lcn1 said:
Hello all
I am in a bit of a situation with a Woman that I met a year ago. We met online and met for coffee and I went to her house and hung out.
So,you met this chick
A YEAR ago.
Met her in 2014,and here,now
HALFWAY THROUGH 2015,you're
STILL TRYING to get a dating relationship with her.
You say that you did have an initial date with her,met her for coffee,then afterwards hung out at her place.
Umm....
WHAT HAPPENED when you were over at her house? It'd seem to me that if she invited you over to her house on the first date,that she'd have been open to something sexual going down between you two......
BUT the first thing you said after mentioning going over to her place was the abuse she suffered from her ex.
So I take it you went to her place,and you two just talked......about the abuse and some other stuff. Correct? If so,
THAT'S WHERE you f*cked up. If a chick invites you to her pad on the first date,she's likely looking for ACTION,not
therapy.
She has been abused by her former husband if that makes a difference.
WHEN did she tell you this? That's important.....
I have been trying to date her because I like her a lot (maybe I shouldn't have said that to her! ).
No....you shouldn't have told her that. Huge error my friend.
Well she is not going out with anyone but told me she needs a good friend...
She told you she needs a good friend. Then you should have
RECOMMENDED one. Then afterwards,you should have been flirting,making sexual innuendos,and asking her out....doing
MULTIPLE THINGS to get her to see/view you as a possible sexual option.
Fool. Uhh...I mean you shouldn't have agreed to it,or rather,you should have agreed to it
IN WORDS ONLY,while continue to show and display sexual interest through your
ACTIONS.
Then she said I miss going out and having company. So I asked her out many times and every time I get excuses why she doesn't have time?? So I get upset with her and leave her alone.
Within 2 weeks she calls me and says she wants company and to go out again. Then she avoids me again....we have been around this circle 10 times or more and I'm getting confused!
What did you say...that you're getting "confused"? lol? Well let's tally all this up right quick.....
You've been after this girl,trying to date her for
A YEAR...
She told you that she needs a "good friend",implying that YOU be that friend..
You've asked her out many times,and
EACH AND EVERY TIME she's given you an excuse as why she can't make it...
You back off 2 weeks,she calls you up telling you she misses going out,you ask her out,then she
AVOIDS YOU...
And lastly,you say this cat and mouse game of avoidance has happened
10 PLUS TIMES....
You've been going through
ALL THAT......but yet,you're "confused" by her??? You don't know whether she's interested or not??? :crackup:
I don't want to leave her in the dust because of her past abuse...
That's what's got you screwed up. Her past abuse is
NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
What do you want...you want to help her with her emotional issues,or do you want sex? You want to be her potential dating interest,or be her therapist?
because I care about her. Plese HELP!!!
LCN1
You screwed up dude. You're emotionally invested in a chick who's
PLAYING GAMES........and she's playing games because you're
EMOTIONALLY INVESTED.
how do I get her to do something with me? I know she likes me.
You
KNOW she likes you? And you know this based on what? Was it...
the year she's spent giving you the run-a-round?
Or...
her implying she wanted
YOU to be her friend?
Or...
One of the hundreds of excuses she comes up with everytime you ask her out?
Which one of these let's you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she likes you? Just curious.....
