weird OKC response..what do i say?

[m0101]

In response to my question about how the website is treating her, she replies (and i quote):

"Horrible...everyone is either trying to get in my pants, or too poor to date me, or i find them unattractive."

usually if a fat, broke br0ad says this i would laugh at the irony. However, she's a smokin' HB8.5, with a decent job. or so she claims.

any smarta$s answers here or should i just ignore and go for the #?

thanks all!

 

[hindsighted]

"well today is your lucky day. When should i pick you up?"

 

[PlayHer Man]

I would tell her she is not that bright. Then I would ask her why most attractive women are not that smart.

She must be a moron if she expects to find George Clooney or Channing Tatum on OKC!!

BTW her little rant is a test to see if you will raise your hand like a typical teachers pet in school and go: "I qualify! I have money! I'm not trying to sleep with you!! Pick me! Pick me!"

 

[Naughty Ninja]

In response to my question about how the website is treating her, she replies (and i quote):

"Horrible...everyone is either trying to get in my pants, or too poor to date me, or i find them unattractive."

usually if a fat, broke br0ad says this i would laugh at the irony. However, she's a smokin' HB8.5, with a decent job. or so she claims.

any smarta$s answers here or should i just ignore and go for the #?

thanks all!

You can't show any sign of defensiveness or "bvtthurt" with anything they say. Just confidence, a bit of humor and mirroring what they say back at them in a "nice" way while going for their number as soon as possible. (She is most likely talking about dudes who look like crap in their pictures and freaks who straight up send obscene messages off the bat like: "Hey babe those lips look like they could suck the chrome off a bumper! Wanna blow me?" and the dudes who try to be the "man" that she has met and don't bring a wallet for coffee".

You might just find if she thinks your attractive and cool enough to not say anything about money if you met for coffee. She's probably talking about dudes who won't even pay for that. You may not even have to go for coffee if you play things right and go to her place or yours to fvck right off the bat.

You really cannot take anyone or anything to heart on there. Treat it like your talking to some dude you just met who's cool to keep your mind off her being hot or misinterperting sh1t she says.


I'd reply:

"Poor, unattractive, guys trying to get in your pants? Reminds me of the time I volunteered at the homeless shelter and had my wallet, car keys, and pack of Chiclets lifted. lol. I know what you mean. I know a few chicks on here who say the same things you did. I'm not on here much to be honest. Feel free to give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. =) (your real first name)

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Here's my typical reply when I get this message:

I'll agree with her, usually along the lines of: I know what you mean, I have a few friends who joined and they are being messaged by the weirdest guys, it's actually hilarious!

And I'll add:

1) So what brought you to this site in the first place?

OR

2) Anyways I just joined recently and you seem like a pretty cool girl, why don't you give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime

If I add #1, next message I reply to her answer and add #2

I'm pretty much using Naughty Ninja's techniques

OP...Or same thing Parad0x uses above. Pretend to know other chicks on the site who agree with her and you laugh with them at the crap other dudes send chicks.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

her respopnse is kind of a red flag to me. She seems like the type who loves to stir up drama.

I would keep my response very brief. Make her reach, and whatever you do, don't try to convince her that you're a "good guy."

I would respond with "O-kaaaay"

Make her feel sort of stupid and see if she reaches and responds back to that.

No point in worrying about red flags with online "dating". You aren't trying to wife those chicks up. Just meet and fvck or other "fun" activities. They all have red flags. Which is why you play along with them and get the number as soon as possible. meet smash and keep it moving.

It may sound messed up and contradictory if you're looking for a good chick but if you're using online "dating" you are either just looking for lays or if you are looking for a "wife" you're going to have serious problems and you might as well just look in real life and close your accounts. There are no chicks using online dating that are wife material. Dosen't mean some dudes aren't wifing or trying to wife them up but there are people doing that in dive bars and trailor parks too.

There's a reason certain chicks need and use online dating. And it's not good.No matter what the cover story is.

 

[incognito42]

Her response is kind of a red flag to me. She seems like the type who loves to stir up drama.

I would keep my response very brief. Make her reach, and whatever you do, don't try to convince her that you're a "good guy."

I would respond with "O-kaaaay"

Make her feel sort of stupid and see if she reaches and responds back to that.

No kidding. Her respOnse is a huge turnoff for me. I hate chicks who have a list of demands that include material things, before ever interacting with a guy. Lucky for you, you SHOULD be ONLY trying to get laid so reply with what NN or paradox said.

Her response is VERY typical.

 

[m0101]

Thanks a lot for the response, guys. tremendously helpful!


PlayHer Man - Makes sense. I guess the common theme is not to be quick to "validate" myself based on the "criteria" she laid out, just brush it aside and go for the #.

NN/Parad0x - thanks for the guideline. NN, your retort just cracked me up! :crackup: Will use something very similar. was even thinking of starting my reply with a slight jab, telling her "I hear you; And I keep running into a lot of women here with unreasonable expectations".

Espi - agreed. won't try to qualify myself at all..thanks.

incognito42 - Tell me about it. it is pretty off-putting. i can only imagine how much of a pain-in-the-bvtt she'll be if/once we get together.

thanks again all!

 

[m0101]

So she just responded - "I actually do not date men who are not white. It's a matter of personal preference. It was good chatting with you"

haha. I don't blame her for having preferences based on race/ethnicity, I get that. But why trade 3 emails with someone you know you're not interested in right off the bat? are you thaaat bored?! LOL

 

[Naughty Ninja]

NN/Parad0x - thanks for the guideline. NN, your retort just cracked me up! :crackup: Will use something very similar. was even thinking of starting my reply with a slight jab, telling her "I hear you; And I keep running into a lot of women here with unreasonable expectations".

Thanks again all!

Any slight "jab" unless she's already indicated in her email replies that she finds you hot can and will be taken as a blow to online chicks fragile egos. Whether they knew you were joking or not. If she didn't allude to finding you hot any jab will cause them to block/disappear etc.

You have to play the game till you meet and get some cookie. Try to restrain from having a go at them. Most simply and plainly cannot take it.

You have to gas their heads up slightly and not go overboard. Shmooze them a bit to get the meet. That is unless they indicate they find you hot as hell and then you can practically say whatever you want to them and they'll eat it up.

m0101: So she just responded - "I actually do not date men who are not white. It's a matter of personal preference. It was good chatting with you"

haha. I don't blame her for having preferences based on race/ethnicity, I get that. But why trade 3 emails with someone you know you're not interested in right off the bat? are you thaaat bored?! LOL

I'd send one last reply: I don't date or meet guys who aren't white nor guys period either for that matter. I'd do prefer to meet cute chicks. Now you play nice and give me your number so I can call you sometime or else I'm pulling the racist card. lol (Your real name)



she most likely won't give it but you just have to learn how to play the game back and forth with chicks online and build up a thick skin not caring about anyone or anything on there. You at least got replies from a chick who doesn't date non white dudes.

Think of it this way. She responded to you and most likely has unread deleted countless amount of white dudes who wrote her. The more you learn to play that online shizz the closer you get to numbers, then meets, then lays till it becomes boring and or overwhelming.

 

[Trump]

In response to my question about how the website is treating her, she replies (and i quote):

"Horrible...everyone is either trying to get in my pants, or too poor to date me, or i find them unattractive."

she's a smokin' HB8.5, with a decent job. or so she claims.

any smarta$s answers here or should i just ignore and go for the #?

If she's upset people are trying to get into her pants, she is getting plowed by her bf every night and using the site as an ego fix. She wants a guy to feed her ego but suppress his sexual desires.

She is already blaming guys for not feeding her ego, I would say "You should go meet some guys in bars."

 

[Bokanovsky]

Here's my typical reply when I get this message:

I'll agree with her, usually along the lines of: I know what you mean, I have a few friends who joined and they are being messaged by the weirdest guys, it's actually hilarious!

Supplication is never a good strategy. By saying that, you are letting her set the frame of your initial interaction (i.e. her being a victim of "terrible" men that message her online), which implies that you have to prove yourself as not being one of these men.

By the way, women love to complain about men they speak to on dating sites. They'll take one or two negative incidents (like some guy, who was probably trolling to begin with, sending her a sleazy message) and blow them out of proportion to make it sound like 90% of all men on dating sites are creeps. It's a kind of a sh*t test really, and you fail it by trying to appease her (she knowns that she's exaggerating, and you make yourself sound like an @ss-licking beta by pretending to agree with her).

When a woman starts whining about being messaged by sleazy dudes, I usually cut her whining short either by making a joke ("Yeah, I'm kind of in the same boat...it seems most women here only want sex") or by pointing out that things aren't much better from a man's standpoint, as most women on dating sites are attention wh0res looking for an ego boost.

Also, I would recommend against asking the "how is this site treating you" question in the frist place. It's a question that invites a negative response. Think about it. If the site was treating her well, she would have already met someone and deleted her account. It's much better to ask "what are you looking for on this site?"

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Supplication is never a good strategy. By saying that, you are letting her set the frame of your initial interaction (i.e. her being a victim of "terrible" men that message her online), which implies that you have to prove yourself as not being one of these men.

By the way, women love to complain about men they speak to on dating sites. They'll take one or two negative incidents (like some guy, who was probably trolling to begin with, sending her a sleazy message) and blow them out of proportion to make it sound like 90% of all men on dating sites are creeps. It's a kind of a sh*t test really, and you fail it by trying to appease her (she knowns that she's exaggerating, and you make yourself sound like an @ss-licking beta by pretending to agree with her).

When a woman starts whining about being messaged by sleazy dudes, I usually cut her whining short either by making a joke ("Yeah, I'm kind of in the same boat...it seems most women here only want sex") or by pointing out that things aren't much better from a man's standpoint, as most women on dating sites are attention wh0res looking for an ego boost.

Also, I would recommend against asking the "how is this site treating you" question in the frist place. It's a question that invites a negative response. Think about it. If the site was treating her well, she would have already met someone and deleted her account. It's much better to ask "what are you looking for on this site?"

The bold is a great reply. I've done that a few times. lol.

As for the "How's the site been teating you?" I've never found a chick not reply to it.

They can't help but "complain" about online dating which is when you can reply: "Yeah, I'm kindof in the same boat as you. I'm always getting hit up by the 50 shades of Grey crowd. Feel free to give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime instead of emailing back and forth. (your real first name) =)"

I'm willing to play the game for about four emails tops. Then I'm thinking it's basically hand over your number or fvck off toots. No time to waste. Let someone else go into long email conversations and eventually "possibly" get his "prize". lol

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I must ask, why does any self-respecting man fight for the attention of a girl who is nothing more than a waste of skin and oxygen? Who cares what she likes or what response will get you her #. She's useless and good for nothing, not even sex. The amount of trouble you get is not worth it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

As for the "How's the site been teating you?" I've never found a chick not reply to it.

They reply to it, but it's an invitation for them to b*tch and moan, and it turns the conversation towards a negative subject, which should be avoided when trying to build rapport.

 

[( . )( . )]

usually if a fat, broke br0ad says this i would laugh at the irony. However, she's a smokin' HB8.5, with a decent job. or so she claims.

I call shenanigans. Since when has a chick who's 85% perfect (a bold claim btw) ever needed to use internet dating? There has to be something about her repelling the men she wants.