Want to ask out coworker..how?

dice

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So I am a manager and she is an employee that I have to supervise. She had a boyfriend for a long time and we always flirted, but they ended it and now she is on the rebound. We flirt now more than ever but I'm not sure how to ask her out. It's against work policy to date another employee, but I've never been one to follow rules too well anyway lol. How can I ask her out?
 

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You already have a somewhat friendly relationship with her. Just invite her out for drinks and see where it goes.

Asking a person out doesnt necessarily have to sound like "Want to go on a date?"

It's more like "Let's grab a drink."

Throughout the course of the night, you can try to escalate some kino and see if she's receptive.
 

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email - it's the best way. I've dated lots of girls from work. Try to get her personal email using company email if she starts replying.

Beware though - I had one girl start dating another guy from our office after I broke up with her - it drove me crazy and really made me depressed to hear her giggling in his office.
 

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I got fired for dating a coworker. It truly sucked, and I felt horrible losing my job over something as stupid as a workplace fling. Plus, you're her supervisor which is massive NO-NO...it's got harassment all over it if things go south.

Unless your job is easily replaceable, just be friends and that's it. I understand the thrill of getting some workplace strange, but if your company has a policy against it, then it's not worth the risk.



*if you're going to go through with it, do like Iceberg said and just ask her out for a drink after work; every post-work drink with a chick always ends up with a hook-up
 

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thx for the replies ill invite her out tomroow
 

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Sorry I only read the title and not the article - if you are her manager DO NOT ask her out via email - even in person is risky. She can sue you for harassment. Don't do it.
 

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Yes, don't get your meat where you get your bread.

Don't sh*t where you eat.
 

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A Big No-No for dating co-workers
she may be using you right now for some rebound, so don't do it.
If you really want to impress her you can arrange a get together with all your colleagues at a bar or any place and you can run your game.
No Emails please, they can be dangerous, no IM's too.
If she asks you out that's a different story.
 

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