Weird day... ex GF, and baby's momma...

[TheLadiesMan]

Went out to dinner with my son, and his momma... it was nice, I wanted to see my son more than anything. Nice conversation, etc. She still turns me on like no other woman.

Returned to work... ex GF, who I work with, is trying her best to get me jealous since she found out I was trying to get with two lipstick lesbos, who I also work with.

I kinda felt she still had feelings for me, since we broke up. You know, catching her looking at me from a far, trying to make mindless chit chat, etc. She's a freakn knockout, used to be a model and ****. I have to say that the time we spent together last summer was fun. The sex was off the hook, we both came a lot. It was suppose to be a one night thing, and no one else is to know, and she freakn swore it would be one time.... she lied, and next thing I know, she's dropping by baby's momma's house looking for me, which set my relationship with the baby's momma, back about a year. Anyway, I've been trying to patch things up with BM, still no sex from her... but the ex.. tonight as I was leaving work, I ran into her on my way out, and I could have tossed her on the nearest desk and just fvcked her, brutally. Just the look, the conversation... didn't really have "feelings" for her back then, but I'm starting to. Maybe I'm just being horny, or this is another one of God's tests, I dunno.

I just know that if I don't get some soon, I'm going to bug.

Again, if she didn't have feelings for me, she wouldn't be trying so hard to make me jealous (which I don't get, because I know how to fvck her right, and those other guys don't. )

I just got to maintain, right?

 

[MacAvoy]

I think your lack of options is causing you to chase old flames out of desparation. You need to act decisively, forget about BM for now, that will always be there and you'll know if there is a right time again. As for the ex at work, make a move, call her and ask her if she wants to get together, its a simple yes or no either way.

Then start cold approaching and get new options, its that simple. Stop chasing the past.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

Got into work today, and as soon as she came in, she went right up to me, and asked me about last night. I played it cool, and came off as not really interested. I suggested to her an old flame, and that set her off, and she called me a name (not going to mention it) but I replied "Don't talk to me like that... I'm the rock star, remember?" she smirked and walked off. I know, I'm an ego maniac.

Throughout the day, she kept popping up, more than usual. Not really saying anything, just eye balling me, sometimes mean muggin me. lol!

Towards the end of the day, as I was going on break, guess who just happens to be standing there... her and the old flame, that I had mentioned earlier. I couldn't help but chuckle. She had told me one time what a horrible fvck he was, and that he was only capable of giving her just 7 pumps before busting a nut. She had also told me she hadn't been fvcked hard for a long time. I laughed and told her I can give her 9 of the best pumps she'll ever have in her life.

You have to understand, we were together for only half a summer, and we fvcked all the time. We fvkced till me blacked out. This woman exploded, for real. Neighbors complained. We joked, and laughed, and fvcked some more.

When I told her it was over, she cried. I was like whoa! ...and ever since then she has hated me. She truly hates me still, but at the same time, because she loves sex, she still craves time with me, but I think her anger, and hate, mixed in with women stubborness, and she's just too proud to come back to me, which is another reason I find her very attractive. I think she wants ME to beg, but I'm not sure.

Last hr of work, and there she was, plain view, like no other time, staring at me from a far. She could be...

A. Planning to kill me. Or...
B. Thinking of us together, which was what I was thinking.

BM means a lot to me. I still love her very much, even though I'm sure she has another man in her life. Still, she'll make time to go to dinner with me, etc.

Oye... I just want some freakn sex. This has got to be one of God's jokes.
, and he's up there laughing hard.

 

[KontrollerX]

Pretty good story TLM.

Might as well give it to the ex gf since thats the least amount of resistance.

 

[MacAvoy]

You failed to take my advice and all you did was spend another 8 hours pining over a women. How is that going to get you ahead?

 

[TheLadiesMan]

None of my time is ever wasted. I take it as the cards are dealt to me, sometimes I win, sometimes I lose. *shrugs* ...I don't sweat it. Think of it as a learning experience. Nice advice, but I'm just looking for feedback on how the ex is thinkin, and what would be the best move, without coming off too strong.

 

[MacAvoy]

They want you to be a man and make a move, not be an AFC and dance around the issue. Read the bible.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

When you're really not pressed to make any moves, you are in turn, making your move. I don't need a "bible" to tell me otherwise. I know how to put it down. I'm not "dancing around the issues" more than I'm just not laying down my cards just yet, big difference. By not showing my hand, I'm coming off more as a mystery to them. I think you have to understand that these women, are the female version of a DJ. In fact, baby's momma is a walking DJ encyclopedia.

...and since women are so freakn different in thinking, you have to examine sometimes, their moves to make a move. For every move aka attempt that they make, you reveal a little bit more about your plans to them. Trust me, I'm a pimp, I know about these things. Figuring out what they are thinking, is the tough part, because it's all in womenese, and sometimes it's as plain as day, but written in binary code. lol!

Like I said, I know how to put it down, it's just the relationship thing that is tough to me. This is why I am careful not to just give them what they want... a clear answer (right) to their multi-binary code questions.

In the end, at the very least, I'll get da pvssy... but what I really want right now, is a LTR with one woman, and right now, they both are going thru TLM interviewing stage. Do ya feel me?

 

[MacAvoy]

Trust me, I'm a pimp, I know about these things.

I didn't know PIMPS chase not 1 but 2 exes. I thought pimps told multiple girls what to do

but what I really want right now, is a LTR with one woman, and right now, they both are going thru TLM interviewing stage. Do ya feel me?

Second mistake, if your actively seeking an LTR, your going to come across as an AFC, needy. If you ever read the bible, you know, you make the women force you into an LTR.

You need to get back to the basics. I don't deny you've probably gotten lots of pvssy but a DJ doesn't spend his time chasing two OLD flames instead of having new plates to spin.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

First off, I ain't chasing nobody, I'm being chased by women I've been with, aka ex's. Don't believe me? ...just ask my son. At the very least, they were excellent fvcks, so I don't mind them chasing me, or thinking about being with me. I can see how this is confusing you, as you may not have ever had this happen to you.

Secondly, wanting a LTR is not coming off needy. Again, I think this is confusing you as I never said I "needed" a LTR, but I "want" a LTR. No one forces me into sh*t. I pick and choose. I ain't going to make no "woman force me into a LTR." FVCK THAT!

Thirdly, I'm a grown a$$ man, with a kid, and I'm kinda tired of the single scene. I WANT one to share my time with. I don't want one woman to go to the zoo with my son and I, and one to go to the pool with, and one to go to the movies with, and one to go to the clubs with, and one to fvck, and one to be a friend. I just want one, for all of those things. If God feels that I'm ready to do the LTR thing again, it'll happen.

Until then, my focus is on one person, and that's my 3 year old son, period. He needs me more right now than any woman, and he comes first before any woman, and that's real talk.

I appreciate your replys but please, remember that I am TLM. I've been there, done it. (hate that saying... but true) I don't spend endless hrs posting on a forum, as you can see by comparing our post counts and dates. I drop in when I feel I can use other's opinions on situations that I hope, they may know about. *shrugs* Example... The last woman I dated was a model... a freakn model. How many guys can say that? That is why I come to these forums. Maybe somebody on here has, and knows how to deal with their a$$es.

 

[MacAvoy]

If your really TLM, then why are you pining over this chick, spending your time wondering about her, & more importantly wanting an LTR when you said this about her in your first post

she lied, and next thing I know, she's dropping by baby's momma's house looking for me,

To me, it sounds like she's got some serious issues and you want an LTR with her. Pull your head out of your azz and quit trying to rationalize why you should pine over here.

Like I said earlier, either make a move or move on.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

If your really TLM, then why are you pining over this chick, spending your time wondering about her, & more importantly wanting an LTR when you said this about her in your first post



To me, it sounds like she's got some serious issues and you want an LTR with her. Pull your head out of your azz and quit trying to rationalize why you should pine over here.

Like I said earlier, either make a move or move on.

They all have serious issues dude, don't you know this already?......

If I show interest in her, or them it's because at the very least, they are fun in bed. Why throw away something you know, works? Sure, I could go and find others, but why? I have beautiful women in my life now. I don't need to go out and see who's who.. or what they may have to offer, good and bad.
Like I said, I'm done with the single scene, at least for now. I want a LTR, a little more stability in my life. Until then, I'll focus on my son, who needs me more. If my ex's want to sleep with me, and are trying to get with me, that's just bonus... I'm not hard pressed for it.

Like I said, I appreciate your replies and all bro, but I'm really looking for pimps who may have and or, currently going thru the same situation as me.
Do you have a kid that you are purely focused on? Do you have ex's that want to get back in da sack with you, but are too proud to beg? No? Then please, maintain and let someone else help, cuz it really seems you are just trying to be condescending, and nothing more.

 

[MacAvoy]

Bro, I've been in your position and your heading down the wrong path. If your trying to sex your BM, then you have to remember that women aren't hard wired the same way guys are, they can't just have sex with a guy, especially if she has a kid with him. Your fvcking her up even more by sleeping with her and your kid in the end as well. Just leave her alone.

You keep going back to it cuz your a lazy hunter and want an easy piece. Or your still in love with the past and tryin to make something work that isn't going to. Your split up for a reason, a kid has never been enough to make a relationship work, millions before you have tried.

Quit pining over these two exes and find some new quality women that you can be with. But I think you need to take a time out and take some time for yourself.

 

[shop until I die!]

I'd say just stick it hard to the ex again and pull the plug immediately thereafter.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

Bro, I've been in your position and your heading down the wrong path. If your trying to sex your BM, then you have to remember that women aren't hard wired the same way guys are, they can't just have sex with a guy, especially if she has a kid with him. Your fvcking her up even more by sleeping with her and your kid in the end as well. Just leave her alone.

You keep going back to it cuz your a lazy hunter and want an easy piece. Or your still in love with the past and tryin to make something work that isn't going to. Your split up for a reason, a kid has never been enough to make a relationship work, millions before you have tried.

Quit pining over these two exes and find some new quality women that you can be with. But I think you need to take a time out and take some time for yourself.

Ok, maybe you do know my situation after all. Good read bud, thanks.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

Not a big deal. I've dated a few models. Sh*t. I have a few in the family, both male and female. It's rare to get the LTR playing all that game in these circles. You do it for sex, you do it for the connections that can be had from it, but an LTR, if that's what you really want, is the kind of thing you're better off changing the female mold for...so to speak.

My cousin, he hops the big cities back and forth because of his work. Entertainment kind of thing, a little acting, mostly modeling: LA, Vegas, NYC... He's always tied up with a few of these brauds at a time and he's miserable. He's like you, just wants some stable sh*t with a woman that isn't half-****ed and psycho. The guy is always chasing the highest skirt line, but he's also always talking about getting married and I've got to keep slapping him to. LOL.

I'm going to tell you the same thing I told him; the same thing I've done for myself years ago: If you want fun, if you want sex, if you want fast, stick with these types and have your way with them. If you want something serious and stable, stay the f*ck away from brauds in entertainment, i.e., modeling, acting...any of it. Go business. Go find yourself a classier piece of ass with a college degree and a European scrap book. If you can toss one of these on a table and f*ck them, then you'll probably have something closer to what you're looking for.

Thank you LJC, I see the light now.. I think this is what MacAvoy was trying to say too.

 

[TheLadiesMan]

I'd say just stick it hard to the ex again and pull the plug immediately thereafter.

That's what I would do too. .. if she ever to approach me again for sex.