Make-up and clothing, but particularly facial make-up, is also part of this.
A woman will dress up her face so you won't know her real her. It is much less likely for a man to be manipulated by a woman who wears no make-up, than by a woman who does.
Without makeup you suddenly see she is a normal person (like you).
We have these images of hot women being somehow superhuman. But women have the same idiocy around men.
The woman who dresses up KNOWS she is not really like that. So, she becomes desperately afraid of being seen for who she REALLY is.
The thing I am always most after with a woman is knowing her flaws and her weaknesses that she is hard to admit. Because those flaws and weaknesses make you human, and a human is someone you can love and who is not above you.
There is not a single person alive who is less human and less flawed than you are.
And this is your liberation, always. Seeing a person for who he/she really is devoids you of any feelings of inferiority, because it is all fake. Your inferiority is fake. Her superiority is fake. She is not better than you just because she looks hot. That is the outward appearance. Inside she feels vulnerable. Inside she cries when someone calls her a *****. [That was taken from The Game lol]. I am now thinking of how some women must have felt who denied me. How utterly insecure they are.
Women always tell me women are much more insecure than men. I think that is incorrect, I think it is equal. It must be equal because it is the same dynamic with the same causes. Men and women form a whole.
We are a Union. We are One. Our experiences coincide, always. It is this belief in Separation that creates our problems. A woman is part of you. You need her, but saying this is really somehow wrong, because how can you need what forms an essential part of you?
You are one being. This is what is being meant by Oneness.
She has your experiences. You have hers. Just from a slightly different, orthogonal perspective. You are living the same experience in every encounter, yours are just orthogonally complexed, they form two dimensions of the same experience, the exact same experience. What you feel, she feels, only a different quality of it.
She hates to reject you. She doesn't like it.
The woman makes you insecure by projecting an image of her being larger than life, but she makes herself insecure by the same measure. I experienced this once with a girl I was chatting to on a website. I realized her impeccable looks covered an image of an insecure who as much despised losing me as I despised losing her.
But she was playing a hard to get game so as to not be an "easy" girl and I got fed up with her and I told her off and she became offended and I lost her. But she lost me in equal measure. And I also believe...
I also believe that every time you think about a girl... she thinks about you. Just a concept. Maybe a fairy tale. But I think it is true. A girl wants to have you but she can't because of her idiotic game and scarcity-makes-me-more-valuable game she thinks she has to play.
But I would like to know from a female perspective. What is the game that the guy plays????.
The girl will claim "I'm not that kind of girl" TO MAKE HERSELF MORE VALUABLE IN YYOOUURR eyes. She does it for YOUYOUYOU. She will even say she has a boyfriend to make herself more valuable in your eyes. She is not playing that game for anyone else. Even if she does have a bf, it is still a game. It is meant to make her adjust to the cultural ideal of pristine and virginlike girls who are sexually conservative. It is meant to make her look like a trustworthy, valuable partner. It is an idea to subscribes to, even if it is not her real feeling or thought.
You are with her. She is talking to you. All she says is about you and to look better in your eyes.
