Virgin FAQ

[ANIRBAN]

Hello,

I got caught the second time. The first one I dated..after second date I brought her home and then after we make out then I popped the question " r u a virgin"..she said yes..then I slowly backed off...

The second one told me that she is very liberal and we both because physical in the second date and got my fingers up her panty and then she says I am a virgin..now we do everytyhing except sex..but how long..I am getting frustrated..cant get out of it now..and not having an happy ending as well. As a person she is very nice , caring and loving..but I need a complete relationship..

so when can I ask whether she is a virgin or not?? I am fraid if I ask it too early during a date or should I ask during a make out session at my place..or is there a DJ way to find out...help guys !!

Anirban-who is still shaking his stick in a relationship !!

 

[Don_Marko]

wtf is the problem here????? There's a first time for everything... every woman has to lose virginity sometime

 

[ANIRBAN]

I understand but..

The problem is here these ladies dont want to loose it with me until they get married..they told me clearly..so I dont want to force them into somethin that they dont want !!

 

[So pimp its scary]

Posts like this make me die a little inside when I read them.

 

[TurboLover]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Posts like this make me die a little inside when I read them.

LOL

Virgins:

Work in does not equal work out. So if your in it for the lay don't waste your time, because when and if it does happen. You most likely be disappointed.

 

[PeeGee]

If you want sex and they don't, isn't that a conflict of interest you don't need? Dump them and see if they say yes. If not who cares?

 

[Ice Cold]

Her: I wanna wait till I marry?
Me: What is it that you do in bed that makes you so special?

 

[dietzcoi]

Of all western countries I think only the USA still has these nutty girls talking about waiting for marriage. If they really want to wait until marriage, why are they doing "everything but" fukking?

Ridiculous!

PR-L, looking for your take on this one !!!

Dietzcoi

 

[MacDiddy]

Don't Ask.... Problem solved. You ask you always put the control back into her court.

 

[Raptured Phoenix]

So whats the problem

If she said she want to wait until marriage, and both of your aren't married, then its obvious she won't have sex.

Secondly, why does it even matter if she is a virgin or not?

 

[Hurri]

tell her to marry some cvnt and then f*ck her.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

I remember girls in high school who said, "I wanna wait until marriage."

Funny thing is, by the time i turned 22, around 4 years after high school, some of these "virgin" girls had 2 kids already.

I guess immaculate conception is a common theme.

Unless the girl is really young, i wouldnt believe the bs.

She doesn't want to think shes a slut. She doesn't want others to think she's a slut.

Just make her feel comfortable with you and make her feel like she's all into you and having sex with you isn't about "sex" but about something more.

If you dont feel like doing that, then move on.

 

[Anaconda]

She's not into you deep enough. When she's head over heel over you, she'll rape you no questions asked. Now just go with the flow and enjoy what you can get. Keep pushing it, she's a human, too, so one of those days if you get her hot enough....especially right after her period. By the way, have you heard of hymenorraphy (hymen restoration, costs about $600-$1500) ? In this time and age, even Pamela Anderson can be a virgin now! So, to hell with all the virgin bullsh*t.

 

[Elfynne]

You also need to consider the fact that she may want to wait until marriage due to religious reasons. If she is a serious person of faith, then she would have been taught that sex before marriage is morally wrong and a sin. It's a common tenet in many religions.

Sometimes it's not such a bad thing when a woman wants to wait. It shows that she has ideals and priorities, and also self-respect. Could you honestly respect a woman who put out on the first date?

 

[SDBmania]

Originally posted by Elfynne
You also need to consider the fact that she may want to wait until marriage due to religious reasons. If she is a serious person of faith, then she would have been taught that sex before marriage is morally wrong and a sin. It's a common tenet in many religions.

Sometimes it's not such a bad thing when a woman wants to wait. It shows that she has ideals and priorities, and also self-respect. Could you honestly respect a woman who put out on the first date?

Good point. Honor also comes into question here. She obviously has a different view about sex, which you should respect. Chances are, she won't betray her beliefs. She's looking for love and if that means you can't love her without having sex, then I doubt that this will work.

 

[splinterkb]

Don't let sex rule your relationship. If you want a secret thats kind of manipulating.... tell her you don't know if you're ready yet. This will give her your full trust, and then procede from there.

 

[Superman X]

Posts like this make me die a little inside when I read them.

Hahahahahaha!

If you idiots get stopped by every BS objection a girl gives to sex, you'd never get laid. Go for it, and if she stops you say "I respect that." Then do it again in 15 minutes . Repeat as necessary.

-Dan

 

[MackJr]

Originally posted by Elfynne

Sometimes it's not such a bad thing when a woman wants to wait. It shows that she has ideals and priorities, and also self-respect. Could you honestly respect a woman who put out on the first date?

Absolutely. I wouldn't want to waste my time on a prude with issues. If we're having sex fairly quickly, I know not to worry about that. This "not being sexual equals respect" is a sort of juvenile attitude, what turns men into AFCs. It's important to shake free of it at somepoint, because it's really just an attitude parents give their children so they don't end up pregnant or getting someone else pregnant too early.

 

[MackJr]

Originally posted by Superman X
Hahahahahaha!

If you idiots get stopped by every BS objection a girl gives to sex, you'd never get laid. Go for it, and if she stops you say "I respect that." Then do it again in 15 minutes . Repeat as necessary.

-Dan

Superman X's approach is pretty close to the mark. I'll describe what you're supposed to do in more detail: this is very explicit

You're with the girl, and you haven't had sex together for the first time yet. (It's much faster after the first time).

So you're sitting together on the couch, making out. Maybe you're kissing on the lips, or on the neck or you've started to touch each other. These are distinct stages.

1.The thing you have to do is progress to new stages and stay there for a while.

2. So you're kissing for a while, then you start kissing her body and do this for a while, letting her reciprocate some, but you're always taking the lead.

3. At some point, you might start removing each other's clothes. So you do this and keep going until you're having sex.

4. However this is a mindful process. You're paying attention to her, to note when she's being resistant, when she's getting into it. If she ever resists, physically, or verbally, go back to the prior stage and do something there for a while, to let her get into the mood. Keep this non-verbal. Later, come back to it, the thing she resisted on, and see if there's resistance. There might not be any. If she resists again, go back to the prior stage again, and repeat. If you get resistance twice on the same stage, you should probably let it go for the night; there may be a deeper issue.

5. As far as putting it in, the final stage, you have to be very careful about this because the rape laws cut into natural human behavior a little bit, and sex isn't worth 6 years in prison. I've usually had [the woman] asking me to put it in because I've taken the time to get her worked up, which makes everything flow smoothly. If you're about to put in, make sure you're looking at her face, and that you're in tune with her mood, which you'd think would be so if you got this far.

Once you're in, you're in. It's a lot easier after the first encounter. you can verbally say, "let's have sex", when doing this beforehand wouldn't work.

 

[MackJr]

Gunwitch also mentions the technique I wrote about in section 14.1 of his webpage. I'm not making this up.