I'm going to keep this thread going and add to it by providing two real examples of getting women totally hooked on me though it was NOT the usual things guys (many on this thread) list as real value but rather things I've (and others) have mentioned that in fact get women totally wet and attached (which also gives you a huge range of leeway to act the azz... which they also love).
If you haven't yet, read some of my replies to this thread, as this will give you the general view I have of what women really value.
An ex-gf of mine is still totally hooked on me, three years later (I got a
text Saturday that bemoaned the lousy sex she just had after a date and basically said I could penetrate her azz anytime I want). She has a much better paying job than I (and mine is decent, plus high status) but I'm the dominant one in our interactions. I tease her, almost never take her seriously, crack jokes, remain aloof, answer very few of her texts (and jeez, they keep coming), and so on.
In fact, a month ago she saw me "dirty-dancing" with this hot little number almost 1/2 my age and she defriended me on facebook that night. Next day, when she's sober, she friend requested me again and has done so each day since. I've ignored each and every one (she even wrote an email, "just accept, mutherfvcker!!" and I just laughed). She still loves me and wants to bang me and get back together.
A woman I'm dating now I met years ago and just ran into again recently. She totally knows I'm a man-***** if/when a good opportunity arises and that I also work to manufacture said opportunities. We banged the first day we met over 10 years ago. She came up to me on the dancefloor. "Can I buy you a drink?" she asks. I say, "I'd rather take you home." I did about an hour later. We never dated but did hook up several times over the next few years.
So recently, we ran into each other again and started hanging out/banging again. With her, it's always something fun. Happy hour. Salsa band. I tease her, send the word "penis" back to text she sends that are mundane/meaningless reports on her uninteresting day. She currently knows I'm dating other women and still wants my johnson in her mouth.
In both situations, I'm the boss, even if I never really boss either of them around. Also, they feel safe with me. I'm not violent though a bit of a cad with them. Still, they know their physical safety is not at risk with me.
As I have said earlier in this thread, my ambitions, talents, goals, hobbies, etc. are not what have hooked these two women. These haven't hurt and in fact if I didn't have them they might have lost interest over time, but that's just speculation.
But here's the "value" they see in me and what keeps them coming back again and again:
They know I'm a very sexual person and respond to it very well.
I'm the best bang each has ever had (both tell me this repeatedly).
But before the sex, they loved my DGAF attitude.
Before I ever heard the phrase, I was treating each like a bratty sister.
They love it when my teasing makes them laugh, ESPECIALLY if they don't want to. I make them blush with a "I hate you but love you and thus hate and love you even more" look on their face.
They know when we are out, it will be fun... lots of fun. Dancing, good food, joking, bouncing to several locations. New bands/music, being young-at-heart, not being boring.
Each knows my IQ far exceeds their's. But, I don't spend much if any time steering topics toward my field of expertise. I know they don't care about my specialty. But they do like it when my smarts improve a conversation we are having, especially combined with wit.
Though I've lost weight the last few years and dress better, I banged both these girls before I actively learned game. Regardless of this, what both LOVE about me is my shameless confidence in who I am. My house is only kind of tidy, not neat as a pin. My dressing style is better than it was, but it is not GQ... it is all my own. Both chicks know I don't do things to please other people and they love it (the second chick even remarked on this this weekend).
I'm not a bad-azz biker guy, but I'm unconventional and a non-conformist. I smoke and drink too much and simply don't give a damn what anyone thinks of it. Chicks love this stuff... not the drinking/smoking, but reckless hedonism without apology.
These two women fell for me before they found out about my substantive value: my education, my expertise, my cool hobbies, my values, and/or my long-term goals. They've learned about these things later and these might have helped/added to their interest in me, but, importantly, THESE THINGS DID NOT SPIKE THEIR INTEREST OR MAKE THEIR PANTIES WET.
The first time I got with each, I was irreverent and made my sexual interest known. Then I banged with with relentless glee. I act as if my status is above them, they can come for the ride (on my terms) if they want, I rag on their professional efforts (with some gentle ribbing that says, "I'm only doing this to tease you because you like it so much"), and so on.
So, now back to the point of the thread:
NONE OF THIS IS VALUE, IN TERMS OF WHAT MEN VALUE
NONE OF THIS IS SUBSTANTIVE VALUE
But, these are things women value in men. They will exchange sexual access for their access to how you treat them and make them feel. Be fun, be challenging (ie., not a pushover), be unashamedly sexual, be sarcastic, be positive, be charming, and so on.
They will PERCEIVE all of this as what makes a man valuable.
Further, if you can be all of these things, they will overlook those things US GUYS perceive as things women will not value: they will overlook your sloppy housekeeping, they will overlook your mediocre job/income, they will overlook the stains on your shirt, they will overlook your lack of knowledge about pop culture, they will overlook your obsession with sports, they will overlook the number of women you've bedded, etc.
Tease her like a little girl, make her laugh, and rail her good.
They will get addicted to it.