Views on going downtown...and not for shopping

[Trapspringer]

Well, wrote a little earlier about this situation but here is a brief over-view. Met HB with long-distance boyfriend few weeks ago. We hung out three times now. Each time there was a lot of fun and we enjoyed each other’s company. The second time she spent the night at my place. We got a little freaky in bed but didn’t go all the way. She told me I had to work for it.

Anyway, it seems as if she likes me. She almost always calls me first and suggests dates to hook up.

Now, she is hinting around that she wants me to go “down town” on her. She says it is the only way she can achieve an orgasm. Considering how fine and down-to-Earth she is, I really wouldn’t mind doing this but I am not sure if she is just looking to have this done and only saving the poo tang for her BF. I don’t want to look like a sucker in the end. So I am wondering how can I do this without looking like a sucker or should I just avoid it all together? I am not looking for her to return the favor.

I just want some views on going south. Would it be too soon? Should I wait until after I hit it, etc.?

 

[RazzleDazzle]

Sounds to me like she is just horny and your the closest honey right now. If you want to be used go for it, but get something in return. Otherwise i'd be pushing her to go solo with just you, no "long distance boyfriend". That **** never works (ok rarely).

 

[RazzleDazzle]

And another thing it's total bull**** when women say they can't get an orgasm unless a certain thing is done. That's mental, a woman can get an orgasm just because you kissed her. No joke either, i've done it. I had my girl take off all her clothes and slowly kissed my way up her body, skipping her sweet spot entirely and she had an orgasm by mid stomach. She just closed her eyes and concentrated. And then bam *gasp* and she looked at me all startled. It pisses me off to this day when i hear a woman say that she can't get an orgasm. It's because she mentally blocks it from happening.

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

If she makes a statement "you have to earn it, and you can only earn it by going down on me," then you can say "wow. that's kinda funny, because I only go down on girls that give me a bj first."


-- Zero-

 

[Trapspringer]

Any more suggestions? I could use as many as I can get to help me reach a final plan. She will be over in a few hours.



Trap

 

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Originally posted by Trapspringer
Any more suggestions? I could use as many as I can get to help me reach a final plan. She will be over in a few hours.
Trap

yeah heres one, stop jumping through her hoops.

you have to earn it?

 

[The Irish Tongue]

Zero has the right idea...

She told you you have to work for the nookie, well, she has to work for the tongue.

Women often forget its a two way street, and need to be reminded in no uncertain terms. Thats why I'm such a fan of 69, you both get your jollies, and after the first finishes the other one wraps the rest up.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Go down on her then when she is almost there, whip it out and slide it in her. She won't refuse at that moment.

 

[Demon]

I gotta work for the nookie
What!?
The nookie
What!?

 

[Trapspringer]

Well, I decided to cancel the date last night to not be tempted to "jump through her hoops." Well, It wouldn't have exactly been jumping through her hoops since I don't have problems pleasing but in the context of this situation I realize that it would be different.

So now I am going to pull back for a while and see what happens. No more calls or emails for a while.



Trap

 

[Vronski]

She told me I had to work for it.

Anyway, it seems as if she likes me. She almost always calls me first and suggests dates to hook up.

As people mentioned, "work for it" was a **** test. A test for desperation and you failed it. You have to assume that you are the macho man with tons of chicks and you need to truly beleive that she will get as much out of sex as you will do.

So you should've acted quite cold and show her that you will not be intimidated like this. That if she's giving you any more "demands" like this, you'll leave. Of course you have to be ready to leave at any moment also.

Read up on the "returning fox theory".


A bit on the psychological side: she's ready to have sex with you, but wants to feel in control of the process. Maybe if can provide that you still get some pvssy, but don't expect a solid relationship after that.

Find more chicks. Looks like you're new to this board and you're doing very good. You almost shagged a chick and you still can, but you failed to establish the control and a proper power relationship with her. Right now she's the one who leads and you're the one who follows. It should be the other way around. Find more chicks and practice the mentality. Umm... read Ross's rules for being a man...

Cheers

 

[Trapspringer]

As people mentioned, "work for it" was a **** test. A test for desperation and you failed it

How did I fail? I didn't even go through with it. I even cancelled the date.