On Friday I went on a "coffee" date with this girl I met at the club last week. She had touched my arm as I walked by so I had no problem stopping to chat with her and chatting her up a bit before hitting the dancefloor with her. We had plenty of grinding and close contact on the dancefloor, but not much in the way of extended conversation because of the loud music. Before I she left I got her number and it wasn't too hard at all. I called her last Wednesday for the first time since meeting her and she sounded happy to hear from me. Even though I was able to get the date in the first 5 minutes she kept me on the phone for about half an hour and conversation was pretty easy with the usual getting to know you questions. A couple hours before the date I called her to confirm and she kept me on the phone for about twenty minutes. She was really easy to talk to so I felt pretty good about being able to find things to talk about with her.
The time was about 9pm and we met a neutral location and the plan was to go get a dessert or coffee, but we ended up deciding to go to a Martini Bar. I greeted her with a hug and she was definitely as cute as I'd remembered. She was a bit stressed though because the bank machine had just eaten $80 of her money(she's a student, so I imagine that money is tight). When we got to the bar we ordered a few martinis (she paid for hers, pulled out a $20 same time as me so I guess she wanted to get mine too but I didn't let her) and conversation was light and easy. We were sitting in an isolated corner with candlelight and mellow music playing in the background. There were a few times where I found it difficult to steer clear of the usual interview type questions about family, school, work, etc. Sometimes I just found it hard to transition. We were sitting across the table from one another, we had great eye contact, but it didn't allow for any touching or closeness.
After she had her martini she started to get a bit tired and would yawn every now and then. Even though I could get her laughing and she never seemed disinterested, that was a little distracting. She had also had a long day and an early class the next morning. I never got any clear vibe from this girl and at one point decided I would just cut my losses and see if she really just wanted to go home. She had mentioned earlier that her friends would be going out that night and I also had a party to attend later. So I asked her, "what time were you going to meet your friends" and she said that she didn't think she would that night and again was looking a bit tired. Then I asked her if she wanted to get going, but she said that she'd rather stay longer since it was a bit chilly outside anyway. So we kept chatting and things were fine, great eye contact, but I still had no idea what she was feeling. We'd been there for about 2 hours. I knew there was a private party downstairs in the Martini Bar, but she didn't so I thought it'd be a bit easier to end things if we got up to head downstairs and then when we found out that the downstairs area was closed off, I could just say, let's get going. She knew that I had a party to attend in the area so she just asked if I'd walk her to the bus stop. One of my buddies called me as I was doing this and I mentioned that I'd stop by where he my other friends were. She asked what was going on there, but I didn't really get into it.
When we got to the bus stop she asked me to stay and wait with her until the bus came. We kept talking and things were fine although the conversation wasn't what I would call sexually charged. She just looked kind of tired and I was getting tired too. She told me she didn't want me to think that she was tired because of me or that she didn't enjoy herself. When the bus came she said that I should take it to where I was heading, but I said it wasn't too far so I would just walk and say goodbye to her there. She said ok and we hugged and I gave her a little kiss on the cheek. She said to give her a call and that was that.
So, what now? Do I bother to call her? She has my number, so should I just wait and see if she calls me? I find this girl attractive, but I left the date feeling a bit dissapointed and dissatisfied. I really have no idea what she thinks of me now. What do you make of this and what do you suggest I do with this situation. Just a bit confused. Thanks.
The time was about 9pm and we met a neutral location and the plan was to go get a dessert or coffee, but we ended up deciding to go to a Martini Bar. I greeted her with a hug and she was definitely as cute as I'd remembered. She was a bit stressed though because the bank machine had just eaten $80 of her money(she's a student, so I imagine that money is tight). When we got to the bar we ordered a few martinis (she paid for hers, pulled out a $20 same time as me so I guess she wanted to get mine too but I didn't let her) and conversation was light and easy. We were sitting in an isolated corner with candlelight and mellow music playing in the background. There were a few times where I found it difficult to steer clear of the usual interview type questions about family, school, work, etc. Sometimes I just found it hard to transition. We were sitting across the table from one another, we had great eye contact, but it didn't allow for any touching or closeness.
After she had her martini she started to get a bit tired and would yawn every now and then. Even though I could get her laughing and she never seemed disinterested, that was a little distracting. She had also had a long day and an early class the next morning. I never got any clear vibe from this girl and at one point decided I would just cut my losses and see if she really just wanted to go home. She had mentioned earlier that her friends would be going out that night and I also had a party to attend later. So I asked her, "what time were you going to meet your friends" and she said that she didn't think she would that night and again was looking a bit tired. Then I asked her if she wanted to get going, but she said that she'd rather stay longer since it was a bit chilly outside anyway. So we kept chatting and things were fine, great eye contact, but I still had no idea what she was feeling. We'd been there for about 2 hours. I knew there was a private party downstairs in the Martini Bar, but she didn't so I thought it'd be a bit easier to end things if we got up to head downstairs and then when we found out that the downstairs area was closed off, I could just say, let's get going. She knew that I had a party to attend in the area so she just asked if I'd walk her to the bus stop. One of my buddies called me as I was doing this and I mentioned that I'd stop by where he my other friends were. She asked what was going on there, but I didn't really get into it.
When we got to the bus stop she asked me to stay and wait with her until the bus came. We kept talking and things were fine although the conversation wasn't what I would call sexually charged. She just looked kind of tired and I was getting tired too. She told me she didn't want me to think that she was tired because of me or that she didn't enjoy herself. When the bus came she said that I should take it to where I was heading, but I said it wasn't too far so I would just walk and say goodbye to her there. She said ok and we hugged and I gave her a little kiss on the cheek. She said to give her a call and that was that.
So, what now? Do I bother to call her? She has my number, so should I just wait and see if she calls me? I find this girl attractive, but I left the date feeling a bit dissapointed and dissatisfied. I really have no idea what she thinks of me now. What do you make of this and what do you suggest I do with this situation. Just a bit confused. Thanks.
