wanna put her in her place

[Beebo]

so to recap - i had a gf who did not have to decency to return calls or make calls. so 4 days after my birthday i dont get a phonecall - thinking that i have just been punked off, i am thinking that this relationship is over

then on msn, i start talking to her friend who says that my gf is the type to seems to think she can get guys to do anything for her and she is free to treat them however she likes and they will remain at her beckining.

to quote her friend - 'angela' is used to people kissing her ass. she used to people doing everything she asks them to. it's EVERYBODY. friends outside of work, guys we meet in clubs and everything. it doesn't do anything for her anymore. it's really doesn't. she knows guys will do what she asks, she knows girls will do what she asks.

and as well - lol, ok, again, i don't want to get anybody into trouble, or hurt your feelings or anything. 'angelas' a different kinda gal. she likes space. and i mean plenty of space. i know you wanna be with her a lot and everything, which is understandable, because that's how i am when i'm in a new relationship, but she likes to take things really slow.

so i am thinking i am going to wait for her to call me first but what are the right words i can use. i dont want to fly off the handle but i want her to know right off the hop that i wont put up with this bull$hit.

 

[iqqi]

this is too easy

give her her space.

don't even answer her call, do not return her call. make her hunt you down for the rejection you are ultimately going to hand her.

 

[Don Rageta]

go meet some other girls. chicks like nothing better than a chase not a meal on a plate.

make her jealous too. if you know 'angela' will be at a club on saturday, go there with a date. if you buump in to her, 'i'm withi someone tonight' if not you have yourself a date with a girl '

win win

 

[smokey]

Oh, I like these

Oh, I like these. They are fun to play with b/c you know how they are up front. Look, the ball is in your court. You already know how this girl is. Dude, do everything on your terms when you want to(some people might say treat her like total ****). Just remember, always stay in control of yourself. It will frustrate the **** out of her. Have fun.

 

[Reto]

Give her time to start missing you. If she doesn't, re-think the whole relationship...

 

[xblitz44x]

This is major LSE chick. I don't know why you'd want to bother with a girl like this to begin with. Even if she DOES like you, she won't admit it to herself, or others around her because she feels she needs to be in such a position of power. You can play games to hit her ego and you MIGHT be able to pull something more out of this but what's going to happen if you DO get a relationship out of the deal? Is this the kind of girl that you want? It's going to take a real assshole guy that she's attracted to, to come along and treat her like shyt - the way she feels she SHOULD be treated.

-Blitz

 

[Julian]

This b1tch sounds stupid as hell. IF she ever gives you a BJ make sure to give her a nice d1ck slap on the face.

 

[TesuqueRed]

I'm with Xblitz on this--I'm not seeing why you would want to be with this one.

She's hot or special isn't excuse enough, IMO...

She comes with issues that you can't win on. If you don't do her bidding, 20 other guys will. She knows it and actively seeks it out. How can play against that? You can't. Don't even try.

Now maybe you can become so pimp that she is compelled to follow you around like a lap dog. Fat chance--and probably not worth the effort if you could.

Maybe you feel it's a challenge or that you won't be bested here by her. Give it up. It's a game stacked against you before you even play--remember this and don't get involved with someone like this in the future.

What to do? Move on. Don't make an issue of it, just start dating others and LJBF her. This is the best you can do--claim your independence and let her get back to c0ck-teasing every AFC that comes her way. That's her job. That's how she'll get by in life. Hell--both her and the AFCs get what they want. Just make sure you get out of the equation here.

 

[Starman]

Beebo,

if you want her to think your the type of guy that "wont put up with her b.s."..WALk AWAY..

telling her anything..will only be feeding her ego...JUST DONT CARE..

let her live her miserable delusional life..at some point she will see when her fat ass belly is hanging down to her knees , and an AFC wont even howl at her..

she will think back and teach her own 30 kids why treating people like dirt only burns you at then end

 

[anakin]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
It's going to take a real assshole guy that she's attracted to, to come along and treat her like shyt - the way she feels she SHOULD be treated.

Spot on xblitz.

 

[Beebo]

so 6 days later...and 3 days after i failed to call her back over anything, 1240am i get a phonecall. wow!! it was her. too bad i was busy at the bar to pick it up!! seems i was a little busy hanging out with an ex-gf and a mutual friend of ours. maybe it isn't playing the field but i at least i was not at home feeling any pity for myself. not just for her but if i was alone doing nothing of a friday night.

dunno what she wanted...maybe a friend of hers seen me there and called her...and if that is the case and that warrented a phone call after a week..............

going to wait till tomorrow and see if she calls again, but am i calling back to see what she wanted...hell no.

 

[violator]

She didn't call you for your birthday? Wow, that is a major bytch worthy of a major heave ho. Even some of my long lost ex's still call me for my B'day. But you did not really eleborate on whether she was your GF or someone you have been seeing/dating.

Like TR and Blitz said, women like her view relationships as a power struggle in which she always has to be on top. This means eternal mind games and drama. Perhaps if you play things correctly you may get something out of it, but probably at too high of a price in terms of time and effort. She is a wild horse that can only be tamed by some ******* jerk who will treat her like crap.

I say just forget her and find someone who is equally or more attractive but with a better personality.

 

[Fadero]

Good job, Beebo.

This is a lose-lose situation dealing with this type of girl. Because when you act like you don't care and treat her like sh!t, that's when she will come around. But then the moment things get back to normal, she resorts back to her evil selfish ways. Then you have to repeat cycle to get her to treat you right. Do you really want to go through all that?

The realism from all this is that if she really cared for you, she will regret losing you big time. The key is to not giving into her again and letting her have her power upon you again. The longer you go without calling her back or talking to her, the stronger and more independent you will be.

 

[Beebo]

actually in some ways she called me on my birthday and didnt call. i was thinking she would have called me early in the day to wish me a happy birthday. but what happens? i call her around 330pm and only then does she say anything. then it took almost an hour on the phone before she invites me over. Like that whole phone call didnt seem like a push....

she made a phonecall....how many days should i give her?

 

[Luscious]

Beebo, I'm gonna say what everyone else has: give her the boot.

You can't win: you give her attention, and she pulls away, you take away attention, and she couldn't care less.

What do you really want here?
Even if you got with her, you'd still be watching her manipulate guys right in front of your face.

She's got power, and uses it at will...do you want her to be controlling you, and kicking your ass all over any sort of 'relationship'?

I really don't know what to say. If you can't accept not pursuing her, you'll have to watch her reject you, although from my experience, women like this do NOT make rejections blatant...she'll continue to use you, and string you along, and give buying signals - but she ain't for sale - so move along, and shop somewhere else in the mall, if you know what I mean.

 

[Beebo]

nothing no one says here is falling on deaf ears. i had asked her one time how long her longest relationship was and the only reply i got was a giggle. She confuses me cuz she said that she was making something for me - about a month and a half ago -that she had wanted to do for someone but no one was 'worthy' of it. Never got it yet - cuz its something that is going to take a long time to do. Plus we have talked about xmas and halloween, planning things. Its just weird how it goes from that to this.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Beebo
so to recap - i had a gf who did not have to decency to return calls or make calls. so 4 days after my birthday i dont get a phonecall - thinking that i have just been punked off, i am thinking that this relationship is over

then on msn, i start talking to her friend who says that my gf is the type to seems to think she can get guys to do anything for her and she is free to treat them however she likes and they will remain at her beckining.

to quote her friend - 'angela' is used to people kissing her ass. she used to people doing everything she asks them to. it's EVERYBODY. friends outside of work, guys we meet in clubs and everything. it doesn't do anything for her anymore. it's really doesn't. she knows guys will do what she asks, she knows girls will do what she asks.

and as well - lol, ok, again, i don't want to get anybody into trouble, or hurt your feelings or anything. 'angelas' a different kinda gal. she likes space. and i mean plenty of space. i know you wanna be with her a lot and everything, which is understandable, because that's how i am when i'm in a new relationship, but she likes to take things really slow.

so i am thinking i am going to wait for her to call me first but what are the right words i can use. i dont want to fly off the handle but i want her to know right off the hop that i wont put up with this bull$hit.

The solution to this problem is easy. Hang out with her friend a lot and not her. This will driver the girl you want insane. Then when you catch her interest again,you can lay the smack down on her. She will cry and maybe she will learn her lesson.

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by Beebo
nothing no one says here is falling on deaf ears. i had asked her one time how long her longest relationship was and the only reply i got was a giggle. She confuses me cuz she said that she was making something for me - about a month and a half ago -that she had wanted to do for someone but no one was 'worthy' of it. Never got it yet - cuz its something that is going to take a long time to do. Plus we have talked about xmas and halloween, planning things. Its just weird how it goes from that to this.

Look a few posts up about stringing you along, and giving buying signals and never completing the sale. Saying she's making you something = costs nothing and means nothing. If she actually delivers something to you that she had to really sacrifice to give, then you can consider that maybe you're the one to tame her.

If she's a master at manipulating people, then she surely knows that telling someone that they're special, and hinting at future rewards is a good way to keep someone on your hook. THERES NOTHING PREVENTING HER FROM SAYING THESE THINGS TO EVERYONE. Words are easy. But you're smarter than that now. You know that people's actions show how they feel, not their words. So when her words conflict with what she does, you know exactly what you should ignore.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. And you call this biatch your girlfriend.
2. I couldnt stomach reading the rest of your post.
3. Next this f*uckin ho..
4. Don't even bother with playing games with her funky once a month bleeding stanky ass.
5. With your next woman reverse the game...don't return her calls...be unavailable..do all that shyt they talk about on here to increase her interest level in you...
6. You've been mind fu*cked by this one so don't even look back...she is too much of a player for you to handle at this stage in your growth into a dj.