<sigh> Ok, a couple things Davie-J...
I repeat: there is no confusion unless it's intentional. There is confusion, she intends that and--surprise (really, not)--you just don't get it, you don't understand it, you...
...you were probably listening to what she's saying and not paying attention to what she's doing.
We had a succinct observation on that somewhere here, right? I think it went: "pay attention to what they do, not what they say". I have found this simple, fundamental observation usually clears up many confusing situations for me.
In your case:
---she says: "I wanna get laid and laid by you."
---what happens? You should be mounting her within 3 minutes (those damn bras are still so tricky to get off!) of that discussion. But it doesn't happen, does it?
---Whoa! Lest we forget: what are we paying attention to?
Action--only action.
As in: she's not getting mounted and mounted by you.
What is happening is that it's awkward, it's weird, it's uncomfortable, it's confusing and it just doesn't ever happen. This is her BL or your gut talking to you! -- which is coming from her -- which is what she consciously or unconsciously intends -- which is no accident!
Nothing to understand, really. Here is where "why is it, though--???!" is just an unhelpful question that will only lead you into your own mind-fvck. Any answer she gives you will be bogus and/or misleading. She probably doesn't know, and if she did, she probably wouldn't tell you since it would be socially awkward. And even if someone could give you the straight answer, you could't do anything with it.
Accept this: it just IS. That's as deep as it'll ever go.
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Other points: if you never made a move, nothing would ever happen.
Granted, part of the dance of seduction is that the girl quietly lets the guy know it's safe to approach / guy approaches and initiates contact / girl makes decision for sex based on this interaction and replies back with kino, smile, etc. / guy initiates / girl responds-------Ok, that's way over simplified, not true for all cases, wrong in some particulars, whatever--what I'm saying is that you initiating and her not responding is wrong somewhere. She should be involved in the give and take of all this. This is a major RED flag and her hotness is clouding your judgment.
Do you really need a trophy fvck outa this girl--??? I've had mine, sure, and I knew it was a trophy fvck when I was doing it. And she may sense this from you, too, and it gives her all the power.
Ultimately, you didn't know enough to know this was a losing game. That's fine, it's a learning situation. Soon enough you'll know fairly early whether anything is worth pursuing or not. This one isn't. You should've cut your losses long ago, do so now.
Unless you ready badly need a trophy fvck outa this one.
