Ok I'm trying to figure this chick out. usually girls respond to me in a very predictable way. It goes something like this:
1. Meet girl , secure date
2. Maintain contact at slow frequency for a few weeks to build interest
3. Girl starts to communicate more and more frequently over successive dates
4. Girl is hooked - everything is easy from there on out
For most of my life this has been the natural order of my relationships. this chick I'm dealing with now has completely thrown me for a loop and I'm having trouble making sense of it.
The first date, we stayed out till the bar closed and ended up back at my place with heavy make out no sex.
Second date same thing but escalated physical.
Third date same thing.
She's not texting me much or calling just to chat. she told me its ok for me to date other girls and that she is dating other guys. This is fine since we just met. I don't expect exclusivity at all. BUT, most girls either assume exclusivity or push hard for it from the get go.
I feel like one of two things are going on here:
1. She has a low IL.
2. She has a defense mechanism where she hesitates to feel emotionally connected too soon.
If it's low IL then why does she continue to agree to dates and get physical? I don't get it. There's signs of low IL but there are also signs of potential high IL.
WTF? This is a weird one! any insight would be appreciated!
Further background info - she is an optometrist and has a nice house and car and seems very independent. My income level is comparable and I don't feel intimidated by her position or career. Just trying to make sense. The idea of low IL hurts..
1. Meet girl , secure date
2. Maintain contact at slow frequency for a few weeks to build interest
3. Girl starts to communicate more and more frequently over successive dates
4. Girl is hooked - everything is easy from there on out
For most of my life this has been the natural order of my relationships. this chick I'm dealing with now has completely thrown me for a loop and I'm having trouble making sense of it.
The first date, we stayed out till the bar closed and ended up back at my place with heavy make out no sex.
Second date same thing but escalated physical.
Third date same thing.
She's not texting me much or calling just to chat. she told me its ok for me to date other girls and that she is dating other guys. This is fine since we just met. I don't expect exclusivity at all. BUT, most girls either assume exclusivity or push hard for it from the get go.
I feel like one of two things are going on here:
1. She has a low IL.
2. She has a defense mechanism where she hesitates to feel emotionally connected too soon.
If it's low IL then why does she continue to agree to dates and get physical? I don't get it. There's signs of low IL but there are also signs of potential high IL.
WTF? This is a weird one! any insight would be appreciated!
Further background info - she is an optometrist and has a nice house and car and seems very independent. My income level is comparable and I don't feel intimidated by her position or career. Just trying to make sense. The idea of low IL hurts..
