We were on a break....

[Legend]

me and my girl were on a break this summer and we have gotten back together this semester. She tells me she fvcked her ex bf once over the summer. Do i be mad now? How the fvck do i play this?

-Any comments are welcomed

 

[Legend]

bump

How would you guys handle this? It makes me see red and almost gets me sick. The tail is good, but i put up with so much of her ****.

 

[honeyshark]

I have never been in this situation, so my advice here is on the theoretical level only. Plus, it would help if you gave more information like why you took a break, how long you have been together, what kind of break it was, etc.

If you don't break up with her, I think the best bet for you would to not get mad at all. Keep your feelings to yourself and pretend you don't care while intimating that perhaps you did something similar (like fvcked your ex) over the relationship break. You were, after all, not going out at the time, so its not like she did anything wrong. Depending upon how you display your anger, it may show jealousy and insecurity.

You say that the tail is good, then here is an option. Try to "emotionally next her". Like, stop caring and cherishing her and all that but still keep her around for the tail. Emotionally cold? Perhaps. But if you are sick of her shiet, this is the best protection for you. Besides, if you guys took a break in the first place and she fvcked her ex (depending upon the circumstances) I don't see good things in the future of your relationship. You are probably destined for a break-up anyway.

Still, I think the board needs more information in order to offer better advice.

Peace.

 

[the_great_gaia]

anger kills us

I wouldn't listen to what she says...

Never listen to what she said about that, maybe she's testing you, she probably thinks that you have been fvcking one of ur exes. She wants to hear you admit it, and she expects you to say it, and out of response, you may even feel like you wanna say it, but don't. Girls play all kinds of games, don't fall into her web. Just be like whatever, and lower your IL in her until she cracks like an ice cube!

 

[the_great_gaia]

Think About It..

She couldn't have fvcked her ex seriously, because if she did, she wouldn't want you to find out, let alone, tell you herself. Then again, she might, but only if she sees you as a tampons to bleed on. Does she even care about you or is she setting you up?? Look at both of these perspectives. payce.

 

[Slickster]

See below.

 

[Slickster]

News flash!

She f*cked him more than once. She's telling you "once" to save your feelings. Anyway at least she was honest enough to admit it.

How to handle it???

Well, you were on a break so she has done nothing wrong. If you weren't screwing anyone else you should've been.

I sympathize with your plight but there is nothing you can do except eat that big sh!t sandwich you've been served.

Take it for what it is. The 2 of you couldn't have been that serious anyway. Hence the break. So what I'm saying is, she's probably not going to be your last gf, so enjoy her while you can.

Beware though, she'd go back to her ex again (no doubt about it)so don't take anything with her seriously.

She definately doesn't have you in her long term plans.

 

[Legend]

The only reason this convo came up was because she thinks i am seeing all these other girls. I started seeing one and she is always asking me about her. I saw the other girl this friday and then when she found out she calls her ex and hangs out with him on sunday. We have been on and off for over a year.

She says that she feel like she should be with her ex because she was with him all 4 years of high school. She says shes not attracted to him physically and he is not good looking. She said how can she have a future with someone that is is not attracted too.

I just say...you can do what you want. Today me and her are meeting up after classes, so i am going to try and be real smooth and try to fvck her brains out. She said one thing that she has never said before which was "its seems like we are in slow motion". I dont know what that means....does she want more of me, or less? She gets pissed when i dont call her back......i dont want to be like her ex that calls her non stop.

I am going to take me and her for what it is worth. This is'nt the girl i am going to marry, this is'nt the girl i am going to have kids with, and this is'nt the girl i am going to spend my life with. Shes just around to spend time with now and to practice on.

Its hard not getting attracted to her because at one point i have truly cared about her. This is'nt the only girl i can get i am pretty good looking guy that has a lot of offer.

To tell you all the truth it would be easier if i never met this girl...i regret the day she came up to me to talk.

 

[chlywly]

Yeah I don't see good things for your future at all lol judge by the fact you had to take a break and she has sex with her ex?? ex of all people, not a good sign at all...

Meh next

 

[NewMan]

No big deal...

Legend...

This is a little strange. Why? Because you were on a break. Did you both talk about not having sex with other people? if not you can't get mad of pissed at her. In fact you should have been taking this time to go out there and get some new puss and figure out if you want to be in a relationship with this girl - that what breaks are all about.

Don't get mad at her for what she did. it's only you that matters. Did you figure out whether you want to get back together with her? or do you just want the poon?. Be honest with her, and tell her exactly what YOU want.

There's a couple of scenarios working here.

1) She F'd her ex.

Maybe she banged him. She may have banged him because she figured you were out banging other chicks - so she got some to - and the easiest place to get it for her was her ex.

OR, Maybe she banged him because she felt the need to see him again and it just happened. No biggy. One off.

2) She didn't Fvck her ex.

So why would she tell you she did? Well to get a reaction from you. To show you that other guys want her. To make you jealous. Or perhaps she told you to protect herself. She figured you were banging others, so she didn't want you to think that she wasn't active and you were the only one having the fun. It's easy to lie about F;ing ex's, because your not going to check up on it are you?

Bottom line - she's trying to get a reaction out of you whatever way you cut it. Ignore it. If you want her, move on - if you don't hit it and next it.

 

[the_great_gaia]

i said it once and i'll say it again.. she's setting you up with those emo-tests. She just want to hear you say you've been fvcking one of your exes. Women always want a man to say what she wants to hear; women always wanna be right.

She doesn't trust you, for a reason unknown. But she doesn't, not when it comes to that. Just tease her about it and beat around the bush if she ever confronts you about it, that's when the sparks start flying. Other than that, just pretend she never told you.

 

[Legend]

bump

Thanks for all the reply's....yeah she broke up with me

We did'nt have break up sex or nothing.....I guess the way not to act is like you care about her.

And the pile gets bigger as i get dumped again.

I really dont care because she was'nt that great and plus she caused me more headaches then i want.

Whatever.....**** happens i am took it like a man.



I guess something is wrong with me

 

[Slickster]

Originally posted by Legend
I guess something is wrong with me

No way Legend! You are just feeling the pain of rejection.

You're way ahead of the game here.

Think of it this way. You knew deep down that this wasn't the girl of your dreams. If things were so great between you then you wouldn't of had a break. She was as you said earlier - practice. Nothing more. Maybe you liked the sex and will miss somethings about hanging around with her but you can easily replace her.

She has done you a big favor. Now you don't have to stress about hurting her feelings or breaking it off with her. She's gone thru the trouble for you and it will be her wondering in the future whether or not she has made a mistake.

You know the drill. Suck it up, forget her, and move on up.

 

[Slickster]

Oops double post.

 

[daredevil]

Originally posted by Legend

I guess something is wrong with me

Yes! there is surely something wrong with you!

Wanna know why?



Just because you still care for someone who doesn't give a flying **** about you!
Period!
Listen to yourself:

To tell you all the truth it would be easier if i never met this girl...i regret the day she came up to me to talk.

And I tell you how you're going to handle it:

Buy yourself Justin's Timberlake CD and...

Just kidding


Cut all contacts with her! No texting /calling /receiving calls / AIM NOTHING!!! FOREVER!
I know its easier said than done but keep in mind you can do so much better than her! Let her feel the pain you are temporairly feeling now!

She is so fvcken over!

Keep your head up!

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Quit being such a little sissy about meaningless sh*t!

Treat womens emotions as non-existent. Who gives a f*ck about the games she is trying to play. Ignore them and deal with her on your own terms. If she doesn't like it, tell her to f*ck off. Quit being manipulated by such a needed b*tch. Step up to the plate.

 

[Legend]

thats for all the input guys. It just sucks being dumped for no reason. I saw a picture of the guy she fvcked...what a ugly guy this dude is. Sorta made me feel better knowing i am better then her ex. I dont really care about this lil wh*re any longer.

I have to much to lose by staying with her....i dont understand though while we were breaking up all we did was make out and shyt. Then shes like...dont be mad.

I just cant wait until i see her out and i gotta a new hottie around my arm.

Things come around

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by Legend
Do i be mad now?

Zuh?

Ok, first of all, we can't tell you how to control your emotions. This is how you handle it next time, if there is a next time, regardless of whether it bothers you or not:

HER: "I F*cked my ex once over the summer..."

YOU: "Only once? Why did you stop?.... <she starts to answer> Shhhh, the game's on!"

 

[glowstix]

who cares

who cares.move on geta clue