VERY interesting situation & how to tread these waters (engaged chick)

[md3sign]

Without getting into too many details, there's a girl in my class who I'm working on a large project with. She's engaged, lives with her fiancee and has a kid by him. We've hung out several times 1 on 1 outside of class (this was required for the project). Thing is - I think she has a thing for me. She's been sitting a lot closer to me ever since our first outing, she laughs a lot more, is asking me all these personal questions - you know the buying signals. Oddly enough she even initiates kino. Today she more than accidentally touched my hand and a bit prior to that told me "we should hang out". Hmmm...

Now normally I wouldn't hang out with a girl several times without trying anything, but obviously this situation is different. I would totally hit it (can we say milf?) but I really have to tread lightly because:

1) I'm required to see her twice a week
2) we're teamed up on a major project so both our grades are at stake

So far we're supposed to actually hang out, non-school related this Friday (most likely for drinks).

It's a bit of a complicated situation (I've never been in this sort of thing) and I'm not really sure what to make of it. I honestly don't think a girl would offer to hang out if she was only interested in friendship.

Tips appreciated.

 

[TheWorldIsNotEnough]

First, I would advise you to think about what you are doing. You could potentially be the reason for the "divorce" of a childs parents. I dont know about you, but thats some pretty messed up shiat. I dont care how hot she may be, she is still someones mother.


Now putting all that aside, I would say find a neutral area were you can "get to know her"(flirt, tease, project yourself as a fun, attractive person). From there slowely insinuate the idea of (drum rollllll) sex! Then just go out with her, and close it with a kiss. From there, its in her hands. Hopefully, she wont be able to resist you. But if she does some how muster the will to resist, move on.

Becareful though, your grade isnt the only thing at stake.

 

[md3sign]

You're right, it is a tricky situation. I don't want to be a homewrecker either. I know that she leads a pretty boring life and really just wants some excitement, but at the same time she is giving some hints here and there and I don't just hang out with girls to be buddies, which is precisely why I'm a bit torn here.

I'd like to hear some more suggestions. I'll make up my mind by tomorrow evening. If I decide to call it off I have a solid excuse.

 

[Thomas94305]

Well.. what we know is that she has a serious relationship going on. However, is looking for something on the side. So, don't expect her to end up being much of a girlfriend to you, she's putting an emotional rush ahead of good relationships, and is not thinking things through... some women do this, better gals will work out the relationship stuff first.

I'd recommend getting into your mental time machine, going ahead 6 months or so, and assessing what you got. If you advance with her, you may well get some sex. She'll probably end up bailing on you, because that's her maturity. You'll have to live with doing these things with a gal that is engaged and has a kid.

Or, you can just cool her down, DJ other women instead. In 6 months, you'll have the experience of setting limits to a gal who's playing a game with you. You won't have the issues of sex with an engaged woman/mother. From the perspective of your DJ skills, what matters isn't that you nail this particular gal. What matters is that you become better at handling women in general.

You do the math.. good luck

 

[md3sign]

Ok - I definitely do NOT want a relationship with her, or any mom for that matter (single or not). It's completely unnecessary baggage for me. The only purpose to any of this would be some sex and I don't care if she were to split.

Cool her down? I don't think I've really heated her up. And I am DJing other women, this is just another opportunity.

I'm thinking I could go out with her anyway and just look for signals. Normally I don't (I just lay on the kino thick and go for it - and it works out beautifully), but this isn't a normal situation.

 

[dynamicallyidle]

In my honest opinion, you have no honor. Going for an engaged chick? Wtf is wrong with you? Everyone close to you needs to give you a slap on the face.

 

[Drum&Bass]

:nono:

 

[blinkwatt]

@ md3sign,

You seem like a smart guy.....SCHOOL IS FIRST. Get that done,then do as YOU please.

Personally I wouldn't want to mess with a chick that has a kid,I would feel horrible for the kid knowing that I helped for a divorce. What would you do if you had a chick,got engaged,had a kid and she cheated on you? Just put yourself in the guys seat.

Good luck!

 

[ValleyDJing]

Don't f.uck with married/almost married chicks man. Thats how people get killed and commit suicide and s.hit. There's a ton of fish in the sea man.

 

[Last Man Standing]

HMMMMM, let me think, a hor with a baby, and living with her pimp - I wonder if she has any scruples??

This hor , if she wants you eagerly, will pursue you - don't mention or initiate!!

 

[md3sign]

In my honest opinion, you have no honor. Going for an engaged chick? Wtf is wrong with you? Everyone close to you needs to give you a slap on the face.

She's going for me buddy. As for going for an engaged chick or one in any sort of relationship, that's perfectly legit - it's just another part of the game, which is what this site is all about. Obviously if she was happy she wouldn't be reciprocating. You have a lot to learn before you start talking of honor.

Anyway, I'm gonna call it off tomorrow. Too complicated. If she REALLY wants me she'll come to me and, well, I'm not gonna turn down sex. But you're right, I won't initiate like I normally do.

 

[Charm]

Dude get some sex and quit being such a pvssy about it.

 

[itishe]

There's this guy I don't really care for, I think he's annoying but I'll admit he's gotten more ***** that I can imagine to get in the coming while (he has banged some dirty ass skanks though). Anywho, I'll still give him props.

He did this kind of **** and almost got beat to a pulp one night. I don't know the full story, but from what he said he was sleeping on his friend's couch at his friend's apartment and the next door neighbor came on by and woke him up. Upon waking up they made out, and she told him to come back to her place. They went back and apparently she sucked his ****, blah blah blah.

Broad tells her fiance about this, and let me tell you this is a guy you don't want to **** with. I always see him at the gym and we nicknamed him Hercules (a suitable name for a man who stands 6'2", and is ripped like a hobo's sock). Naturally he's pissed, and one night he happens to be at his fiances apartment while my friend and this "pimp" are partying. Hercules swings by and walks into the room where "pimp" is and tells everyone to leave but him.

Surprisingly he didn't get his ass slaughtered but they had a good two hour talk.