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This tip is very difficult to explain, because vibing is for the most part subconscious. Heck, the word “vibe,” techically isn’t a word at all, and it doesn’t exist in the English dictionary. This is not anything new however; Player_Supreme has in fact written many posts on similar topics of body language and eye contact, which are the basis for vibing. Yet, these cannot be faked or physically controlled…the body language and eye contact techniques for vibing must come naturally and without any conscious thought.
Now, reading that, you may be thinking, “so why the fvck is he even suggesting this tip if we’re not supposed to consciously make an effort to implement it?”
Player_Supreme once suggested an exercise of renting a movie you have not seen before, and watch it once completely with no sound, and then a second time with no picture but with sound. If only he was still around to elaborate on this…but the point is, that when you do this, the first time, you will pick up on the body language and visual demeanor of the actors, and you will ‘see’ their emotions etc. The second time, you will sense their emotions and demeanor through their words and by ear. I recommend this to anyone who wants to advance.
Now, without real world experience, that still means nothing. I think clubbing is by far the best experience to enhance your body language and eye contact skills, and hence, your ability to vibe. By vibe, I mean, your ability to subconsciously connect with people before even talking to them. You will ‘feel’ them out before even approaching or talking to them…it’s almost as if you can ‘sense’ their emotion and demeanor in their presence. It is absolutely amazing, and if any of you have felt it, you know what I mean.
Note that in order to vibe well, you must already be able to live the moment. In other words, you must be able to completely focus on the present, and block out all other thoughts. It all leads back to confidence and comfort with oneself. You need that to be able to live the moment, and then you can vibe well, and hence have a sense of charisma. Everyone can develop 'charisma,' it just takes experience.
We have all heard the cliché statements that most of communication is nonverbal. But how many of us really know and experience this truth? I would guess very few of you know this reality. In the club, to succeed, you have to not only accept this, but you have to work with it, live it. Anyone who is successful at clubbing knows that body language and your ability to vibe and ‘feel’ the atmosphere is critical to attracting women in that environment. You get to know women through eye contact, touch, and nonverbal communication. It is almost as if you are speaking through your smiles and eye contact, and your body movements. I call this vibing, when you can communicate through nonverbal, visual means.
I have been discussing Buddha/Zen literature with this guy on Sunday mornings, and it is said in those philosophies that we are all victims of language. Why are names so important to people in certain cultures? Does your name actually capture your true essence? No, it does not…yet so many people associate a name with a reputation, with a character. Your beliefs are associated with language and with your experiences. This stuff is very deep, and thousands of pages have been written on these few statements alone…so I won’t attempt to even go further. Point being, we are programmed literally from birth to rely on language. We rely on words to think…you see a car on the street, and the word “car” pops into your head. You don’t think “cow” because the word “car” has been associated with that object in your mind, for years. Everything you see, hear, think of is associated with words…and it is extremely difficult to free yourself from this. Words describe everything, and yet, you cannnot capture true essence of beings with words. That in itself is a very very important idea to think about.
Words mean absolutely nothing.
Why do some believe the eyes are the window to the soul? Eyes themselves show no emotion. But if you know what I mean by vibing, you know that in essence we are animals, we can communicate nonverbally. We were meant to. Language is a byproduct of society and civilization…yet at the core we’re still animals. We were born to reproduce just like any other animal, and we technically have the ability communicate nonverbally.
The reason I posted this is Discussion is because I would like you all to share your experiences of vibing. There may be very few of them, and that is okay, because I don’t expect too many to know what I’m talking about. I have plenty of experiences myself, and day by day I build upon them.
I think once you know how to vibe, attraction will come naturally. It is all subconscious and it should be. You develop the ability to vibe well by spending more time around people and observing body language and eye contact, etc. You must develop a ‘sense’ for people. Often times I will make an obscure assumption about someone’s character and be absolutely correct. Some PUAs use cold-reading to do this, but when you realize that it is our human nature to be able to do this, you don’t need to read that stuff.
Player_Supreme has been asked how he can tell pictures are fake or not; body language, demeanor is a dead giveaway. But, even to me, then, I had no clue how it was such a “dead giveaway” …it all comes from the ability to ‘sense’ people and know people. You can teach people to look for signs and things, the same way PUAs will read up on cold-reading, but you cannot teach the ability to ‘sense.’ It develops with experience.
I thought I wouldn’t post here again, but I think a lot of you really need to get this concept. It will cut through a ton of the bullsh!t. I think a lot of the DJ Bible can be re-written and condensed to much fewer articles. You guys just need to get out there and actually get experience. Get off your asses.
Now, reading that, you may be thinking, “so why the fvck is he even suggesting this tip if we’re not supposed to consciously make an effort to implement it?”
Player_Supreme once suggested an exercise of renting a movie you have not seen before, and watch it once completely with no sound, and then a second time with no picture but with sound. If only he was still around to elaborate on this…but the point is, that when you do this, the first time, you will pick up on the body language and visual demeanor of the actors, and you will ‘see’ their emotions etc. The second time, you will sense their emotions and demeanor through their words and by ear. I recommend this to anyone who wants to advance.
Now, without real world experience, that still means nothing. I think clubbing is by far the best experience to enhance your body language and eye contact skills, and hence, your ability to vibe. By vibe, I mean, your ability to subconsciously connect with people before even talking to them. You will ‘feel’ them out before even approaching or talking to them…it’s almost as if you can ‘sense’ their emotion and demeanor in their presence. It is absolutely amazing, and if any of you have felt it, you know what I mean.
Note that in order to vibe well, you must already be able to live the moment. In other words, you must be able to completely focus on the present, and block out all other thoughts. It all leads back to confidence and comfort with oneself. You need that to be able to live the moment, and then you can vibe well, and hence have a sense of charisma. Everyone can develop 'charisma,' it just takes experience.
We have all heard the cliché statements that most of communication is nonverbal. But how many of us really know and experience this truth? I would guess very few of you know this reality. In the club, to succeed, you have to not only accept this, but you have to work with it, live it. Anyone who is successful at clubbing knows that body language and your ability to vibe and ‘feel’ the atmosphere is critical to attracting women in that environment. You get to know women through eye contact, touch, and nonverbal communication. It is almost as if you are speaking through your smiles and eye contact, and your body movements. I call this vibing, when you can communicate through nonverbal, visual means.
I have been discussing Buddha/Zen literature with this guy on Sunday mornings, and it is said in those philosophies that we are all victims of language. Why are names so important to people in certain cultures? Does your name actually capture your true essence? No, it does not…yet so many people associate a name with a reputation, with a character. Your beliefs are associated with language and with your experiences. This stuff is very deep, and thousands of pages have been written on these few statements alone…so I won’t attempt to even go further. Point being, we are programmed literally from birth to rely on language. We rely on words to think…you see a car on the street, and the word “car” pops into your head. You don’t think “cow” because the word “car” has been associated with that object in your mind, for years. Everything you see, hear, think of is associated with words…and it is extremely difficult to free yourself from this. Words describe everything, and yet, you cannnot capture true essence of beings with words. That in itself is a very very important idea to think about.
Words mean absolutely nothing.
Why do some believe the eyes are the window to the soul? Eyes themselves show no emotion. But if you know what I mean by vibing, you know that in essence we are animals, we can communicate nonverbally. We were meant to. Language is a byproduct of society and civilization…yet at the core we’re still animals. We were born to reproduce just like any other animal, and we technically have the ability communicate nonverbally.
The reason I posted this is Discussion is because I would like you all to share your experiences of vibing. There may be very few of them, and that is okay, because I don’t expect too many to know what I’m talking about. I have plenty of experiences myself, and day by day I build upon them.
I think once you know how to vibe, attraction will come naturally. It is all subconscious and it should be. You develop the ability to vibe well by spending more time around people and observing body language and eye contact, etc. You must develop a ‘sense’ for people. Often times I will make an obscure assumption about someone’s character and be absolutely correct. Some PUAs use cold-reading to do this, but when you realize that it is our human nature to be able to do this, you don’t need to read that stuff.
Player_Supreme has been asked how he can tell pictures are fake or not; body language, demeanor is a dead giveaway. But, even to me, then, I had no clue how it was such a “dead giveaway” …it all comes from the ability to ‘sense’ people and know people. You can teach people to look for signs and things, the same way PUAs will read up on cold-reading, but you cannot teach the ability to ‘sense.’ It develops with experience.
I thought I wouldn’t post here again, but I think a lot of you really need to get this concept. It will cut through a ton of the bullsh!t. I think a lot of the DJ Bible can be re-written and condensed to much fewer articles. You guys just need to get out there and actually get experience. Get off your asses.
