Wading through "Mixed Signals" to determine TRUE INTEREST LEVEL

[NeverFear]

I had a recent date that started slow but wound up really great. We basically spent a day together doing breakfast, going out the the country, and being spontaneous.

Her SIGNALS got stronger and stronger. She gave me compliments, touched my hand, laughed at my jokes, and seemed in tune with my ****y and funny thing.

YESTERDAY (five day wait) i talked to her on the phone and she basically gave me the friends speech and told me there was no chemistry. I told her I wasn't interested in being friends without dating her. Move on.

I say all this because determining interest level is sometimes complex. I'm gonna throw down a few things and hope you guys add to the list. TRUE INTEREST LEVEL:

1. She chases YOU on some level. In other words, she's not just "AGREEING" to spend time with you because it is your idea. BTW, women will make it obvious they want to spend time with you. But apathy is NOT an interest level signal.

2. There are some indications that she wants to go out with you more exclusively. Also, you might see a little bit of jealousy.

3. She offers to PAY for stuff.

4. She wants you to meet her parents and family.

5. You arrive at the point where you begin to talk about your long term goals and dreams

6. She is getting to know "the real you", warts and all, and she seems to like you more and more.

7. SHe is comfortable with eye contact

 

[expensive]

8. she responds well to your initiations

9. psycological boundaries (aka: the "no fly zone") start fading.

10. she goes out of her way to make your life easier.

Expensive

 

[chlywly]

Sometimes they may show interest and be interested but for one reason or another they lose it abruptly; due to another flame, worries, fears, anything really... Happens No worries, interest level can only be sifted through action.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Interest level is unpredictable. One day at a time, One moment at a time. After about 6+ months of bullcrap - she may lower her guard to be completely with you.

 

[legolas]

Originally posted by NeverFear

I say all this because determining interest level is sometimes complex. I'm gonna throw down a few things and hope you guys add to the list. TRUE INTEREST LEVEL:

Yeah, you're right!!

A lot of girls will show signs that may seem on the outside as ILS (Interest Level Signals) but that in fact she could be just having fun and it's her way of having some fun. I used to decide IL on many common signals that you've posted here and didn't do much about it, but I saw later that it may have not been true.

1. She chases YOU on some level. In other words, she's not just "AGREEING" to spend time with you because it is your idea. BTW, women will make it obvious they want to spend time with you. But apathy is NOT an interest level signal.

2. There are some indications that she wants to go out with you more exclusively. Also, you might see a little bit of jealousy.

3. She offers to PAY for stuff.

Actually number 1, is THE signal. If you look for nothing else, look for this one. I have experienced this one myself, and can say with confidence that it is one of the most important ones out there.

On number 2, I think I have to add "She asks you out" I've had a girl ask me out, after she had displayed the "chasing" behavior, so I can say for sure that this is also important. The reason why you wait 3, 4, 5 days to call her is mainly to gauge her interest, and if she doesn't display any of that "chasing" behavior then it's probably low IL.

This is not etched in stone, as my manager likes to say, because some girls are shy and will not call you, but you have to at some point pull away in order to gauge the chasing.

I like this post. Please reply to this one if you have some good stuff to add, that has worked for you.

 

[violator]

There is really no formula or a check list to sift though to know when a woman is genuinely interested in you. It is not rocket science, really.

Look at how many posts there are written by confused and over analytical guys agonizing over what a particular girl meant by her words or actions in order to determine her interest level. I used to be one of these guys.

In my experience, women will let you know pretty clearly that they like you. The key is CONSISTENCY. An interested woman is constitent in her actions. She will constitently return your calls. She will constitently go out with you on dates. She will constitently appear happy to see you. She will constitently respond positively when you touch or kiss her, etc., etc. And most importantly, she will usually have sex with you by the third or fourth date or within a month of dating her.

Your mind simply will not be confused by her actions or words. If your gut tells you that she is not good or if you have a gnawing feeling of doubt about the girl, then she probably is not genuinely interested and has ulterior motives.

My life has been made that much easier by immediately cutting off women who give off mixed signals. The moment she winces at my touch or turns the cheek when I kiss close her or is difficult to get a date with or does not return my phone calls, etc., she is gone. Plain and simple.

 

[Ice Cold]

There are 3 tests for IL:

1 digits
2 kiss
3 pvssy

Anything else can be frendsh1t

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Ice Cold and violator are right. If she isn't responsive to touch and she gives you the cheek at the end of the date then go home and toss the number in the trash.