Walking approaches.....any advice from experienced guys?

[L777]

Yea, so I'm fine with approaching, bookshops, food court etc. but something I haven't got down yet is walking approaches. Sometimes I'll be walking back from the gym and there'll be a girl I wanna open heading in the same direction, but I always have the thought in my head that, if she doesn't seem interested, I have a 5 minute walk back to my dorm, and I'll be next to her: i.e very awkward.

I also can't really do the other kind of walking approach, the one where you're going in the opposite direction....I just feel uncomfortable stopping a girl...and I never can think of a decent opener in this situation either.

I proably spend like an hour a day walking around my campus as its fairly large, so I'm missing a lot of oppurtunities....any advice on what to do and how to do it would be AWESOME. Cheers!

 

[L777]

Bloody hell....I know there's a few KJ's on here, but does no-one do these approaches?

Gimme something to work with here

 

[Beffing]

Ask her is she knows where a building on campus is, and you already know where is is obviously, but make it sound like youre unsure of where it exactly is and plan it so you KNOW shes headed in that direction... then work your magic

 

[wjh]

Who cares if it's awkward?

Awkward for who, and why?

Don't think about it, just say hi. If she rejects you, in any number of ways, then forget it and go about your business.

 

[Evolution]

I also can't really do the other kind of walking approach, the one where you're going in the opposite direction....I just feel uncomfortable stopping a girl...and I never can think of a decent opener in this situation either.

If your facing the girl you'd better off being polite. As much as I hate saying it, say "Excuse me."

If shes in back of you slow down, bust out the phone and pretend to be texting.
When you sense shes right behind, BAM open over the shoulder.

You can open entire groups like that.


Or you can walk aside her, and say "excuse me, blah blah."

 

[Snow Plowman]

Don't get caught up on openers all they are is to start conversation, your off it as quick as you started it.

If a chick is moving just tap her and open it's as simple as that. If she is walking the opposite direction especially if it's in a very busy city, then open her about 10ft away from you that way if she doesn't hear you, has her ipod on, etc she has time to register what your saying before she gets passed you. As opposed to opening her just before she past you causing her not to register it quickly and just walking away.

So when you open chicks going in the opposite direction just keep talking and don't move, she'll eventually come back. Reason you don't want to move is because you want to stay in your reality and you don't want to chase. (Don't get limited by this)

 

[Bigdavis]

I had a hottie open with me this morning while walking to my building. I made small talk, asked her where she worked, she asked which bldg i worked in, etc and that was it. I would just feel weird asking someone out on the street for her number.

 

[cyp6]

Hi usaly works. were you going also works!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Yea, so I'm fine with approaching, bookshops, food court etc. but something I haven't got down yet is walking approaches. Sometimes I'll be walking back from the gym and there'll be a girl I wanna open heading in the same direction, but I always have the thought in my head that, if she doesn't seem interested, I have a 5 minute walk back to my dorm, and I'll be next to her: i.e very awkward.

I also can't really do the other kind of walking approach, the one where you're going in the opposite direction....I just feel uncomfortable stopping a girl...and I never can think of a decent opener in this situation either.

I proably spend like an hour a day walking around my campus as its fairly large, so I'm missing a lot of oppurtunities....any advice on what to do and how to do it would be AWESOME. Cheers!

Hey buddy! Glad u made this topic. The first thing you should do is realize that stopping a moving girl may seem hard to most guys out there but its the most rewarding. Why? Because it blows a girl away when done right. She doesn't expect it and it brightens her day up ten fold.

But on to stopping them. If they're walking ahead....try this. Many of these guys on sosuave will tell you "Oh do don't do that! She'll just walk away!" Bologna! I've done this countless times and this is from my experience. Aright, if they're walking ur direction....have a confident genuine smile on ur face...as they are about 5-10 feet away stick up ur hand and say "Stop! " With a enthusiastic expression on ur face. 9/10 they will stop. Some will ignore/walk away but ITS rare. Then say ur opening. Direct is best with this. It sweeps them off their feet. Remember, go up to the hottest girls with this/ones u truly find desirable as it'll show on ur face if ur genuine or not.

If they're in front of u....just say "STOP " they'll wonder who it is, make sure u have a smile on ur face here too. Then say the same thing.

If they're right next to u walking, just smile and say hi. then say ur opening line.

Remember, e/c is important. While u begin talking, talk to her eyes . Then of course comes the interaction.

 

[kidkris2007]

It's a pretty common consensus among everyone in my lair that directness is the most successful method for day game. Just walk up to her and say something (in your own words) like "Hey, I just saw you over there and I just wanted to come over and get to know you better." At this point they'll be kinda nervous so you better steer the convo into something like, "You seem like you're from New York/Cali/Detriot, you remind me of a friend who lives there....." Then talk about your friend, the location, etc. and if they're talking then LISTEN. Eventually say, hey I gotta get back to my workout but I'd like to get your phone number and hang out sometime. Keep it short since you're just going for the number at this point.

The rules are totally different for day game vs. night game.

 

[Mad Manic]

Waste of time in general, girls are too sought after at uni to take these types of approaches seriously unless you really are a top dog in terms of looks, body, social status etc. Maybe you are, I couldn't say. Unless they are foreign and then they'll see dating you as going up a class = easy pray. As for opening, simple; ask them a question, but show some personality and throw in a light hearted comment after asking the question, then when she answers, BAM transition fast and get into a convo. Even something like, "Hey hang on you look familar come to think of it, aren't you ..." and that can set off a convo leading to a close. And yes I have done it before. Not got laid from this but got number closes and venue changes and yes from attractive girls. The lay part afterwards is something you'd probably be better at than me tbh.

MM

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Who cares if some of these girls are too sought after...ur different than those guys. U don't just "hit on them". U "seduce" them. University girls like the approach....it doesn't happen to them much. C'mon dude....u've gotten more lays than me and u should know this already. U already are a top dog as long as u believe it!

 

[ChrizZ]

Waste of time in general, girls are too sought after at uni to take these types of approaches seriously unless you really are a top dog in terms of looks, body, social status etc. Maybe you are, I couldn't say. Unless they are foreign and then they'll see dating you as going up a class = easy pray. As for opening, simple; ask them a question, but show some personality and throw in a light hearted comment after asking the question, then when she answers, BAM transition fast and get into a convo. Even something like, "Hey hang on you look familar come to think of it, aren't you ..." and that can set off a convo leading to a close. And yes I have done it before. Not got laid from this but got number closes and venue changes and yes from attractive girls. The lay part afterwards is something you'd probably be better at than me tbh.

MM

bull****.

L777:

If she is going the opposite way:

Ask for directions. Preferably a place that is in the same direction where she is going.

From there stack the openers. Then it's business as usual from there.


If she is going your way:

"Yeah, so I'm not really following you. I'm just going the same way..."

and then stack your openers from there.

 

[Mad Manic]

bull****.

L777:

If she is going the opposite way:

Ask for directions. Preferably a place that is in the same direction where she is going.

From there stack the openers. Then it's business as usual from there.


If she is going your way:

"Yeah, so I'm not really following you. I'm just going the same way..."

and then stack your openers from there.

Basically the same advice I gave, just reworded. I was just saying success from this tends to be very low unless you are a top dog, because at uni she has many guys in her social network. Logically if she sees you as equivalent to guys in her network, she'll prefer them as she has established a bond with them. So you're going to need to be better. Btw your last piece of advice is too 'forward' in that situation unless you get IOIs from her.

MM

 

[ChrizZ]

Basically the same advice I gave, just reworded. I was just saying success from this tends to be very low unless you are a top dog, because at uni she has many guys in her social network. Logically if she sees you as equivalent to guys in her network, she'll prefer them as she has established a bond with them. So you're going to need to be better. Btw your last piece of advice is too 'forward' in that situation unless you get IOIs from her.

MM

openers are the last thing to worry about.

An opener should just get her attention.

Important is what you do after the opener.

Of course your game needs to be better than the other chumps out there to get a hot chick.

Nobody denies that.

 

[Mad Manic]

openers are the last thing to worry about.

An opener should just get her attention.

Important is what you do after the opener.

Of course your game needs to be better than the other chumps out there to get a hot chick.

Nobody denies that.

Not all guys are chumps you know, another myth. There has to be a decent amount of guys getting girls into bed after all. I also disagree here, on a walking street approach the opener is important because you need to stop her moving and/or prevent her creep alarm ticking off. In a club it doesn't matter too much.

MM

 

[magnet7]

Here's the best advice you'll ever receive in this thread about doing same direction walking cold approaches: DO NOT DO IT.

Listen to MadManic, he has a point.

The problem with most guys here is you guys think you have to be approaching all the time. Like you feel bad if you don't. Approaching has to come naturally, don't force it.

You said yourself that you're fine approaching everywhere else...but are you really? I mean, if you're already great at approaching everywhere else, then you should be closing these girls and getting laid. If you're really doing all these other approaches and doing good, then you would be getting so much ass you wouldn't be able to keep up.

Unfortunately I think you're only good at the "approaching" itself, and not very successful at the closing part. Now keep reading, because I have a good tip to help you below. Instead of figuring all sorts of different ways to approach, try working on your actual success rate. It's about quality, not who can do 3000 approaches in any and every single way.

Answer this question: Of all the approaches you've done, how many dates have you gotten, make-out sessions, lays, relationships, etc.?

Personally, I think a cold approach walking in the same direction is terrible because you don't really have the chance to make eye contact. I mean, either she's behind you, or you're behind her. If you're walking side by side, you still have to FORCE eye contact.

The whole idea of cold approaches, and why women like men who do them is because they believe in all the magical destiny, chance, luck and that other aquarias and gemini mumbo jumbo bs. So when you're cold approaching, it has to be as though it was completely by luck. It should NOT come off like you do it all the time.

It should be like you've never done it before, and that the two of you just randomly met and it was somehow 'meant to be' ......that's my success rate is so good at approaching, personally.

I wrote this thread for you personally L777, and because I think other guys here could use some tips. I think if I posted it all in your thread it would get lost, and since a lot of people ask the same questions it will be easier to search for in its own separate thread. I don't think my skills are a big deal nor is anything i've done, but I just want to share my experiences: How to Successfuly Approach and Close Girls While Walking - my method from experience

 

[L777]

Here's the best advice you'll ever receive in this thread about doing same direction walking cold approaches: DO NOT DO IT.

Listen to MadManic, he has a point.

The problem with most guys here is you guys think you have to be approaching all the time. Like you feel bad if you don't. Approaching has to come naturally, don't force it.

You said yourself that you're fine approaching everywhere else...but are you really? I mean, if you're already great at approaching everywhere else, then you should be closing these girls and getting laid. If you're really doing all these other approaches and doing good, then you would be getting so much ass you wouldn't be able to keep up.

Unfortunately I think you're only good at the "approaching" itself, and not very successful at the closing part. Now keep reading, because I have a good tip to help you below. Instead of figuring all sorts of different ways to approach, try working on your actual success rate. It's about quality, not who can do 3000 approaches in any and every single way.

Answer this question: Of all the approaches you've done, how many dates have you gotten, make-out sessions, lays, relationships, etc.?

Personally, I think a cold approach walking in the same direction is terrible because you don't really have the chance to make eye contact. I mean, either she's behind you, or you're behind her. If you're walking side by side, you still have to FORCE eye contact.

The whole idea of cold approaches, and why women like men who do them is because they believe in all the magical destiny, chance, luck and that other aquarias and gemini mumbo jumbo bs. So when you're cold approaching, it has to be as though it was completely by luck. It should NOT come off like you do it all the time.

It should be like you've never done it before, and that the two of you just randomly met and it was somehow 'meant to be' ......that's my success rate is so good at approaching, personally.

I wrote this thread for you personally L777, and because I think other guys here could use some tips. I think if I posted it all in your thread it would get lost, and since a lot of people ask the same questions it will be easier to search for in its own separate thread. I don't think my skills are a big deal nor is anything i've done, but I just want to share my experiences: How to Successfuly Approach and Close Girls While Walking - my method from experience

I'm sorry but this is the worst answer!!

First you say don't bother....thats not an answer to the question I asked.

Second you say I don't close.... OK.

Then you say do approach...and tak your advice....?! No I think I'll pass actually.

Thanks for the other responses though.

 

[Mad Manic]

I'm sorry but this is the worst answer!!

First you say don't bother....thats not an answer to the question I asked.

Second you say I don't close.... OK.

Then you say do approach...and tak your advice....?! No I think I'll pass actually.

Thanks for the other responses though.

That's because you're not clever and you aren't very good at reading. He was saying that most guys approach for approach sake and see success in doing that by itself, but as a proportion their success rate is poor. It becomes even worse with moving targets because the girls are less inclined to stop and let you game then than if they were still. He is also right in that cold approaches lead to lays if they seem not forced. If it looks like you're on the prowl your chances of success are less.

I'm also surprised you made this thread in the 1st place. If you are as clever and as much of a pimp as you claim to be, it doesn't take much brain power to figure out how to stop a moving target and game her. If you know what a question is and what transitioning is you're sorted.

MM

 

[L777]

That's because you're not clever and you aren't very good at reading. He was saying that most guys approach for approach sake and see success in doing that by itself, but as a proportion their success rate is poor. It becomes even worse with moving targets because the girls are less inclined to stop and let you game then than if they were still. He is also right in that cold approaches lead to lays if they seem not forced. If it looks like you're on the prowl your chances of success are less.

I'm also surprised you made this thread in the 1st place. If you are as clever and as much of a pimp as you claim to be, it doesn't take much brain power to figure out how to stop a moving target and game her. If you know what a question is and what transitioning is you're sorted.

MM

Whatever mate...either say something constructive or don't say anything.