Was this appropriate, or just afc.

[pvf94]

I got a friend add and a message on myspace about 3 week's ago.

It was from a girl that was about a 7, but the fact that she seemed ultra cool after talking to her boosted that to an 8.

We had made plan's to meetup and hangout do a movie or something. I don't have a vehicle and its about a 25-30 min drive to get to my place from hers, so she decided to come to me one day. She didnt end up making it do to lack of good directions and fear of the unknown, she was pretty blunt and straightforward about it....said sorry and she will try again on a nicer day and an exact printout of directions.


Needless to say we talked more online for another week and a 1/2 and we arranged to meetup again, this time she said she called off work and had to go through a ton of **** to get the day off, but mentioned a few times that it would be worth it to see me. She succeeded and we ended up hanging out, I told her on MSN that I play acoustic, and sang and was pretty good at it. She wanted to hear, so I sent her a piece of something I was recording and she asked if I could do something for her in person....sounded easy enough so sure, I had her meet me at a park and I had my acoustic with me....we had an ongoing joke online about me having a "flatass" cuz in one of my pics it looks like my butt is flat. So I said we will see when I meet you, and we had this "List of things to do" made up.

After me directing her how to get to me on the phone, we walked to each other and I gave her a nice hug and we proceeded to walk back to where I was stationed with my guitar. On the way there I fell behind and sorta looked her up and down and said "your ass is bigger than mine" And we had a damn good laugh and an ongoing thing throughout the afternoon/evening with the whole flatass thing.

Got back to the guitar, on top of a hill under a tree kinda far away from the crowd of people at the park. She promised she would sing for me, needless to say she would not even try so I manned up and serenaded her for a good 30 minutes, had a good conversation in between it all. Asked her if she knew how to play guitar, she said no and I jumped on the kino opportunity by placing her fingers in the appropriate places on the guitar showing her how to make chords and stuff, she seemed pretty comfortable with it. Didn't flinch or anything. She than began to place her hand on my arm and poke me and stuff saying "I can't believe it your right here next to me!"

From there we took a walk down some train track's and circled around back to her car to go see a movie....she complemented me a few times with stuff like "Your not thick at all your thin!!" (I told her im thick, and that my pics just make me look thin) "Your cheeks are cute and all red" "I love your dimples when you smile" "Nice tan".

So we hit up the movie, watched that, and than left the place she took me back to the park, and I got my guitar out of the trunk and all that and she didn't seem to be in a hurry she wanted to know if I wanted to go home or not, I said that I wasn't in a hurry and didnt have anything important to do so she said lets go walk around. Walked around the park a time or two and I led her back towards her car, Set my guitar down and said "I guess this is goodbye" with a light hearted laugh. She did the "aweee" thing and I opened my arms for a hug and she pressed into me and ran her fingers up and down my back briefly and said she had fun and enjoyed it.

She than wanted to know if I just wanted a ride home instead of walking from the park....so I said sure might aswell see my home, and she took me to my home. I got outta the car, went to the driver said went for a little high five type deal and it turned into a little hand hold for a couple seconds and I just let my fingers sort of gently slide off as if I was pulling a ring off her finger and said our goodbye's.

She wants to hangout again.

Was I wrong for not making a real move for a kiss or anything? I just wasn't feeling it, the whole straight from internet to meeting was a touch awkward and I think it was more of a priming date..........

Also after it all when she got home she hopped online later in the evening and complemented me further saying "your even more adorable in person"

Than said "im really big on hygene, and you were so clean and you smelled amazing, just thought id tell you that"

Then she asked me "Honest, can you answer somethign for me?" I said sure and she asked "Do I look better in person or in my pics?"

I told her she looked better and I was suprised, told her she was cute.





Discuss, im interested to hear thoughts and opinions.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

You seemed to do pretty good. Don't be surprised if she is flaky. If she makes it very difficult for you two to get together again, you'll know it is more likely because you weren't more agressive. You need to kiss 'em the first time, eve if it might seem like too soon. If you see the opportunity, seize it.

Save the singing/playing guitar for later. If a chick insists, tell her that you don't play/sing until she does something for you. Have her cook for you, bring you food, give you a massage, wash your car, etc. They love it when they have to earn it. She said she would sing to you, and she didn't.

 

[Stuntmann]

She send you at least 3 invitations to fvck, or fvck openers, or what ever you want to call them.

Number 3. As you exit her car, you could have said, well I don't usually do this, but I guess you could come in for a few, then just walk off slowly to your door and leave it open.


Number 2. As she asked you if you wanted a ride home. Please baby, take me to your place and pet me.


Number 1. As she asked if you wanted to go home. Again.



You should have kissed her, petted her, fvcked her. She came with a disclaimer, fvck me please.





This time she knows where you leave. Wait a few, week or so, then ask her to pick you up. Do a push pull, tell her to come in, then put your shoes quick and off you go. If you can get her back, and if you willing to take the lead, you will bone her. Uhhh, don't tell her what you going to do, make plans, and be unpredictable.

 

[pvf94]

Bump

 

[SteakAndRice]

Sounds good I guess.. If this is how you play the game. It seems really AFC to me, but if this is how you intended then you can have it workout. But dont talk to her on aim so much anymore, be busy, and only talk to set up next plans. Otherwise it will get boring too fast. And next time you guys see each other, shes definitely going to be waiting for you to make a move this time... So tease her a lot, make her anticipate your kiss and have fun with it. Then at the end of the night, take her to your room and REALLY lay it on her.. And bone her the rest of the night.

Make a song about it and send it to her on aim and block her / cut contact for good.

P.s, dont listen to stuntman. He sounds like a total creep and doesn't speak from experience.

 

[Obsidian]

Anti-Dump says you should try to avoid kissing on the first date. The only reason you should kiss her is if you think she might have had a bad time. (That way if she lets you kiss her, you'll know she didn't have that bad a time.)

Kissing and carousing early on leads to an overly sensual relationship that isn't based on anything solid. Also, if you wait 'til the next date to kiss her, it lets the tension build so it'll be better. As long as you are a sexual being, you act like a man, and you treat her like a woman, early kino becomes less necessary.


Of course, this is all Anti-Dump's advice; I didn't come up with it. Take it or leave it at your choosing.

Sounds like you did pretty well overall. Try not to let her insult you so much, tho, even if it is teasing.

 

[pvf94]

Anti-Dump says you should try to avoid kissing on the first date. The only reason you should kiss her is if you think she might have had a bad time. (That way if she lets you kiss her, you'll know she didn't have that bad a time.)

Kissing and carousing early on leads to an overly sensual relationship that isn't based on anything solid. Also, if you wait 'til the next date to kiss her, it lets the tension build so it'll be better. As long as you are a sexual being, you act like a man, and you treat her like a woman, early kino becomes less necessary.


Of course, this is all Anti-Dump's advice; I didn't come up with it. Take it or leave it at your choosing.

Sounds like you did pretty well overall. Try not to let her insult you so much, tho, even if it is teasing.

Nah, she compliments me 10x more than teasing. I actually can only think of her insulting me jokingly and its only about our little inside joke.


But thank's for the response. I love reading what you guy's think keep it coming!