Not long ago a man, who I’d seen around a few times, approached me, telling me that I should be “very nervous” because he was going to “steal away” my girlfriend. I just gave him a dry look and said, “I don’t think that she would agree” and walked away.
There is a friend of mine, Gary. When I’m away or busy and my girlfriend, Lilly, wants to go out, often she’ll get Gary to go with her. She tells me that she likes it when Gary goes with her as his presence tends to keep other guys from hitting on her all the time. I refer to Gary affectionately as my Babe Sitter. One day Gary was telling me that there is this guy, John, who told Gary to quit hanging around Lilly and give other guys a chance to hang out with her. Lilly gave John a good talking to.
And, last night I was at a party and this guy approached me and started telling me how wonderful he thought Lilly was, how she is so beautiful and funny and on and on. He obviously had a thing for her and was frustrated as could be. As he spoke I watched as Lilly socialized with others, watched as other men became spellbound by her – including at least two who had previously professed their love for her. I thought, yes she is beautiful and interesting and entertaining… I also thought back to when I first met her and how I had my doubts as to her beauty and to her social habits, how I worried that she might not fit into my life.
I thought about how it had taken three or four months of being “friends” with her before deciding that I wanted a relationship with her. Yet here are these men, a seemingly endless stream of them, who barely know her, who profess their love for her and their willingness to take care of her for the rest of her life – if only they had a chance, if only I would step aside.
It’s not just with Lilly but most my past girlfriends and my friends, Mary, Amanda, Susan, Kathleen and all the others I’ve written about. It brings back memories of my old girlfriend, Tami, with whom I witnessed literally hundreds of men making a play for her, all to no avail. It was during my time with Tami that I first became aware of the so-called seduction community. It was while hanging with Tami that I first saw, first hand, the practice of what the seduction community teaches and came to the realization that much of that practice, just as hitting on women in general, is highly ineffectual.
This all comes back to the internal question that I sometimes ask myself, “why her, why me?” Why is it that a woman who can have seemingly any man she wants, pick the one who did very little, specifically, to attract her. And why is it that even with many women vying for my attention it seems that only certain ones matter.
What it all comes down to is that Lilly and I are of a type. Same with the others – we are of a type. It reminds me of the title of a book I used to have, To Catch a Mouse Make a Noise Like a Cheese. You don’t get women by gaming them, by seducing them, by picking them up. You get a woman by being the type of man she wants.
There is a reason people like Ketostix, STR8UP, Colossus, Phyzzle, KnotrollerX, and a few others are so insistent that I am a woman. You see, broadly speaking, there are two types of people in the world, those who figure things out for themselves, and those who need direction. The above are of the second type. That is why they are here. They couldn’t figure out how to get women on their own so they turned to others. Unfortunately the seduction community gets its knowledge base from characters like Mystery, Johnny Soporno, Tyler Durden, and here, Rollo Tomassi. All with flaws and none of them of the type that women naturally fall for. Yet they are the standard by which men here use to judge how a man should be.
Thus when they read the musings of a man, who women do naturally fall for, they do not recognize the thoughts of a real man. Doubt me? Just try to act like Mystery, mental illness and all, and watch women describe you as a creep. Follow David DeAngelo’s advice and watch women flake on you. Follow Johnny Soporno’s advice and watch strippers have you thrown out. Follow Tyler Durden’s advice and get beaten up. Follow Rollo’s advice and you’ll never discover that women are more than just a piece of a$$.
Most women don’t like to be hit on, especially the ones that get hit on all the time. Most women like a man that they can talk to. This isn’t the type of talk that is standard of the seduction community. Rather women like a man who they can talk to on a personal level, as a friend, someone they can trust, someone they can believe in. The secret is to find women who see the world as you do, women who are on your level. Relationships with women should never be power struggles, they should be cooperative efforts.
