watch her clothes!

[tomazu]

if you're in a long-term-relationship, a good way to see if your woman is loosing interest is watching her clothes! if in the beginning of the relationship she was always dressed hot and sexy and now she is not taking as great care of her dressing and optical image anymore, you should watch out, because she might be loosing interest. This is because she doesn't see you as a man to fight for anymore and is starting to take you for granted. you should not let that happen, so check out that at least on special occasions with you she still is showing herself from her best side!

I know there may be some social, traditional etc things that may interfere, but I didn't see it mentioned anywhere here yet, so I just posted it!

ciao tomazu

 

[Ko-B]

that's true. it goes both ways too for males.

 

[DJ de Florida]

T,

I don't get your point. If she is relaxing her style, that may mean she feels like you and her are an item. She does not have to show her game to other guys because she has you. Her interest is totally into you. She is not looking at other guys.

Am I going in the wrong direction here?




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DJ de Florida
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Just Do It!

 

[tomazu]

well, you see what I was saying isn't that this is like mathematics.. if x=y then a=b etc.. it's not that strict! I would say that if you notice something different in your relationship like her keeping distance etc. and also the clothes-thing, you should watch out! sorry, I did not want to get it over as something really really strict, it's just a piece of additional information!

ciao tomazu

Originally posted by DJ de Florida:
T,

I don't get your point. If she is relaxing her style, that may mean she feels like you and her are an item. She does not have to show her game to other guys because she has you. Her interest is totally into you. She is not looking at other guys.

Am I going in the wrong direction here?

 

[REd-xL]

Nope, DJ de Florida is completely right; it's a good sign, not a bad one.

Rx

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"It's the little things that matter most, and subtlety is the key to opening the
possibilities of making them happen."

"You control your own destiny, but the path you take determines your legacy."

 

[tomazu]

Originally posted by REd-xL:
Nope, DJ de Florida is completely right; it's a good sign, not a bad one.

Rx

no.

if she starts relaxing clothes and style, that is completely ok as long as her interest is very high - I can think of it as kind of great rapport, which is also very important in a relationship.

but my point was that if you notice some strange behaviour on her part like not laughing at your stupid jokes anymore.. then the clothes might give you one more hint about your situation!

and also if she relaxes her clothes and feels like you and her are an item, she will be looking her best on special occasions!

I've been burned many times in the past and at least in my experience one of the signs of a woman loosing interest was her outfit! obviously those were not the only ones.

ciao tomazu

[This message has been edited by tomazu (edited 10-28-2000).]

 

[j_kat_251]

A chick can look totally sexy in a t-shirt and jeans. What you need to watch out for is if she starts dressing down so much you can't notice how sexy she was. Also if her hair starts looking like poo... or she always had raccoon eyeshadow eyes and now she doesn't even wear foundation.

 

[Dee-Zy]

fukk, I thought tomazu was actually back...

 

[becker]

Originally posted by DJ de Florida
T,

I don't get your point. If she is relaxing her style, that may mean she feels like you and her are an item. She does not have to show her game to other guys because she has you. Her interest is totally into you. She is not looking at other guys.

Am I going in the wrong direction here?

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DJ de Florida
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Just Do It!

I agree with DJ. An ex-GF once told me that once she and I were an item, she felt comfortable enough to dress however she wanted and to generally "look gross". Needless to say, I dumped her (although not just for this reason, but this certainly didn't help her case).

Basically, a girl dresses up at least in part to attract men. Many will say they do it to feel good about themselves, which is not entirely false. We all dress well to feel a little more confident knowing that we look good.

When a girl has found her man, the necessity of dressing up diminishes, and it matters less what she wears and how she looks because she assumes you like her for who she is.

To me, it's when she starts flaunting herself around other guys when it becomes a little more like she's losing interest in you. She's opening herself up to other potential mates. Either that or she feels jealous that you may be attracting other women, so being threatened, she puts up her best defenses. A jealous guy will be a chump here if he starts acting all possessive and jealous.

 

[DJ_Dork]

girls are crazy

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

The issue is not how she dresses necessarily but if she still tries to look good for you or for other people. If she only dolls herself up when she goes out somewhere that there'll be a lot of guys checking her out - then it's a bad sign. If she relaxs her style somewhat with you it's good, she's comfortable, but you're right she might be taking you for granted. (She already got you).

I'd say the best judge of this is if she is comfortable being casual with you alone, and dresses up to go out with you but dresses up in a way where she still looks good but maybe not as ..."sexy" as she dressed when she was trying to "catch" you.

But of course, every girl is different.

 

[DEKKA]

you dont have to pay attention to something silly like what shes wearing if you can pick up other MORE OBVIOUS signals. (really i could care less about what a woman "is trying to say" because im an a$$hold whos gotta do things my way). yeah i can determine her IL by her body language, actions, words, etc..... but who really gives a flying fvck about that?.... i for one don't)

if you are resorting to watching her clothing to determine her IL you're too far gone anyways and chances are you're gunna get dumped for being such a chump.

 

[OpenMind]

Dekka is right, when you notice the more obvious signs of her interest level dropping and THEN you notice her attire getting jacked up, I wouldn't be foolish in saying that she is out on the prowl to find your replacement..... her dressing down is a sign that she isnt out to attract other men and is comfortable with you...