"Walking Away" - simple but effective

[fight4life]

What's up board,

Been dating a few girls here and there when recently this just came into mind. There is one girl that actually broke up with her bf to start dating me, but I gave her too much power with taking her out to nice restaurants and supplicating to requests. She's told me herself that she's attracted to badboys and want man who won't take her ****. So, she starts bull****ting 2 weeks ago and not returning a phone call and message, being too aloof. I called her on it, basically handed her ass to her on the phone and hung up on her. Pretty much unloaded on her. Spoke with her the next day and here's the best part - she told me she liked it. Yea, she's a ****in nutjob. I told her I was sorry if I made her upset but don't take back what I said, it needed to be said. Messed it up though by surprising her with flowers (supplicating.)

Coming from an intellgent and authentic place inside of me, I really don't have any attraction for this girl anymore. As you might guess, the only times she has put in commitment is when I'm out of reach. But now I'm ending it. She's too aloof and I would be better cutting this off and stop playing the guessing game.

Here's my thing: Going to text her saying something like "i cant see you anymore... call me if you want but take care."

If she calls, I'm just going to say she's being too aloof and I really deserve better than that. Just looking for any input you all might have.

Any suggestions are appreciated.
Thanks

 

[COD]

UMMM omit the call me if you want option.........JUST NEXT HER........it appears you want to be the mature one by cutting her out of your life.

Dont say when she calls...........JUST DO IT........hang up if she calls........nexting (sometimes) has a way of the other person trying harder to get with you. But the key to remember is MOVE ON and not give them another thought........FOCUS ON A NEW CHIC.

WAY TOO MUCH ENERGY EXPELLED THINKING UP CLEVER THINGS TO SAY IF/WHEN THEY CALL U BACK............DUMPT THAT B itch by just truncating all forms of cumminication.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

I wouldn't rip into her on the phone but I'd definitely make fun of her if she started trying to be cool by not returning phone calls. I'd say something like "Just cause Dr. Phil's relationship book says you aren't allowed to call me back the same day, there are exceptions".

 

[Obsidian]

gracious, fight4life, you're seriously f*cking things up. Women need a REAL MAN, not a wuss. The only unusual thing here is that the girl is actually accurate and honest about her preferences. Why don't you read the damn Bible and quit taking sh1t and apologizing to people.

 

[fight4life]

Obsidian, you're right. I read that and I want to curse her the fuk out again on the phone or better yet in person. But then again, its like it doesn't even matter anymore. I'm taking time to focus on myself, what's goin on inside because there's something to that oneitis and supplication. There's an insecurity there that I've located and it's turning things around. Something snapped and things are changing. 90% of my time should be spent on my psychology and what's going on inside.

Truth is, all her friends think I'm hot as ****. Wouldn't that be great if I fuked her friends? That's gonna be fun, because I can get to her best friends and even her sister...

Nonetheless, this is a boot in the ass.

 

[Boschy]

Hey whatever happened, happened. Don't beat yourself up about it. That will push you further backwards, killing your confidence and turning this minor episode into an emotionally negative memory.

So it wasn't good but you still have all of your limbs and wedding tackle. No eyes gouged out or footage of public humiliation playing on YouTube. Potholes on the road of life should not even slow you down, much less stop the journey.

Just imagine how much she would have twisted you up if it kept going. You're golden! Move on.

 

[fight4life]

I texted her last night saying "and grow the fuk up. you lie and manipulate and your bull**** will get you nowhere. take some responsibility for urself. you'll never find a better guy than me. good luck"

So after ignoring my texts earlier in the day, this gets her attention and she texts back "if ur saying that i cant find a better guy than u you're sadly mistaken. your texts are verbally abusive and im not sure whats goin on with u bc u obviously have issues and u should never speak to someone like that. i thought you were different"

I then text back "I treated u well bc i actually cared about you - a lot. but you bull**** and play games. im not dealin with that bull**** anymore. i deserve better than that"

And thats it. No other contact and I'm lovin it. The inner ***** wants to say sorry if your feelings are hurt but I mean what I said and I'm not dealing with you. The inner man inside of me is saying "no, you know what's going on here. She's not what you thought she was and she's trying to tangle you up again. As tough as it might be, never talk to her again unless she calls you. Even if she does call months or years down the road and has shown she has changed, it would be in your best interests to tell her no."

So that's the spot I'm in, it's toughening me up. I woke up this morning feeling a little like **** but then I just reminded myself of all her bull****. You see the texts, she's obviously trying to spin this into me being the problem and me being the cause. It's the game of "offender play victim." Truth is, I did care about this one but not enough to give up who I am inside, nobody is worth that.

Any further input is appreciated. Otherwise, I'm done.
I have the most incredible life imaginable and as far as my dating life, it's time I start meeting other women and working on my own self.

 

[OneEyedJack]

You went against the good DJ advice, and AFC'd her.

She was right, you were verbally abusive. When you texted her, it was unprovoked. You engaged in passive-agressive behaviour when you texted.
I don't know how much you know about dog training, but it is of no use to scold a dog 3 hours after he sh1t on the carpet, you have to do it in the moment. You scolded your dog a couple days after she sh1t your life.

I know you are new and a beginner, but for future reference, it isn't cool, and it is a manifestation of insecurity.

 

[Skytzo_Marc]

I texted her last night saying "and grow the fuk up. you lie and manipulate and your bull**** will get you nowhere. take some responsibility for urself. you'll never find a better guy than me. good luck"

That was weak man. Only weak men say "you'll never find someone better than me" crap. People with real confidence don't need to go out and hurt people like that. If you had real confidence, you'd realize that you can find someone better for yourself and that you don't need to waste your time with her anymore.

 

[mrRuckus]

I texted her last night saying "and grow the fuk up. you lie and manipulate and your bull**** will get you nowhere. take some responsibility for urself. you'll never find a better guy than me. good luck"

There's a reason why "frustrated" is the middle word of AFC.

Be relaxed and cool with the womenfolk, dude. They shouldn't get to you.

 

[dot]

You talk about walking away being effective, but everything in this thread points to you not letting go.

 

[fight4life]

I have a really bad temper and I definately showed my total fukin ******* side there. I just ran into an old friend and he pretty much told me everything that everybody else says about her... all the bad stuff that she says she doesn't do.

OneEyedJack... no your mistaken here. She ignored texts from earlier in the day saying that I wanted to stop seeing her and I've told her that sh-t won't fly anymore. She was doing it again then and that's when I told her to take some responsibility for what she fails to do.

dot... I don't let any of this show on the surface to anybody else. I went out tonight and had a damn good time. I talked to so many beautiful women (college beach town) and it was a breath of fresh air.

I'm not even pissed at her, I'm just pissed because I thought she was somebody else and she turned out being exactly what I was hoping she wasn't. I have this idea of a really sweet, innocent, smart girl that will faithful and loyal that I need to either get more realistic on or drop all together. In a way, I'm angry at the world. But it's unraveling because a lot of my beliefs were bullsh-t.

Point taken. I should've handled it with more restraint. I'm taking some time off to have fun, clear my head, and in some time I'll bury the hatchet with her. I'll always care about the girl because part of her is really good inside, regardless of the less respectful things she does on a consistent basis.

Peace.

 

[Ace_McGregor]

You probably would have been better off with a Ganji Game. Sometimes the best action is no action at all.