okay i've been trying and been doing everything on this sight but cant seem to get the nice guy reputation off of my name. girls wont even start up convos with me and dont really want to talk to me. and to make it worse one of my best friends(nice guys) seems to be getting a lot of attention from a lot of girls. it seems reversed situations. i am getting very unmotivated. any help?
very pissed/confused
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duffman360
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just stop being so nice or read the dj bible
john paul
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Becoming your new DJ self isnt going to happen over night. Its going to be a slow transformation and its going to be even slower for people to realise your changing.
Make sure you know how the DJ acts and give it a month for some noticable changes. Its been about 5 months for me now and im starting to see some big changes in how people see and respect me.
Make sure you know how the DJ acts and give it a month for some noticable changes. Its been about 5 months for me now and im starting to see some big changes in how people see and respect me.
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Yeah I know what that's like.lsu03 said:
You have to start up conversations with girls at first and then they'll start conversation with you.
Remember, don't give a damn what anyone else thinks.
Since your friend is getting so much attention, just hang around with him more and you'll be able to talk to girls.
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Quick advice: Worry less about how youre percieved. If youre a good person, do what makes you happy and leave it at that. You cannot require others validation your entire life or you will be miserable. I hope this helps, feel free to PM me if you have any questions.
man, ok just a quick note, what do u mean by nice? if a girl asks u to move a bit so that she can get in to get her beer, what would u do? would u say,"only if u buy me one" or just say,"sure" with a smile and then moving aside turning ur back to her? nice is not when u behave good with a girl, nice is when u try to be too good with a girl. thats a turn off to a girl. just dont act needy, be happy with urself and for the time being, focus on how to build the chemistry with a girl or girls while at the same time, coming off as a prize. that will solve ur prob and check this whole site thouroughly and make naturals friends as many as possible.
Hey Isu
One thing to think about is not actually thinking about it
Leave your mind to be free of the worry and let yourself have a good time whatever you're doing
They don't approach you? so what? They're the ones to be next sat alone thinking of what they should have said to you when they see you leaving with a hot lass that day.
It can only be done with confidence, a genuine smile and no worries at all
As long as you feel comfortable, everyone around you will too, just have fun, tease them and they will be at your feet by the next day.
One thing to think about is not actually thinking about it
Leave your mind to be free of the worry and let yourself have a good time whatever you're doing
They don't approach you? so what? They're the ones to be next sat alone thinking of what they should have said to you when they see you leaving with a hot lass that day.
It can only be done with confidence, a genuine smile and no worries at all
As long as you feel comfortable, everyone around you will too, just have fun, tease them and they will be at your feet by the next day.
'I can't get rid of my niceguy image'
That's the problem, you are still worrying about what people think of you. That's a nice guy trait. You can try to be a bad@ass, you just be one.
Ok that's a bit harsh considering your just starting, but you wont truly lose your imagine untill you geniuenly stop caring about what people think of you.
That's the problem, you are still worrying about what people think of you. That's a nice guy trait. You can try to be a bad@ass, you just be one.
Ok that's a bit harsh considering your just starting, but you wont truly lose your imagine untill you geniuenly stop caring about what people think of you.
Stop caring about what people think you are, and be less nice, adopt the personality you want. Pretty soon people will start realising you're different. I was a 'nice guy' in secondary school (age 11-16), but now, nearly 3 years on, all those girls I knew from school instantly realise I'm completely different now when they meet me.
Just keep it up mate.
Just keep it up mate.
ok lsu, i have a slightly modified advice for u: dont become completely different suddenly, it would lose u some friends, u bet and u wont like that. guys, we are trying to improve ourselves. we would gradually change ourselves and if u had not been meeting someone for a long time, they might meet u someday and it seems u have changed a lot but that is natural to be taken after a long time, isnt it? i would ask u just to stop doing anything nice or too good to anyone at the moment unless it is urgent (applies more importantly to girls) and try to stand out by being different and a bit more adventurous fun.