want ex back - what to do???

[senor boom boom]

lately i've struck a problem- i'm becoming obsessed with a former flame who is now a good friend. bear with me there are quite a few details i need to get out.

ok. this girl is a family friend of mine who i first met 1 1/2 years ago. she lives interstate from me and came over for the first time just over a year ago. anyway we hit it off immediately and ending up together on her first trip over- got some serious kino, but no sex (could have but didn't have the necessary protection- damn!!). anyway she kept coming over as she was applying for a university course in my town. the next time she came i sort of had another girl going at the time and nothing happened. eventually she moved over to where i live to do her course. she was new in town and relied on me to take her out. so we sort of happened again but it felt real awkward cause she treats my mother like her mother over here (i'm 20 still live with my folks). she was really keen to go out with me but it didn't feel right so i kind of ****ed her round for a bit long and it didnt end that well. anyway, after that (about a year ago) we were still friends but i didn't feel anything towards her anymore. over the past 6-7 months we've seen a fair lot of each other as friends and i felt nothing (still think she's georgeous but wasn't interested in a girlfriend), but in the last month or so i've started to become really f***ing crazy for her (i wouldn't feel awkward going out with her now). there's still sexual tension b/w us however she referred to someone else recently that i was her best guy friend (which is probably true). with her, positive eye contact is always high and i'm sure she still feels something towards me. i'm a good looking guy who gets a fair share of female attention (yet i don't capitalise on it enough- hence this site which is helping me), but i'm not sure what to do to get this girl back (sexually speaking) or if i even should. there's times when i feel the last thing i wan't is a girlfriend however around her i feel like i'd really like to go out with her. what should i do i've started to think about her all the time and become jealous when she's getting close to other dudes(i know i probably sound like a chump i'm trying to get rid of my AFC'ness- however any advice would be greatly appreciated). i've been reading heaps on this site to boost my confidence and cure my AFC but i still need advice on this issue.

cheers,

senor boom boom (australia)

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

like Pook or Anti-Dump said "An Ex is an ex forever." or with that same idea anyways...

Once your relationship is over its over. She sees you as a loser and nothing more. MOVE ON!!!!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by senor boom boom
lately i've struck a problem- i'm becoming obsessed with a former flame who is now a good friend. bear with me there are quite a few details i need to get out.

THIS is the problem. You don't cure a heroin addiction by shooting heroin and you don't cure an unhealthy obsession by acquiring that which you obsess over. Even if you get it, it still won't make you "well" again, and you know this.

 

[Revlis]

I've been there, trying to be friends with an ex. Recently I've had to face the fact that to get past an old girlfriend I had to stop hanging around her and contacting her. It's been over 3 months since I last saw and spoke to her. At times I wouldn't mind having her back but that would be insane because we are no more! We've had our time and I had my chance. As a good friend used to say to me, sh!t happens!

In your mind it would be perfect to go back to your ex, because it would make your life easy! You wouldn't have to do much and it'll all be done without venturing outside of your comfort zone. Meet other girls, talk to them, flirt with them and have some fun. I bet if you meet more women eventually you'll find someone that'll make you forget your ex, or maybe two

Just don't go for that sexy blonde in the corner seductively sipping her Martini, she's mine!

 

[senor boom boom]

the thing is we were never actually going out, just together a few times. i stopped it before we started going out, so there was never an "official" relationship

 

[So pimp its scary]

"The only way that you will ever get a girl back is after you've completely forgotten about her, she will sense it and will call you at that point." - paraphrasing 'swingers'

Really though, just start dating other women. Soon you will forget about her, and that'll be that.

You can try to seduce her, but at the very least you need to have 5 other prospects when you seduce an ex. Or else you will return to pu$sy mode.