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She needs a few days to miss the sex yo!
 

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Personally man I'd think the girl had cheated on me and was feeling guilty or didn't really want to be with me anymore. Anyways there is nothing really to do but just straight up ask her.

I'd be like, "Look I know something is going on you need to talk to me about it before I get the wrong idea". Doesn't mean she would admit to it if she did **** some other guy but it could be something completely harmless as far as it relates to you two. Just make her understand that it is important that she communicate with you and telling you nothing is wrong is insulting your intelligence. I'd rather the girl just say she didn't wanna talk about it.
 
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Dayr0n said:
whats the best way to find out whats really going on
You can do what fluke said but based on my experiences it is best to do the "stealth approach" - send a programmed drone into her path and do some reconnaissance!!!! If you ever saw the cartoon with "Tweety bird" and the cat (old school) - you have to be like the cat that is sliding on the floor with his flattened body roaming about not making a noise to capture tweety bird in a moment of surprise!!!

Once you have more info then you start asking the questions when you know the answers - like a good lawyer does!!

If she knows you go to the clubs on a certain night then that would be the night to do some reconnaissance!!

It sounds sneaky but.... when a girl starts thinking and not saying anything then something is wrong!!!

Titty man, I don't think he's the player type!!
 

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For her to be cheating on me is very hard she is not working right now so when she gets out of school she goes to her house and her grandma is there. She always calls me from her classes and as soon she gets to her house she calls me. She is almost 18 and Im her second bf.
Oh check this out another thing is rounding my head she ironed her hair tonight before I picked her up.
 

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Last Man thats what I would probably do actually as I am great at digging information out without seeming like I am, and sneaking around to find **** out. I just didn't recommend that because, honestly most people aren't very good at it lol, and the original poster didn't seem like he wanted to really sneak around.

If I actually think the girl is cheating on me or there is something else i want to know im not gonna be asking questions to give them hints until I'm confident enough that I can basically act like I know 100% and they usually cave in with whatever it is because I make sure to trap them. My memory is so damn good that months later I can remember tiny little details if the girl is ever talking about it again that sets off alarms if there are any changes.
 
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Dayr0n said:
Oh check this out another thing is rounding my head she ironed her hair tonight before I picked her up.
Hahahaha, this is getting too funny - you are not insecure just a little paranoid! :D

Hmmmmm, it is like a man who never wears cologne then starts putting cologne on and now the girl knows her man is seeing someone else!

You might want to ask Water Tiger this one - I never ironed my hair before. :)

Maybe the ironing is symbolism for ironing out some troubling issues!:rolleyes:
 

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Why are you trying to act like a detective???

Your not a mind reader, so stop acting like one.

Do what you do best - and thats be yourself.

Now, before you jump to all kinds of conclusion's, check for patterns. You bang every day, maybe it's just business as usual, maybe she's fvcking someone else, maybe she's stressed, maybe she thinks you are - and on and on and on.... what good does this do you?

she's not into sex tonight - she's thinking of something else - what's the first thing you do? - finish off, get your nut - then towel off and talk to her.

What I suspect is, that your getting into the next phase of a relationship. Things slow down sex becomes routine to some degree.... So Take a break from her - get some space and cool things down for a week or two and see what happens.

Also, at 22 - you should be readying another plate to being in as a replacement.
 

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It amazes me how much you guys are reading into this, and the answer is so goddam obvious.

If she's thinking about other stuff during sex, the sex is boring. Dayr0n, start doing some different stuff in the sack. Change positions, be aggressive, be gentle, use toys, eat her out, Variety! Variety! Variety! If you need a bit of help, go read Sir_Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques in the tips section.

A woman needs the excitement of not knowing what to expect when the two of you go into the bedroom. Sometimes only you will get off, sometimes only she will get off, sometimes you both will get off, sometimes only oral, sometimes no sex at all - just cuddling. Doing the same thing in the bedroom all the time is like eating pizza every day. It gets boring.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
I think she suspects that YOU are "cheating" by visiting your old ex g/f hangout!! Hmmmmmm, either she is seeing another dude and feels no passion for you or suspects you are screwing another girl and then dipping your dipstick in her afterward you sex another girl!!
Girls usually project their own flaws onto you and compensate for their own guilt.

1) She suspects YOU of cheating...because SHE is cheating.
2) She is being extra-nice to you cuz she feels guilty that she cheated.

You really think she's thinking about her rents' possible divorce when you're boning? More like thinking of that OTHER GUY. If her attention has shifted away...it's generally to another GUY.

I'd be on the lookout for another GUY, cuz I see several red flags here for that.
 

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Dayr0n said:
For her to be cheating on me is very hard she is not working right now so when she gets out of school she goes to her house and her grandma is there. She always calls me from her classes and as soon she gets to her house she calls me. She is almost 18 and Im her second bf.
Oh check this out another thing is rounding my head she ironed her hair tonight before I picked her up.
Hmm, underage eh?

Apart from that, these appear to be signs of an approaching break-up. Not only did she mention being uncomfortable, but afterwards she was lovey-dovey and saying how much you mean to her, etc.. Women go through violent oscillations with their feelings when pondering if they want to be with you, and it never ends well.

On top of that, your gut is telling you something. Everytime in a relationship I got nervous and suspected that something was going on, guess what? Something was going on.

Of course I could be wrong. Regardless, be prepared for this as an outcome.
 

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bang her in the ass now while you have the chance.
 

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wayword said:
Girls usually project their own flaws onto you and compensate for their own guilt.

1) She suspects YOU of cheating...because SHE is cheating.
2) She is being extra-nice to you cuz she feels guilty that she cheated.

You really think she's thinking about her rents' possible divorce when you're boning? More like thinking of that OTHER GUY. If her attention has shifted away...it's generally to another GUY.

I'd be on the lookout for another GUY, cuz I see several red flags here for that.
^^ he has a really good point man, i've been with a few girls that cheat on their bfs and that's how they act. the BEST thing you can do is start distancing yourself. don't TELL her that you're going to distance yourself, just do it with no reason. she'll start to miss you. you gotta really discipline and not give in to the urge to talk to her
 

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She is been extra nice.. actually no she has always been extra nice. Bro I cant get distance from this chick she wants to be next to me all the time is crazy I dont dislike it but thats how it is every time we have the chance we are together all the time is because she wants to.
 
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