Was I wrong?

[dark god]

So I've been dating this girl for around 8 months. Everything is pretty good for the most part. Similar interest, good sex etc. The only thing Im honestly not too found of is she's bit of a pot head. I'm a social drinker and that's it..weed was never really my thing.
Anyway she has this friend that we will call "Brad" . She has know for quite some time and says they never got together.He's her weed dealer also. I met him once and honestly I thought dude was a loser..No job, lives with mommy and he's in his Forty's and also smokes with his mommy. Well there was a death in the family and I had to left town for few days. I talked to her every night and texting thru out the day. When I came back to town we went out to dinner and she tells me that she went over to " brads" house to buy weed and she was also bored because I wasn't around. She tells me that when she was smoking with brad in his room and I Stop her story. I asked if they were on his bed smoking and she replied " Yea what's wrong?" I asked her why did they need to go to his bedroom to smoke when his own mother knows what he does and smokes with him. She says that she didn't really give it thought and what's the big deal. I told I felt it was a little shady and kinda disrespectful being in another man's bedroom. Well that led to a argument..things been a little rocky ever since. Was I wrong for saying something about this behavior?

 

[Nitrozv20]

bye bye gf

 

[dark god]

bye bye gf

I hear ya. There's this new latin girl at work with a nice caboose thats been sending strong IOI's..Might be time to brush up on my Spanish lol.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So I've been dating this girl for around 8 months. Everything is pretty good for the most part. Similar interest, good sex etc. The only thing Im honestly not too found of is she's bit of a pot head. I'm a social drinker and that's it..weed was never really my thing.
Anyway she has this friend that we will call "Brad" . She has know for quite some time and says they never got together.He's her weed dealer also. I met him once and honestly I thought dude was a loser..No job, lives with mommy and he's in his Forty's and also smokes with his mommy. Well there was a death in the family and I had to left town for few days. I talked to her every night and texting thru out the day. When I came back to town we went out to dinner and she tells me that she went over to " brads" house to buy weed and she was also bored because I wasn't around. She tells me that when she was smoking with brad in his room and I Stop her story. I asked if they were on his bed smoking and she replied " Yea what's wrong?" I asked her why did they need to go to his bedroom to smoke when his own mother knows what he does and smokes with him. She says that she didn't really give it thought and what's the big deal. I told I felt it was a little shady and kinda disrespectful being in another man's bedroom. Well that led to a argument..things been a little rocky ever since. Was I wrong for saying something about this behavior?

Women who respect the men they are with and the relationship with that man do not put themselves in that situation.

You can speak up and say whatever you like, but she already doesn't respect you, why do you think she will care about what you have to say on the matter?

All you do in these situations by bringing that up is make yourself look weak and insecure. Which then lowers her respect for you even more.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The only defense I can think of is that it can be kinda weird to smoke with someone's parents or when they're around, it's not exactly like drinking in that respect. You get in your own world, you can get a little paranoid and "parent" isn't too far from "cop".

 

[dark god]

The only defense I can think of is that it can be kinda weird to smoke with someone's parents or when they're around, it's not exactly like drinking in that respect. You get in your own world, you can get a little paranoid and "parent" isn't too far from "cop".

Yea I don't think she is the type to get weird smokin with the mom.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yea I don't think she is the type to get weird smokin with the mom.

I missed the part about them being on the bed. Looks like weed is legal in Jersey, she can go to the damn dispensary.

 

[dark god]

I missed the part about them being on the bed. Looks like weed is legal in Jersey, she can go to the damn dispensary.

Lol the bed part was the whole issue.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Lol the bed part was the whole issue.

Well that and your being too possessive for her tastes. Stoner chicks are free-spirited, you're talking to her every night while texting every day, you're saying "stop the story" like you're her father or something. And you don't smoke.

 

[dark god]

Well that and your being too possessive for her tastes. Stoner chicks are free-spirited, you're talking to her every night while texting every day, you're saying "stop the story" like you're her father or something. And you don't smoke.

#1 how am I being possesive when she's the one texting and calling me at night?
# 2 did u even read the whole story? I was pissed she was hanging in this dudes bedroom.

 

[dark god]

If she wanted a free spirited type then homegirl choose wrong.

 

[Scars]

Not wrong at all. Your GF is a trash human and you deserve better.

 

[dark god]

I'm sure she didn't cheat, but you don't want a pot head girlfriend man.

Only been with her for 8 months.. not that big of a deal if it doesn't work out. Im just shocked at the nonchalant behavior.

 

[dark god]

The next thing you know is that she sucked him for a 20sack, "whats wrong about that??"

Lmao yea I know

 

[The Duke]

I dated a 20 something pothead. Similar story. I was hanging at my girls place one time and she had to meet her dealer and ride around in his car for a half hour. I was like wtf. She left me hanging with her sister and I thought about fuhking her because I was pissed.

Just fuhk her and stop worrying about it. She's not relationship material. Don't take hoes seriously.

 

[Bigpapa]

The next thing you know is that she sucked him for a 20sack, "whats wrong about that??"

Happened to me once. Started dating a girl that I really liked and at some point after sex she tells me something like:

Her: this guy offered 500 euros to s8ck his d1ck

Me : a girl needs her diamonds - while smiling and thinking she is just silly

Her : it is just a blow job - in a really serious manner

Me : wait, are you serious?

Her : yeah, money is money

Me : you can be my sex toy then

Her : I find it disrespectful what you just said, thought that you like me

Then she leaves

Sometimes is better to pull off when you hear really dumb sh1t as for sure in a moment of weakness things could happen

In this example with the pot head, imagine that for some reason she does not get the money, that guy will be generous enough to give her weed if he lets her f8ck her or s8ck his d1ck. It might never happen but it could happen too, she just needs a moment of weakness or something and pot heads are not really known for how strong they are

 

[Machine10033]

Don’t date any girls with a drug habit, alcohol addiction, or mental health problems...if you want to bang and bolt do that.

This girl would be dead to me... she wouldn’t even get a proper break up. I would also get tested for stds. Girls on drugs will do anything for free samples. Learn and move on

 

[Dr.Suave]

Was I wrong for saying something about this behavior?

Yes and no. That behavior could be tolerated for a plate, but for a LTR?

The problem here is not so much what you said, the problem here is you "dating" someone who´s clearly meant for "recreational use only"/ "plate status only". You didnt vet/screen her properly (we all been there).

If she was just a plate in your rotation, my advise would be ignore it and dont bang her without a condom. But for a serious relationship, this is a deal breaker. A "quality" girl worthy of relationship status usually already knows how to behave, she´s not getting high in another man´s bed with said man.

"We were in his bed getting high. Whats the big deal?" "While we were in his bed, we took some of our clothes off to be more comfortable. What´s the big deal?" "While we were in his bed with little or no clothes, He got closer to me because he was cold. What´s the big deal?" "While he was close to me, he got an unvoluntary boner and accidentally slipped inside my p00zy, whats the big deal?" "He got me pregnant, what´s the big deal?"

 

[soulforge]

Dealers often fuk girls who they supply drugs to.. this is common knowledge.

First problem. You shouldn't be taking a pot head seriously for a relationship at all.

Next problem.. Yeh smoking weed with some dude in his bedroom on his bed is pretty disrespectful and fvcked up.

Expect more of this behaviour down the line, especially when she is challenging you and arguing with you on this matter.

 

[soulforge]

Yes and no. That behavior could be tolerated for a plate, but for a LTR?

The problem here is not so much what you said, the problem here is you "dating" someone who´s clearly meant for "recreational use only"/ "plate status only". You didnt vet/screen her properly (we all been there).

If she was just a plate in your rotation, my advise would be ignore it and dont bang her without a condom. But for a serious relationship, this is a deal breaker. A "quality" girl worthy of relationship status usually already knows how to behave, she´s not getting high in another man´s bed with said man.

"We were in his bed getting high. Whats the big deal?" "While we were in his bed, we took some of our clothes off to be more comfortable. What´s the big deal?" "While we were in his bed with little or no clothes, He got closer to me because he was cold. What´s the big deal?" "While he was close to me, he got an unvoluntary boner and accidentally slipped inside my p00zy, whats the big deal?" "He got me pregnant, what´s the big deal?"

Anytime you end up in a situation where you're having to watch your girl like a hawk, or having to correct her behaviour, due to her putting herself in precarious situations, it's a downward spiral in the relationship & you will never trust her.

What makes matters worse is her, claiming this isn't a big deal.