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missyousomuch

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STORMCLOUD said:
Missusomuch,

Out of curiousity, did you confront the other guy? I mean, he's your friend....

There is a certain code, which appears to have been violated. How did you handle it? The reason I ask is... I have a close friend (close enough to go on vacation with) who is working a girl I am trying to get over. He is quite aware of my feelings, but seems to have been sucked into her web. He is very secretive but things to do slip out.

Maybe, someone out there can offer some advice. Not specific to her but to how I deal with my friend. Anyone?

Thanks
Hi StormCloud

-- Sorry for my English. I am not native English Speaker --

My g/f dated with me and my friend at the same day. I just checked with my friend and found this out. After I told her about this fact, she went away. Then, the next day, she came back and said terribly sorry and asked me to forgive her. I did not forgive her on that date. Then she told me that she would lose her job because she thought about this too much and could not concentrate on her job. That is the reason why I told her that I forgave her. Now she told me that our relationship could not be before.

For the friend of mine, he seemed to cheat me too. He said he would break her up on the first day, then on the second day, he told me that he would forgive her and came back to her :( I do not know how she get him back??? After that, friend of mine and I have not talked each other but I know they still met each other. Do not know how thier relationship.

Currently, she still wants to keep in touch with me via YIM and gave me her new phone number but do not want to see me. It is so treaky! Now I so suspect her. Though I still have memories about old and nicely days when we were together, my feeling is now better. I still just chat with her as a friend but my hope and respection to her decrease .

Just share my story. Thanks very much for your advices.
 

SoldMySoul

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I can't believe what I just read!!! Man, what I have gone through in the last 3 weeks and I am not crying like this! I am usually good natured on here, but you are a damn fool if you put up with this! It is crap like that that make men treat them like shyt! I agree...Grow a pair and move on...You will be better for it.
 

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Just wonder: We are guys and sometimes we also want to know a few girls at the same time but finally we only choose one to be a wife. Can we accept this truth for a girl?

Sometimes, I am too confused what I am doing? what are the right ways to do?
 

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It happened to me one day that 2 different girls told me in the same day that they wanted to be my girlfriend. They didn't know each other, so i used this to my advantage and dated them simultaneously for about 2 weeks, trying to decide which one i liked best.

Eventually, it didn't click with one of them and we broke up, but i continued my happy relationship with the other girl and all was fine. Had they found out about this it maybe would have been a different story.

However, my point is, in the same way as i have dated 2 girls in the same time, so did missyousomuch's girlfriend. She dated 2 guys in order to decide who she liked best.

I don't call that cheating. It's more like a competition between 2 guys for the same girl. I would be proud to find out that my girlfriend has been comparing with some other dude in the same time, but she chose me in the end. This, of course, assumes that the girl is indeed done with the other guy and she becomes exclusive with me. But can she be trusted?.. hard to say...

I just brought another point of view to the table: that of a competition between 2 guys and one is chosen, hence he's a winner. It doesnt mean that the girl will keep dating other guys after that. Just my 2c.
 

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Move on with your life, "you can't turn a ho into a housewife".
 

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missyousomuch said:
My g/f has cheated me and a friend of mine. She has dated with two of us at the same time.

Finally, I have found this and very angry at her. She apologied me sincerely and wanted me forgive her but I said very bad words to her. Now I find that I still LOVE her SO MUCH and want her back. However, she told me my words make her hurt too. She is now very reluctant. I do not know how to heal our relationship and get her back. I REALLY REALLY LOVE HER NOW.

Can any one give me an advice?
this must be very tough for you, but you will get over it...

have respect FOR YOURSELF and fuggedabout her.

have respect for yourself, man.
 
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