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The other day I got a phone call from a girl I know. Id consider her an 8 and she has a kid. She asked if I wanted to go to a wedding. I figured what the hell. I partied the last few days and I needed a change. I was sick of just doin the same thing over and over. I was supposed to go to this huge kegger but I was like **** it. I didnt even need to wear anything nice: Just blue jeans and a white tee shirt. She didnt care at all what I wore but she wanted company. Her boyfriend, didnt exactly like the idea I guess. From what she's sayin he was like "**** Pedro if thats all I care" which I replied "Yeah, now hes got the right idea." Anyways, I guess theyve been having disputes for quite some time.

I decided to do something different for a change. I know Ive been a DJ for some time, but Ive always emphasized on getting a date or whatever. These last few days, I just felt like changing things up. I decided for my goal to be to make people feel good. I mean to make somebody enjoy themselves, to laugh, and to have a great ****in time. I want to say...this has probably been one of the best times I ever had with a girl.

She finally comes to my place and the first thing I do is go to her son Noah. I go and scratch him behind the neck and he's smiling. Then I tickle his ear. He already seems to have a strong liking to me which ****in rocks. Kids really are great if youre around the good ones like him. Well, I find out were in a hurry. Were an hour away and we got to be at this wedding in an hour, and she doesnt know where this place is. Im like "This is gonna be interesting...." I also was thinking about food because I didnt eat all day. Then she says that she wants to go to Mickey D's for food on the way which made me burst out in a splee of joy. I find out none of us have eaten all day and its about 3:00 in the afternoon.

So were on our way with our food. Were just talking about anything and everything. I dont remember a thing to really describe conversationwise besides making fun of eachother and acting like Im gonna toss fries with barbeque sauce at Noah. I also had attempted to throw Noah's happymeal toy out the window in a McNugget box. I dunno what else to really say about the ride but she was smiling a lot at me by the time we found our way there on time.

We make it to the wedding...and by this time Noah is loving me to death and Anna (his mother/the girl with me) notices. While the whole cerimony is going on he is trying to tickle me or grab a hold of me whatever while I scratch the back of his neck and of course it ends up to the point of him laying down on his mom and me. It seems kinda creepy but I actually felt like a father to him for the rest of the night.

At the reception there were all these little girls chasing after Noah. Anna and I just kinda watched how he went from one little girl to the next and one girl actually kisses him. We managed to get a couple pictures of him running off with a few girls. He's kinda like a little Cassanova...and we were cheering him on the entire time. After awhile though he got tired so he literally drug me in a corner underneath a table and made a wall out of chairs to keep us away from the girls, including his Mom. He's only 3 and it just seemed amazing that he constructed his own little fortress.

We finally head on our way home and then well...Anna asked me about making a stop at the park by the river. Im like "It's pretty ****en nice...and Im not in a hurry either. What the hell?" So we get outside and its a beautiful night by the river. The moon is out. There's a nice breeze...and we play in the park. Of course I push Anna and her kid on the merrygoround and we all sit on the big swing by the river. I finally get worn out about about an hour whatever so we head out on our way again.

Im sitting there and we start talking about her boyfriend...and how theyre having disputes about stuff. I wont get into detail. I mention to her about how I wasnt happy either with my past relationship so I ended it...and maybe she should too if its really that bad. She goes on to talk more about her son and how its just all about discipline with this guy and how he never seems to enjoy time with her son which I could never understand it. Noah is by far just awesome. I described how I just wanted somebody who could fulfill my needs physically, emotionally, and sexually and the reasons why I broke up with my gf (didnt put out, crazy parents, blew me off, etc) By the time I end up by my apartment shes tells me about her bf only being a few weeks older than me, her kid really really like me which is very different, she definately wants to do something again, and that she's a nympho and she cant get enough sex. Which I reply...."Okay...":) She tells me she doesnt know why shes saying this. Of course I tell her that a lot of girls just trust me with a lot of personal things and that theyre comfortable around me. I told her "This is definately one of the best times Ive ever had and I dont wanna leave. But there will be more times like this." By the time I was done with what I had to say she was smiling so hard and her eyes were so big. Yeah, Noah was already passed out but thats cool. What I set out to do was infact such a great outcome anyway.

I felt so good because I know she had such a great time, and I had a great time making her feel good. Its like I did something right for one a DJ...but more importantly for me. It made me happy, a great feeling any AFC could cherish. This alone has become the most important lesson for me. I wasnt a doormat. I made fun of her, she joined in on me, we found excuses to stay together a little longer by going somewhere else, and we talked long due after I was in my parking lot. Sorry no sex....but if things turn out that way thats cool. She really is a great person and so is her kid.

If ya got anything out of my story its this: Making people feel good is just attractive if its done the right way. See you guys later. Im going to bed.
 

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Oh, I got plenty out of your story, but nothing that really shakes my foundations. That is, every hot chick is a potential hot lay... Its nice to see you having such gay fun that you almost forgot to game her into the sack (what you were put on earth to do)... but apparently that's not what matters to you..... but me think it does!!! Sure its a nice mentality to have to excuse the lack of action, but thats the wrong mentality.

Anyway, she is a chick with a relationship on the downward spiral, and that makes her vulnerable. Your chances are definitely improved as she is open to any good stimulation she can get that is being denied from her current bf. But remember, she will onlu fcuk a lover, not a provider, so go easy on the kid...
 

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Dude you may be wasting your time here, alot of the new guys don't understand balance and the idea that it all comes from within.

That said, a few years ago a friend of mine gave me the best advice I have ever gotten on dealing with people, he simply said enjoy people for who they are, not what they can give you or who you want them to be.

My life changed that day. I focused my energy on trying to learn who the people around me where and like you say on making myself a pleasant person to be around.

As for this friend, make sure you are interested in her for the right reasons, sounds to me like you are feeling the instinct to be a father and you need to get laid. You may be thinking that she fulfills those roles nicely.
 

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if you can memorize this and accept it then, you will be at peace with yourself:

not everyone in this world/life is going to like you in that certain way which you want them to, for whatever reason (e.g. looks, personality, behaviour, money etc.)
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Every thing you are saying Mac Diddy is valid. Sex is on my mind. I wouldnt mind boning her. Personally...I have just one objection to boning her and thats the fact that she had a bf and kind of a psycho of a boyfriend. I mean if youve ever dealt with these type you would definately understand me here. It sucks I know....but I always keep my options open for other girls. Always. Its no contest though that I do want to do something with her and her kid again. No getting that past a guy like you.

It must seem scary to you that a guy like me can be open with girls about anything, have fun, still have the urge to want to bone her and still have the attraction there. When the attraction is there....everything else is irrelevant. I mean do I really have to take initiative in a situation that doesnt permit it? Itd be kinda weird being in the back seat while her son is tryin to sleep man. I mean with that and her having a bf....dontcha think I just maybe/probably/did make the connection that I was looking for...maybe what most guys look for when they want to be in a great relationship?

I made a girl enjoy herself...thats "all" I wanted to do (once again for yoursake...yes it would be nice to bone her man:up: ) and it ended up being so much better than that. I learned something more useful. She was comfortable around me, she could relax, I could relax, and I could say anything and shed love me for it nomatter how ****y or arrogant I was. Yeah, the kid and everything was part of my story because it was my situation (It was different) and I wanted to be honest with everybody here. There are people out here who are dating girls with kids and it ought to be brought up in the big picture cuz there are a lot of single hot mothers out there wantin some. Yeah, there are plenty who dont have kids but who knows what kind of mothers some of them could be. This almost makes me sound like I endorse single mothers...but Im just tryin to bring out good points about them. Some of them really can be great people. I really think youve got a whole different gameset and it seems almost pointless to go on with this. For everyone else though I want to explain the rest.

According to David D.: "Approximately 85 to 90 percent of all males would prefer to have a great relationship givin the detail situation." (Meaning...we find a girl that gives us what we want.) From what Mac Diddy's telling me...I know he gets plenty of girls, but does he have anything meaningful with a particular one? Maybe he's still looking for someone like that possibly or not at all. Im looking for girls like that...and I have no problem if any of you think otherwise or if you just want sex with a bunch of girls. I mean I got out of HS, I went to war, and I feel like Im like 27 after its all said and done. So alot of you my age will think "ARE YOU ****ING CRAZY MOA!!" Its just that I feel like Id rather be in a good relationship and until I find somebody like that which I havent for sure (she hasnt proven herself fulfilling quite yet) then I will continue to keep looking like alot of us do for that kind of girl that will enjoy you for the authentic you and "being who you are"...and no Im not talking about being a doormat. If you got questions about the last thing I said...PM me and Ill be more than willing to explain. Its not the same thing as being the typical "nice guy." I respect everybodies input. Thankyou.
 
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