wanna connect with others? connect with your self first!

[pipe007]

very easy
as long as you seek to connect with others, YOU WILL NEVER create a connection with them.

trying to connect with another person means YOU DO NOT HAVE A CONNECTION in the first place.

looking for the perfect "line" the perfect "date". thinking "what can I do to get this persons attention, how can I get this person to like me? this means you dont have the connection with that person, AND YOU WILL NEVER HAVE IT!!!

to create a connection with another human being (females or males) you must create a connection with yourself first, you must be in a healthy relationship with yourself first!!!!

as you develop yourself and begin to work on yourself in a way where you respect yourself, you love yourself, you treat yourself right, and you are the most important person in your life, as you grow in that mindset, you start to create magic inside your inner world

as a result , by default and by LAW, you begin to connect with others and create magic with others.

the more you work on yourself and your self improvement, the more you realize that you are connected with every other human being out there, the world is not a lonely place anymore, and you can see yourself reflected back in other people's energy

as you continue to grow and realize you are not alone, and other people are seeking the same connection you seek, you begin to realize that we are connected, WE ARE ALL CONNECTED at levels of energy whether you believe this or not.

at the physical level it may seem like we are all separate individuals who should never interact with strangers. this limited perspective will NEVER cause to connect or be motivated to connect with other people.

in the other hand once you understand (not in a logical way) but in a deep emotional being understanding where you just know you are ALREADY connected with every other human being on this planet.

magic happens.

you don't need to create connection with others, you dont need to "try" anymore, you dont need to figure out a way to approach a stranger and figure out how to connect, BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU ARE ALREADY CONNECTED.

you dont seek the connection, YOU BECOME THE CONNECTION

that's right repeat that phrase over and over and over and over again until it sinks in and find out a way to make that happen into your life.

do not seek to connect with others, because you will never find the connection, BECOME THE CONNECTION!.. and magic will happen.

this is beyond "assuming" that the person will like you . this is a DEEP understanding, and knowing you are the connection. you cannot understand this at a logical rational level, you will never understand this with words, you have to experience it, and feel it.

in order to reach that connection with others, you must first find the connection with your own inner self. again, if you try to find the connection with your inner sefl, you will never find it, YOU MUST BECOME THE CONNECTION WITH YOUR INNER SELF FIRST.

your mission is to find out what the best way is to help yourslef find yourself first, and develop a relationship with yourself, and as you grow with this understanding you will begin to understand that you are connected with others, and then you will see that we are all come have different variations of the same energy, you begin to connect, you begin to BECOME the connection.

yes, i have become the connection, i can create magic wherever I go, talk to anyone anywhere anytime and make friends easily.... I am the connection!!!!


be the connection.
dont seek the connection

whoever is ready to understand this message will get the feelign of what am saying, other's will not understand.

peace!

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Pipe,
You've been reading these self improvement books again,really this is the confused intellectuallisation of a simple situation...You want to connect with people?then go dancing,to a Yoga group,to cooking classes any number of options...This crazy having a healthy relationship with yourself,loving yourself,seems like Femme Speak.

 

[pipe007]

you havent grasped the meaning of the message because you are using your mind logically.

I'll put it in words you can understand.

if you approach a girl thinking "what can I say to have this person pay attention to me?" "what tricks can I use to have this person give me some attention or be attracted to me?" if you think like this it means that you do not believe you can have a connection with this person in the first place, and from this mentality as soon as you open your mouth, it will be obvious to you, and her that you two are not connected, and the connection (attraction) will never happen.

in the other hand if you begin a conversation with anyone KNOWING that you already have a strong connection with the girl (or whoever) and you start talking as if she was your best friend, gf, in the whole world, and as if you had known her for life, then you are speaking directling to her, all logic aside.
she will suddently feel she knows you from before, and she will open up inmediately, you dont give her time to use her mind, you are speaking to her emotions.

and no I havent read a self improvement book, am talking from experience and deep understanding of life.

again, if you use your mind, you wont understand the message.
in order to feel this way about becoming the connection, you have to create a healthy relationship with yourself first.

if you can start a conversation with anyone, anywhere and create instant deep raport and attraction, then even if you dont accept it, it means you have a good solid relationship with yourself, that you have strogn self esteem.

its ok if you dont understand this.

for the past month I've been going out for 2 hours a day just to talk to people EVERYWHERE, to talk to anyone, guys, girls, old people, young people, I've aproached probably more than 200 people already and more in only one month, and im talking from experience, from seeing progression.

the times I "tried" to communicate with another person, when I consciously tried to get to that person to talk to me, I would have a negative reaction from them, or they would talk to me at a superficial level.

at some point of doing this over and over again, I realized I didnt care anymore, I didnt need anyones connection, i completely let go and surrendered to the process of approaching without expectations, I began having fun, and people began to react differently, they were excited they wanted to talk to me, they wanted to know more about me.... I was becoming the connection

i wanst seeking the connection.

tell me if you still dont understand.

if you have ever had a conversation with another person that becomes magnetic, electrifying, that you two vibe at the same level to the point that it seems you two are melting into one, then you will know exactly what am talking about.

Its very possible, and it feels really good to create this interactions with other people, and beautiful girls specially

 

[wait_out]

It's kind of like giving vs. taking when you talk to people... specifically having a positive mindset and communicating that outwards.

I know what you mean. You can feel the difference, but your explanation was atrocious, unfortunately

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Pipe,
There are no magic bullets in this sordid game......I never "approach" my selected victim....I just accidentally bump into them....I have a clear agenda in mind,but the wit and where-withall to change tracks if she switches the rails....
I agree with you that we often subconsciously create the anticipated reactions in others...so yes having positive ideas about yourself will help...
Something you may care to reflect on,is the minds undoubted cycle of rhythms....If you go to the Asian shop and click with a lovely Thai Girl,then that's the night to go dancing knowing you will be attractive to MOST realistic targets....Conversely,if you seem to click with a girl interested in Scott Fitzgerald in the Library,but fail to number close,then best stay home that night.

 

[pdx1138]

Pipe is right.

Just after new years for 2009 I set out with 2 main goals. Travel to a foreign country that fall and before that spend the year getting into the best shape of my life for that trip.

I can't count how many awesome things happened to me that year but it was the best year of my life because I connected with my self.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Most people never take the time to discover themselves...I truly believe looking within to understand yourself will bring about the best in self-actualization...suddenly doors in life begin to open that before you could not have imagined...I can attest to that through direct first hand experience.

This definitely is somewhat new-age in its description, perhaps why Scaramouche, this may not be appealing to you --

But there is truth in projection -- even if you want to take a strictly science approach: you positively envision in your mind, and this carries outwards into your body language -- and all people pick up on this -- including women. Even if the thoughts themselves are self-induced placebo that effect body language...the effects are there irregardless.

I know in my life, when I am most deeply rooted in my own self, this is when I am the best for others.

Times like right now, where I feel internal friction, confusion, haze, is when I am likely vulnerable more to mistakes or foolishness, and probably not as good for others.

Righteous words pipe -- keep on your path to being the best you that you can be.

 

[women haze]

Pipe...I think it's time you put down the pipe.

LMAO

I'm kidding man, I really agree with what you are saying I have been trying to let go of the outcome and just be in the moment. Self Esteem really plays a factor in this though.

 

[Burroughs]

The ancient greeks put it in simpler terms: GNOTHI SEAUTON,

Or in English.....Know Thyself

 

[pipe007]

if the process of having amazing interactions with other people were as simple as some suggest, sosuave would not exist, and we pretty much would have find what we are looking for.

but it's not like that. I believe now that every single person is trying to look for something that will fill them up, that will give meaning to their lives, that will make them "happy."

and most people are looking for this in the environment, as something that needs to be attained out there. It never occurs to anyone that true happiness, real happiness can be cultivated from within.

so we go for drugs, money, clothes, material demonstrations of status, degrees, women, relationships.

anything that is something outside of ourselves, something in the environment.

here is what I've learned: as long as you are looking for something in the environment to fill you up and create a state of "happiness" in you, you will always be disappointed sooner or later.

because those things never last, you might be rich today and lose it tomorrow, you might have that perfect girl or friend today, and they are gone tomorrow, the clothes, the cars, the degree. All that fades away and eventually leaves you.

some people cannot stand the idea of being alone by themselves for an hour. they are afraid to look inside, but if you dare to look inside of yourself, you will find pure raw diamonds and gold.

I've learned to generate my own happiness and passion anytime anywhere, and this is priceless, its a feeling that noone or nothing else could give me. When you can do this, and you have excessive amounts of self generated happiness, it overflows, and it expands out, and people notice, not only do they notice, but you want to share your hapiness with others.

at this stage, when you talk to another person, you are genuinely trying to make that person feel better by sharing your inner happiness, instead of trying to get something from them

i'm talking from inner experience here, not something cute I read, I'm truly living this words, and its magical.

so here is the message, find ways to connect and find your inner self, to generate your own happiness. when you have a perfect inner relationship with yourself, so much self love, by default you will start to accept others, to enjoy other's company, the connection with other people will be automatic, and magnetic.

 

[Brandon85]

Pipe,

Couldn't agree with more.

To be yourself, you need to know yourself and to know yourself, you need to be honest with yourself. Painfully honest.

I don't have game or ill skills. People are naturally attracted to me. I have strangers everyday striking up conversations with me despite me not saying a word to them.

Why? Because I am truly and fully comfortable with myself and people can sense it.

Great writing and I loved reading it! You know exactly what you are talking about!

Cheers!