very confused about this girl

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So I am a bit shy myself....and this girl that I like is I think shy too?

Were in college - she was in one of my classes last year, and I ignored her when she tried to talk to me. While taking the bus, I was sitting down and felt someone was watching me, and I looked up, it was her again just standing there and smiling at me, I looked at her and just ignored her and continued to read my paper

Again this was last year, and man looking back at it, what I did was pretty cruel.....the thing is, plenty of other girls do this to me and I feel disgusted/uncomfortable, so that was my reason for doing this.

This semester she was in my class again and I thought to myself, its the same girl. I didn't care for about a week, but then I started to notice her more and more, and she was just really pretty. I was walking out of the washroom one day and she was standing there, and we basically locked eyes for a good 6 seconds - this has never happened to me before as I usually just ignore most girls....

Anyways, I kept on admiring her in class, and I got caught lol. She sorta turned around to look at me, since her friends nodded to her that I was looking I guess, and she basically snapped her head to the front as soon as she noticed me starring at her lol.

So, throughout this semester shes been doing all of these things to grab my attention:

-she'd talk louder to get my attention
-she walked across the class // walked outside the class and walked back in, and I didn't realize this at first, but her friends were watching me if I was paying attention, and I really was
-I try to sit near her, and I can hear her ask her friend if I am looking at her (lol, class is pretty boring), and when her friend nods, she starts playing with her hair - she does look more pretty that way I have to admit.

Sooooooooo.....I was pretty shy and it took me a whole 2 months to finally talk to her, at which point she seemed really happy and enthusiastic. She even asked me for my name. However, whenever I try to make eye contact with her, she would just look down so I thought she didn't want to talk to me....or was just shy.


Anyways, we bumped into each other in the library and I have a strong feeling she followed me there lol. We talked etc.

I thought ok since shes made a good effort to talk to me outside of class I should do the same - I waited for her in another building and she was really shocked or something. we talked about random stuff but she was pretty quiet // or scared lol. As we approached class, she said I was creeping her out but she was giggling so I thought ok I screwed up.

But later next week, she would do all these things to grab my attention again....she even turned around and gave me this serious look, so I thought ok maybe shes cool now.

Later that week, I saw her at the library, and it seemed as if she was looking for someone. I looked up at her, surprised, and as soon as she saw me, she looked strait and rushed towards the exits.

So I thought ok, maybe shes shy? I waited for her again near a buidling and asked if she wanted to get something to eat. She just shook her head but had this facial gesture which implied disappointment....I asked her why not, if she had things to do, and she just said I've got things to do in a giggly sorta way. So now its awkward - she starts walking faster and faster and I follow. I'm kinda puzzled at this point and am looking at the ground lol...after a while, I feel shes looking at me since theres an awkward silence, and as soon as I look at her, she snaps her head and looks at the washroom sign. I look up at the washroom sign too and as soon as she notices me looking at the sign, she says "ill cya later" in a serious way. Shes looking at the ground while saying this. LOL WTF.


So the next class, she does the same things even more. She asks her friend if I am looking at her or not etc. She leans her chair back to get closer to me? Shes basically trying hard to get my attention.

lol - I am very confused and just really disappointed. I think I screwed up pretty bad when I ignored her last semester???

At first I thought I was getting played, but she followed me // got her friends to follow me etc. I know this girl likes me, its obvious by her body language.....but I am a bit confused by her actions.

Also, I didn't know half the stuff she was doing until later when I thought about it. She seems immature.
 

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Welcome to Mrs. Johnson's 3rd Grade Class!

All the analyzing is moot point: you asked her out, she declined.

Look at my sig. Start chatting up other girls.
 

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lmao...

I get hat but why is she doing these things even after she said no to lunch?

defense mechanism?
 

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Hi, I'm new here been a lurker and just saw your topic. Listen, your over analyzing the situation. Talk to her, get her number. Simple. If she likes you she will respond and give up the number if not then move on. Simple. Your thinking way to much into her body language. It's obvious she wants you to initiate and talk to her but she is put off by the fact your not responding.

AFC at the finest...
 

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vince123456 said:
lmao...

I get hat but why is she doing these things even after she said no to lunch?

defense mechanism?
To re-iterate what vatoloco told you: All the analyzing is moot.

Why does a woman do what she does? Because she's a woman. That's all you need to know.

She could do back flips, perform a waltz, or bake you a dozen cupcakes. The point of the story is - she's rejected your offer. And even if there was hope, all the work and thought you're putting into it....it's not worth it.

That's why you don't sit back, wondering about a girl for months. Because no matter how much you analyze, no matter how long you prepare, the entire situation comes down to:

You: "Do you wanna hang out?"
Girl "Yes" or "No"

And that's a scenario that could have played out in the first week that you saw her.

And yes, this whole situation is 3rd Grade.
 

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vince123456 said:
lmao...

I get hat but why is she doing these things even after she said no to lunch?

defense mechanism?
Only she herself knows for sure.

Maybe her horoscope said not to accept dates that day. Maybe her friends think you have a big head and she's afraid of being a social pariah by being seen with you. Maybe she's afraid of the impending Mayan Apocalypse this December 21st and said "Nah, what for!?" Or maybe, like you said, it's because "she seems immature."

Seriously, it doesn't matter why she said "No". What matters is that you closed (ask her out) and she said "No". That way you now know not to waste any time, money or effort on her.

Talk and flirt with other girls. You won't worry about this one.

Too much.

;)

Edit: Yes. What Iceberg said.
 

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ok...well should i continue to pursue her?

Her friend gave me notes for the class, but i opened it and it had that girls picture in it lol

WTF...shes constantly giving me these subtle cues but rarely talks to me or shys away from eye contact.
 

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vince123456 said:
ok...well should i continue to pursue her?

Her friend gave me notes for the class, but i opened it and it had that girls picture in it lol

WTF...shes constantly giving me these subtle cues but rarely talks to me or shys away from eye contact.
If your not going to grab your balls and talk to her then no. Simple.

It seems like I'm repeating myself again.
 

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thats not a big deal to me ive already talked to her and will do again at some point.

i just want to know why she isnt being straight.

is she just shy or what?

i don't want to be mislead by her/her friends.
 

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vince123456 said:
ok...well should i continue to pursue her?
Oh boy... you need major help, son. Drop everything you're doing and start reading all the "Newbie" stuff of the DJ Bible: http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/

I personally would NEXT her but, tell you what. You talk to her in a friendly manner but also talk and flirt with other girls. Can you do that? You can cross later bridges when you get to them...


Her friend gave me notes for the class, but i opened it and it had that girls picture in it lol

WTF...shes constantly giving me these subtle cues but rarely talks to me or shys away from eye contact.
WTF!? Are you people truly in college!? Hmm... troll?
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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just wonderin' do you guys think she was feeding on the attention or just liked the attention?

ya were in college - i'm trying to be mature about it but her/her friends are so weird. its almost cute.
 

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Lmao bruh "its almost cute"???? Are you even taking any of the great advice given to you? Bruh she rejected your offer to go out... Thats it... Finito... Nada

Go talk to some other girls and forget her.. Shes just an attention ***** and she probably sees you as the typical "nice guy" .. Ignore her and her friends.

Try to let her or her friends see you mack on other girls and see what happens
 

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I got one question though. Why did you wait 2 months to approach? I mean, you said that you locked eyes with her for 6 SECONDS! 6 SECONDS MAN!
 
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