Was too Blind to know I was in a Rebound Relationship

[UndercoverAFC]

Never a good idea messing with a chick who's still not over her ex I was messing with a HB7 last winter who had just gotten out a three year relationship with a guy who she found out was married the whole time and was having a kid with his wife , I Met her through a Co-Worker who invited me out one night because the co-worker was very in to me but I didn't feel the same but I went along with it anyway cause I knew the friend was showing up (Pretty sure this affected my karma badly lol) so I went and after a few hours of basically pushing away my coworker advancements(She was a 3 at most but personality was cool enough to keep around as a homie I guess [Mistake I know]) ; Anyways once the co worker saw I was really more into the friend I guess as a ploy to keep me around she tried to match me with the friend (Third Mistake) so after weeks of flirting and stuff I finally hook up with the friend but this is when the thing gets real lol I didn't know that the girl was still seeing her ex (the one with the wife) and that he was still banging and going back to his wife she'll get frustrated and take it out on me (Guess who was feeding me this info) , this is all before I found this site and was a super Afc I just took it as the friend lying so that she can swoop in and snatch me away from her own friend Anyways to end this story short I work in a movie theater I'm guessing she though I wasn't working that day so guess who I caught on a date lmfaoo!! The funny thing is I was so in denial that at first I though the dude was the co-workers BF that was at the theater too girl even introduced us and I shook his hand and everything (Oh god) I didn't catch the hint until I saw his arm around her and he called her baby lol there's more to this story but I'll just leave it at that don't trust girls with Ex issues she rather be a married mans side chick than to do her own thing

Lol i thought i had it bad, this girl wanted to move on from her Ex. Unfortunately 6 weeks is not enough recovery for 2 year 3 month relationship.

I was always going to be fight an uphill battle.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

It's not just women, most people are just wimps. People are just scared of change and branching out. My friend is too scared to move away from this ugly girl that cheated on him, so they are on and off a lot. Most people at my school usually cling to to their high school social group or circle of exes. They are too scared to branch out because they were taught the world is scary.

 

[UndercoverAFC]

Just want to say guys this thread helped me through a very tough time and ive been focusing on myself since. Was a lot of things to process about that relationship and it helped to talk about it on here

 

[El Payaso]

Just want to say guys this thread helped me through a very tough time and ive been focusing on myself since. Was a lot of things to process about that relationship and it helped to talk about it on here

Good to hear that. How are you doing now?

 

[UndercoverAFC]

Good to hear that. How are you doing now?

Thanks mate, well i started a new job aldo building a new career path, gone back to study and brought a new car.

in terms of women not so great, when i met my ex in march 2014 i was at the top of my game, had sex with 8 women in two months post her ive only had 4. I was suffering mental health issues and fwlt suicidal when making this thread. I still occasionally get obsessive thoughts about the past and about breaking up with when she said maybe we should start again in a few months. She brought a house with the next guy i was transition a bridge betweem LTRs so to speak. Life goes on ay haha

 

[UndercoverAFC]

Listen don't be to hard on yourself and learn from this experience.

Because this is what it is life experience, and next time you will know.

Move on.

Thanks man, i worked with a psychologist for a bit to figure out my fear of commitment was. I think that water meets its own level hence why i felt an insane connection with her (similar fears of commitment at the time) I never had real gf before her and would just have one night stands and short term ****buddies. I see it as an oppurtunity for personal growth and emotional maturity.

I stopped blaming myself s long time ago, i cant make a girl forgot about a boyfriend of over two years who dumped her for 6 weeks before me i aint that powerful

 

[BrainDamage92]

It takes half the time the relationship lasted to get over someone (at least if I judge by my experience) and that is if there was little to no contact.

Sounds like you got fuked over. soz but its funny. She just needed a distraction but you fell in love like a fool. Dont start relationships with someone fresh outta breakup. 6 weeks is nothing. You will know better next time.

 

[UndercoverAFC]

It takes half the time the relationship lasted to get over someone (at least if I judge by my experience) and that is if there was little to no contact.

Sounds like you got fuked over. soz but its funny. She just needed a distraction but you fell in love like a fool. Dont start relationships with someone fresh outta breakup. 6 weeks is nothing. You will know better next time.

Lol so you think the 2nd option is going to have trouble eventually as well? It was only 7 months difference and no contact for 5 months.
Yeah it was stupid but she ****ed off the other guy after two dates cause he came on way to strong calling her beatiful and ****, it took a month of chasing before i agreed

 

[UndercoverAFC]

Ive been trying to spin plates lately not many options where im from

 

[BrainDamage92]

Lol so you think the 2nd option is going to have trouble eventually as well? It was only 7 months difference and no contact for 5 months.
Yeah it was stupid but she ****ed off the other guy after two dates cause he came on way to strong calling her beatiful and ****, it took a month of chasing before i agreed

Nonono you just forget about this girl. Alcohol is your friend, your friends are your friend too. First, this girl seems pretty fuked up in the head if she pulls stunts like this, mingling between many guys, fuk that ****. And you fuked up in so many areas (no ofence, I myself am not a player or anything, but I have experience with relationships turning sour) that its not worth it.

Just forget about her, if you cant distance yourself in space it will be harder. This sounds like a girl who is stuck in "unhappy" mode because of reasons not related to you in any way, ofc the root of the problem, is in her childhood, and has a bunch of guys to tell her how awsome she is so she continues existing in some form.

Fuk that ****, get drunk, go out with ur buds. Let her drown in her own stupidity, if she finds happiness, even better, you will find your happiness too. But for us men, finding happines in love is the equivalent of taking drugs, because happiness is a positive response to achieving some goal, and what did you achieve? Jack **** thats what. You dont need a GF believe it only makes you a worse person couse most women are trash, been there, I know how low have I sank, I see it in my friends, they become lowlifes couse of GF brainwash, when they are truely decent dudes onthe inside.

Believe me, I have dwelled on these matters more than Im comfortable admitting, the answer is - go out with the boys and get drunk. Fuk this hoe.

 

[UndercoverAFC]

Nonono you just forget about this girl. Alcohol is your friend, your friends are your friend too. First, this girl seems pretty fuked up in the head if she pulls stunts like this, mingling between many guys, fuk that ****. And you fuked up in so many areas (no ofence, I myself am not a player or anything, but I have experience with relationships turning sour) that its not worth it.

Just forget about her, if you cant distance yourself in space it will be harder. This sounds like a girl who is stuck in "unhappy" mode because of reasons not related to you in any way, ofc the root of the problem, is in her childhood, and has a bunch of guys to tell her how awsome she is so she continues existing in some form.

Fuk that ****, get drunk, go out with ur buds. Let her drown in her own stupidity, if she finds happiness, even better, you will find your happiness too. But for us men, finding happines in love is the equivalent of taking drugs, because happiness is a positive response to achieving some goal, and what did you achieve? Jack **** thats what. You dont need a GF believe it only makes you a worse person couse most women are trash, been there, I know how low have I sank, I see it in my friends, they become lowlifes couse of GF brainwash, when they are truely decent dudes onthe inside.

Believe me, I have dwelled on these matters more than Im comfortable admitting, the answer is - go out with the boys and get drunk. Fuk this hoe.

She did it to 3-4 other boyfriends when she was 19-21 and emotional unstable. Former stripper and messed up family.

Anyway your right, ive achieved many goals since then and feel pretty good about life. I wouldnt be stupid enough to buy a house with that crazy anyway

 

[UndercoverAFC]

First, this girl seems pretty fuked up in the head if she pulls stunts like this, mingling between many guys, fuk that ****. And you fuked up in so many areas (no ofence, I myself am not a player or anything, but I have experience with relationships turning sour) that its not worth it.

Can eloborate on where i ****ed up? Im here to learn so, instead of forcing more commitment i was just going to walk away but i felt i had nothing to lose by trying. To this girls credit when she did get hit with that depression over her ex she did tell me she probably shouldnt be in a relationship right now and said maybe we should try again in a few months. I could feel his presence there though very strange
Lack of experience ruled here, never had depression or been through a bad breakup before