video: I'm 37 and I've never had a girlfriend

[IKO69]

Shouldn't really beat up on him but at the same time he is a shining example of what not to do. He obviously has not tried very hard and isn't what people should aspire to. Not having a girl is one thing but he literally has NOTHING to show for his life.

 

[corrector]

What locale is that? There are a lot of places where the cost of housing is so ridiculous that living with the parents is necessary to build up a downpayment for one's own home.

Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

Yes, this city is one of the places that have tanked out as far as affordable houses are concerned. Millennials are thinking of moving out of the Greater Toronto Area altogether, but, even the prices there are too high.

 

[corrector]

Not having a girl is one thing but he literally has NOTHING to show for his life.

He's not in jail, or locked in a re-hab center for drugs, or having to pay child-support but owes huge debts where he can get arrested for it, or dying of AIDS in a hospital bed somewhere. At least he's not stealing money from his mother or robbing people to pay for hookers. There is REAL trouble out there. If you don't have that, then even nothing can be something.

 

[AJ84]

In

Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

Yes, this city is one of the places that have tanked out as far as affordable houses are concerned. Millennials are thinking of moving out of the Greater Toronto Area altogether, but, even the prices there are too high.

l live in Toronto too and read the same article about people planning to leave. In this city yeah, the cost of even renting now is high.
So maybe this guy lives in an expensive city and no he’s not a criminal, but he’s not taking care of himself as he should. Does he have to aim high? No. But he does have to aim, if for no other reason but out of respect and love for himself.

 

[IKO69]

He's not in jail, or locked in a re-hab center for drugs, or having to pay child-support but owes huge debts where he can get arrested for it, or dying of AIDS in a hospital bed somewhere. At least he's not stealing money from his mother or robbing people to pay for hookers. There is REAL trouble out there. If you don't have that, then even nothing can be something.

I'm aware he's not the scum of the earth, but he's hardly a model. He may very well be a great guy with a big heart, but he isn't an example to follow. He's 37 years old, when is he going to get moving? Sometimes **** happens and you need to make drastic changes in your life, such as a career change, and this might require you to start over. Some people are late bloomers and things only click later on in life....it's not clicking for this guy and frankly it doesn't seem like he's doing anything at all. He has been unemployed for close to a decade and is obese...at 37 it should've already dawned on you if you are in a similar position that you need to get your **** in order. You're not 22, or even 27, but 37.......the majority of the people he grew up with are married with kids and settled into their careers. The window is close to shutting for this guy unless he makes HUGE strides.

 

[Who Dares Win]

You can be a deadbeat or an ugly/fat guy but you cant be both if you want any intimacy from women.

Regarding that guy, in the current hypergamic scenario even a middle class job wont get him any sex with a remotely good looking girl.

What he would get a 37 with that face and body in terms of females right now is probably something I wouldnt touch with a stick...wheter he works or not.

 

[R.U.G.]

This bro is not ugly, he just has a lot of work to do on himself; which will not be easy. Not even a tub of lard single mother would touch him. Why should she, she has other men who actually have jobs chasing her for sex anyway (weird, I know).

1) Go KETO or go home for weight loss. At his size, he'd prob. lose 4 - 5 pounds a week at the beginning.
2) Enroll in a trade school, apprenticeship or go back to college.
3) Exercise by simply starting out by walking around his town.
4) Stop feeling sorry for himself and blaming others. It's his fault.
5) Get a side hustle while completing # 2 so he can start earning some money and move out of his mommy's wing.

Someone should post a link to this thread on the video. Maybe he'd get a clue.

 

[Spaz]

There's multiple issues at play here and both sides of the argument has valid points.

Regardless of him having a job or his own place, with such passivity, it's unlikely he'd attract any women. That's a fact.

As for him being with his mom/parents, I find nothing wrong in that, many in Asia live with their parents because it's an expected responsibility to care and protect them into their old age.

However he needs to pull himself out of that situation - cutting the umbilical cord with his mother and get any sort of job.

In order for anyone to have any respect for him, he 1st needs to respect himself.

 

[R.U.G.]

There's multiple issues at play here and both sides of the argument has valid points.

Regardless of him having a job or his own place, with such passivity, it's unlikely he'd attract any women. That's a fact.

As for him being with his mom/parents, I find nothing wrong in that, many in Asia live with their parents because it's an expected responsibility to care and protect them into their old age.

However he needs to pull himself out of that situation - cutting the umbilical cord with his mother and get any sort of job.

In order for anyone to have any respect for him, he 1st needs to respect himself.

This isn't Asia. This is the United States. At 37, w/o a disability it's embarrassing. His only disability is that he's lazy.

 

[Spaz]

This isn't Asia. This is the United States. At 37, w/o a disability it's embarrassing. His only disability is that he's lazy.

Says the man who's not fvcking in NYC but has plenty of advice on women.

Can I say that u r lazy too?

 

[R.U.G.]

Says the man who's not fvcking in NYC but has plenty of advice on women.

Can I say that u r lazy too?

Not sure what you're typing about. Guess, you've not been reading my recent posts over the last week. Did pretty well this past holiday weekend. :'p

 

[AJ84]

There's multiple issues at play here and both sides of the argument has valid points.

Regardless of him having a job or his own place, with such passivity, it's unlikely he'd attract any women. That's a fact.

As for him being with his mom/parents, I find nothing wrong in that, many in Asia live with their parents because it's an expected responsibility to care and protect them into their old age.

However he needs to pull himself out of that situation - cutting the umbilical cord with his mother and get any sort of job.

In order for anyone to have any respect for him, he 1st needs to respect himself.

Here in Toronto there many Asians and Italians that live with their parents well into adulthood because it’s part of the culture but people still look down on it because the mainstream culture is get out and make you own way as soon as you can, even if it means renting a basement apt with two other people.
This guy lives in the US and it’s looked down upon to still be living at home at his age because that’s the mainstream culture in the US.
It may not be fair to be seen that way but it doesn’t change the fact that he is seen that way.
He’s probably a nice enough guy but he’s a hard sell in his current situation and appearance. That’s the reality whether it’s fair or not.
We could all make a zillion excuses for his situation but none of it is going to land a hot girl, or any girl, on his lap because he doesn’t get to decide what his SMV is, women do, and he ain’t got none.

 

[Spaz]

Here in Toronto there many Asians and Italians that live with their parents well into adulthood because it’s part of the culture but people still look down on it because the mainstream culture is get out and make you own way as soon as you can, even if it means renting a basement apt with two other people.
This guy lives in the US and it’s looked down upon to still be living at home at his age because that’s the mainstream culture in the US.
It may not be fair to be seen that way but it doesn’t change the fact that he is seen that way.
He’s probably a nice enough guy but he’s a hard sell in his current situation and appearance. That’s the reality whether it’s fair or not.
We could all make a zillion excuses for his situation but none of it is going to land a hot girl, or any girl, on his lap because he doesn’t get to decide what his SMV is, women do, and he ain’t got none.

I do not dispute what u r saying.

It's his inherent passive personality coupled with his upbringing that has landed him in such a situation.

It's a 2 pronged problem he's facing and it needs a 2 pronged approach.

 

[Spaz]

Not sure what you're typing about. Guess, you've not been reading my recent posts over the last week. Did pretty well this past holiday weekend. :'p

Great job then !

Keep it up and all ur lingering butthurt over ur ex will be a thing of the past.

 

[R.U.G.]

Great job then !

Keep it up and all ur lingering butthurt over ur ex will be a thing of the past.

Huh??? What in God's name are you typing about?