Very usefull field rapport for you bro's - don't be needy!!!

[TheGambino]

Friday after a house party my friend, his side chick and me went to a pub downtown.

I had a few drinks and was chatting up a Asian chick. She digged me but I didn't like her too much so I bailed on her after 30 mins or so. I saw a way better broad on the dancefloor with her 2 friends and 2 guys who were chatting them up. She was about 21, really a face and body like a model, blonde and beautiful. She had a ''henna'' tattoo (arab tattoo that vanishes after a couple of weeks, I'm half Arab).

Anyway it was a great way to open up a chat. I smiled towards her, winked and she smiled back. I went to her, grabbed her hand and acted excited about her henna tattoo. After a quick chat I offered her a drink and she declined but she followed me to the bar. I isolated her there and we danced on a couple of latin and reaggaeton songs. I grabbed her ass during our dance, sniffed her neck and we were really taking over the dancefloor after a while. On purpose I gave her friends attention too so they wouldn't c0ckbl0ck me, it worked because they were really smiling to me and helping me.

Made more chats with her about her vacation and what she did. I was kinda drunk and she could see that I was really attracted to her sexually. I kino'd hardcore, and kissed her on her cheek a couple of times, she loved it. We had more fun laughing about 2 girls kissing eachother and she told me she was naughty and that she could be attracted to girls too, TheGambino likes that.

After an hour of fun, dancing, and flirting with this broad she tells me she has to go, she might come back though. I number closed.

(MISTAKE)
I told her Ill come outside with you. We smoked a cig outside and the hot, flirty vibe vanished a bit in the cold reality outside but we were still talking. The 2 guys followed us too but she and her friends were really arrogant towards them so they left. Her friend told ''my girl'', Ill leave you 2 love birds alone ok? She answered '''noo its okay you can stay'' (red flag). So her friends liked me and helped me to isolate her. I grabbed her hand and isolated her. We had a boring chat and I grabbed her hand and went for the kiss. She gave me the cheek saying she's in a relationship but a little break so she really couldn't make out with me.

I told her ''Ok you probably won't see me again''

I pushed like 5 times too try to kiss her (I was drunk) until she said ''don't push it''. She accepted a little kiss on the mouth and I BAILED.

(MISTAKE)
I texted her like an hour later ''You're not rid of me (smiley)'' and guess what, she texts me back ''I thought you said, I won't see you anymore (with a monkey smiley)'' and she blocks me on whatsapp so I forgot about her.

So this needy behavior f8cked up my chances + she's in a break with her boyfriend. I was drunk and really wanted to kiss her and undress her asap. I already imagined her eyes rolling while I shove it intoo her damnit @@@@. I should've just let her leave the joint and texted her a couple of days later but learn from this guys, pull back when they tell you their leaving when the iron is hot.....

Anyway GUESS f8cking what.

I went to the gym today and she's there in my f8cking gym. I saw her before and digged her but now I found out she's the girl I danced with and she never saw me in the gym too.

So I approached her and she was really amused but confused to see me, smiling the whole time to me. I told her ''crazy huh that we meet again here lol'' She agrees with yeasss indeed so weird. She tells me she wants to gain weight I tell her you have to work on your food. I show her a picture of me from last year where I was really shredded because she asks me about my schedule and workout regime. We have a small chit chat but I was really cold towards her and teased her a bit but kept the convo really short and told her I had to work out.

After 10mins she comes to do squats and stuff right next to me where I am the whole time. I went for the bench press 30 mins later and she walks straight to me to go to the lockers. I look her in the eyes and smile, she smiles, winks and flirts and says byeee. I wink back and she's gone.

Im still blocked on whatsapp but she could've deleted my number so she can't unblock it. But anyway Im 100% sure gonna see her again at the gym. I won't be talking to her, Ill wait until she comes around and proceed with caution.

Learn from this, I could've dated this really hot girl but f8cked up with being needy but I was really cold at the gym today ignoring her a lot so she's probably not freaked out anymore.

Btw: I want to add her on snapchat but Im not sure about that. I probably shouldn't and just wait if she approaches me in the gym next time because I will see her again, I workout almost everyday.

 

[Jetleg]

the biggest mistake you have made is that you had the opportunity to kiss her in the club and you didn't take it.

Don't give her any attention, the cards are in her hands now. if you approach her in the gym you just will be friendzoned, just wait untill her IL are up again.

 

[marmel75]

The biggest mistake was you offering to buy her a drink...never do that...it sets it up so that you are "buying" her attention with a drink, as if you are telling her "I don't think I'm good enough to talk to you, so I need to bribe you into talking to me by buying you a drink." Literally, that's what it says to a woman.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The biggest mistake you made is overanalyzing the situation. That was just one chick in the club. There were plenty more. You could've charged shorty to the game and mack on other shorties. We all have the nights when we get a little drunk and fumble the ball. Honestly, I did that last weekend with a nice little Cuban but I'm not tripping at all. AJ will smash a lot of girls in the near future. It's always guaranteed.

 

[Tenacity]

Learn from this, I could've dated this really hot girl but f8cked up with being needy but I was really cold at the gym today ignoring her a lot so she's probably not freaked out anymore.

Dude, just going from what you wrote.....you didn't "fvck" or "kiss" the chick because the chick was just being nice and flirty with you at the club (like MANY chicks do) but end up doing nothing. The club and the bar are the WORSE places to meet women because they are only there usually for attention. Women and their homegirls usually have bets to see who can get the most attention and the most drinks.

If you are going to a club or a bar, go with a GROUP of people and within that group of people, include someone you are currently already dating. Dance, chill, etc., with her at the bar/club. I know that sounds stupid, but you will look MUCH more attractive to the other women in the bar/club with a girl already on your arm, then you do going up to random chicks trying to "holler".

- There are no mistakes to this. The only mistake is not having fun, you will NOT get them all.

- Make sure your looks, personality, and finances are on point.

- Make sure you are meeting a ton of women to build up a good set of plates. For example, you approach 30 women, get 16 numbers, date 9 of them, fvck 6 of them, continue spinning plates with 4 of them.

- STOP over-analyzing this. STOP tracking your every move, every word, and stop being so hard on yourself. If a chick is attracted to you, there's pretty much not that much you can do to piss her off other than the obvious being an "a.sshole" type of shyt. But even with THAT, you will not get them all.......it's a numbers game.

But yeah, this chick was just flirting with you man. You didn't make any mistakes for goodness sakes. The only mistake I can see that you made is that you spent way too much time with this one girl.

STOP going to clubs/bars to pick up chicks........go to clubs/bars with your friends and/or women you are already dating and ENJOY the food, drinks, and dance floor, as well as socialize with other people you know. When you see other groups of people you don't know, you can always introduce them into your group and in that way, you can meet other types of women who later on down the line you could potentially get with.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

It's all smoke and mirrors in the club but as soon as you step out onto the cold sidewalk, the spell is broken. My term for it is Cinderella's curfew and can be anything that snaps them back to reality. And that reality regularly does not include you still being a prince. Girls night out club meetups suffer from this greatly, "Oh, I'm just out with my girls, being wild and dancing blah blah" but if you don't close somehow right then (and GNO's can be extremely effecient C0ckblocks) then you will not close nor get a second chance. They have left the ball.

 

[skinnyguy]

Why does it seem that women never make mistakes, only men do.

 

[The Duke]

Why does it seem that women never make mistakes, only men do.

It is this way because women do the choosing when it comes to potential mate selection. Its like an employer interviewing potential job candidates to fill a position.