move, why should your friend not get any ass?

If there is a girl I like and I am too scared to make a move on her, and my friends know I like her, and he ****s her, how can I get mad at him?

YO! I take my girls to the club.

One cause I dj at clubs, and two cause clubs are fun.

If you can't take your girl to the club cause she can't turn down some hard on than ditch that chick anyway. A club isn't just some common breeding ground it is a place to get away from the day to day and dance.

anyway this has nothing to do with the guy upset cause his friend got some from his ROOM-MATE.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by backbreaker
me and my friends have a phrase... "handcuffing the hoes"

YOu all know what it means... the guy that goes to the club and dances with the girl the entire night and follows her around like she has 1 mil in her purse. The guy that looks at you crazy when you want to dance with her (if you have a girl you care about, wtf are you taking her to the club for anyway)

What's even worse, are guys that are handcuffing these hoes that aren't even theirs!!

You my friend, are handcuffing a girl that wants no part of you. If you are too chicken to make a move, why should your friend not get any ass?

If there is a girl I like and I am too scared to make a move on her, and my friends know I like her, and he ****s her, how can I get mad at him?

I was never too scared to make a move, it's just that by what she told me I thought i would set myself up for a fall if i did try anything...she just called me before by the way and said we need to have a really good talk and you hurt me so much last night...I wasn't sure what to say so I said okay.

 

[zerocelcius]

:nono:

 

[zerocelcius]

:cuss:

no no no no no no no no no no nono!

Bad!