What is the big deal about this whole girlfriend/boyfriend terminology hear in America? Why does possessing one of these relationships seem to be a societal imparity? The need to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in adolescent age is not a stage of human development at all. This urge that many young people of my generation across the states is purely a result of social pressures and the unawareness of our conformity to these pressures.
I am awakened to the fact that I do not need a girlfriend. I refuse to be programmed by the society and the media like a computer. I choose what programming I want to install in my software. More importantly, I carefully select what type of programming to install inside of me. Negative or positive? Having stated this, this whole girlfriend thing forces me to want to care for, love , and have sex with one other woman, and have these emotions be reciprocated. Finally I am supposed to marry this one other individual. I resent this approach to an extent. That is the path the media and now society desires for each man. Of course hardly anyone follows this storybook plot.
At this point in my life, I do not want be in love with one girl. Nor do I desire to be in love at all. That would leave me bonded. Chained to one woman, like a prisoner with a ball and chain, like a dog on a leash. I would be as a tiger testing the bars of his cage. I am not ready to bow out of any possible exploits with the many other attractive females out there. So having one significant other will undoubtedly prove detrimental to my curious urge to connect with and explore the bodies of many women.
If I were to settle down with the first girl whom I have a menial connection with, I will never know what it would be like to be with another lady whom I might have a much deeper connection with. A girl who could act as my ying and I her yang, a girl whom I could be one with, every cell and every fiber in her being would belong to me. She would complete me. I am a firm believer that there is a special someone out there for everyone. Someone whom one can share such a bond with. By only having a handful of women in my life time and settling down with one would hamper my quest of finding that special woman, my queen.
I know the type of man like me is not extinct, I am not a dinosaur. Many males and females can understand this approach to the romantic life. In the majority of the nations around the world there is no such thing as a boyfriend/girlfriend. In the majority of the world the concept of sex does not have the huge taboo and stigma that is placed on it her in North America. The majority of the world people do not have this dating concept. (it’s stupid) Recently I watched an interview with a Scandinavian couple. They disagreed with the girlfriend /boyfriend mumbo jumbo and when asked how long it generally takes for the man to make love to the woman they stated that they usually do it on the first meet up or “date” as we like to call it.(jaws drop everywhere). It gets better (or worse) prostitution is legal in most countries (especially Thailand). I watched another interview with a German hooker; she wasn’t dressed provocatively or anything. She seemed pretty cool and nonchalant about her work. She said she works five days a week, she does not work for anyone and so fourth. She said she has a boyfriend that knows what she does for a living and he is cool with it.(at this point my jaw fell open). Yes, the rest of the world seems to have different ideas on romance. For some reason we (Americans) are slightly differed in opinion when it comes to this little controversy. That is because these other countries don’t have the problem the US. has. There is a higher rate of STDs (70,175,003 rough estimate about 24% of population) teen pregnancies, (671.63 births per 1 million people) in our US than in any country in the world. To discourage this trend we are programmed by the school, church, parents, and to some extent the media. This still is not stopping us though. According to a survey of high school students across the states in 2007 48% of high school students will have had sex by the end of high school, 17% with more than four partners.
The numbers don’t lie, a sexually active individual in the United States that is sleeping with different partners needs to keep this in mind and be careful who they sleep with.
Now I am going to bring the Holy bible (kings James Version not Hebrew) into the equation. Most of the things regarding sex and the relationship between man and woman can be found in the books of Genesis Matthew, Songs of Solomon, and First Corinthians.
After Eve and Adam eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God gives them sex and tells them to multiply. They also notice for the first time they are naked. This is an indicator that they are now feeling sexual urges for one another.
In Genesis sex is a good thing and woman consider it their duty to bare children for their man and you see different women going through great lengths to bare children. Examples: {Sarah and Hagar (Genesis chapters 20 and 21)} {Ta-mar and Judah (Genesis chapter 38)} and {Zo-ar and his two daughters Genesis (chapter19)}. In fact (females everywhere are going hate me for this) wives were the property of their man. While it was okay for the husband to sleep with any girl anywhere whether she be another wife, hooker, concubine harlot or what not, Married woman could only be “come in to’ by their husband and no other dude, otherwise she committed adultery.
Later on in the New Testament we see this rule changed by Paul in first Corinthians to say that any one who lusts after another person outside of the marriage commits adultery. He says sex outside of marriage is wrong not sex before marriage is wrong for those of you misinterpreting abstinent people. (I’ll find the versus later check I Corinthians Chapter 6 and 7 read it your self) Jesus lightly encourages abstinence in Matthew, but he did not say sex before marriage is a sin. Many people have twisted this around like St. Augustine in 1400AD.who in turn influenced the thinking of other saints who influenced European society who went on to influence the thinking of the whole world as we can see today.
Lastly if you take into consideration the love poems in Songs of Solomon, the book depicts sex as a very good and sacred thing. It is a gift from God to be enjoyed by both man and woman.
We as individuals need to take into consideration what is going on around us before we can make our own decision. Not the decision that society makes for us on our love life. Take these and any other factors into account when deciding what is best for you. The relationships between men and women are usually wonderful depending on how you choose to approach and treat them. Consider the validity that such relationships hold to you in terms of your well being in this long winding road we call life.
I am awakened to the fact that I do not need a girlfriend. I refuse to be programmed by the society and the media like a computer. I choose what programming I want to install in my software. More importantly, I carefully select what type of programming to install inside of me. Negative or positive? Having stated this, this whole girlfriend thing forces me to want to care for, love , and have sex with one other woman, and have these emotions be reciprocated. Finally I am supposed to marry this one other individual. I resent this approach to an extent. That is the path the media and now society desires for each man. Of course hardly anyone follows this storybook plot.
At this point in my life, I do not want be in love with one girl. Nor do I desire to be in love at all. That would leave me bonded. Chained to one woman, like a prisoner with a ball and chain, like a dog on a leash. I would be as a tiger testing the bars of his cage. I am not ready to bow out of any possible exploits with the many other attractive females out there. So having one significant other will undoubtedly prove detrimental to my curious urge to connect with and explore the bodies of many women.
If I were to settle down with the first girl whom I have a menial connection with, I will never know what it would be like to be with another lady whom I might have a much deeper connection with. A girl who could act as my ying and I her yang, a girl whom I could be one with, every cell and every fiber in her being would belong to me. She would complete me. I am a firm believer that there is a special someone out there for everyone. Someone whom one can share such a bond with. By only having a handful of women in my life time and settling down with one would hamper my quest of finding that special woman, my queen.
I know the type of man like me is not extinct, I am not a dinosaur. Many males and females can understand this approach to the romantic life. In the majority of the nations around the world there is no such thing as a boyfriend/girlfriend. In the majority of the world the concept of sex does not have the huge taboo and stigma that is placed on it her in North America. The majority of the world people do not have this dating concept. (it’s stupid) Recently I watched an interview with a Scandinavian couple. They disagreed with the girlfriend /boyfriend mumbo jumbo and when asked how long it generally takes for the man to make love to the woman they stated that they usually do it on the first meet up or “date” as we like to call it.(jaws drop everywhere). It gets better (or worse) prostitution is legal in most countries (especially Thailand). I watched another interview with a German hooker; she wasn’t dressed provocatively or anything. She seemed pretty cool and nonchalant about her work. She said she works five days a week, she does not work for anyone and so fourth. She said she has a boyfriend that knows what she does for a living and he is cool with it.(at this point my jaw fell open). Yes, the rest of the world seems to have different ideas on romance. For some reason we (Americans) are slightly differed in opinion when it comes to this little controversy. That is because these other countries don’t have the problem the US. has. There is a higher rate of STDs (70,175,003 rough estimate about 24% of population) teen pregnancies, (671.63 births per 1 million people) in our US than in any country in the world. To discourage this trend we are programmed by the school, church, parents, and to some extent the media. This still is not stopping us though. According to a survey of high school students across the states in 2007 48% of high school students will have had sex by the end of high school, 17% with more than four partners.
The numbers don’t lie, a sexually active individual in the United States that is sleeping with different partners needs to keep this in mind and be careful who they sleep with.
Now I am going to bring the Holy bible (kings James Version not Hebrew) into the equation. Most of the things regarding sex and the relationship between man and woman can be found in the books of Genesis Matthew, Songs of Solomon, and First Corinthians.
After Eve and Adam eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God gives them sex and tells them to multiply. They also notice for the first time they are naked. This is an indicator that they are now feeling sexual urges for one another.
In Genesis sex is a good thing and woman consider it their duty to bare children for their man and you see different women going through great lengths to bare children. Examples: {Sarah and Hagar (Genesis chapters 20 and 21)} {Ta-mar and Judah (Genesis chapter 38)} and {Zo-ar and his two daughters Genesis (chapter19)}. In fact (females everywhere are going hate me for this) wives were the property of their man. While it was okay for the husband to sleep with any girl anywhere whether she be another wife, hooker, concubine harlot or what not, Married woman could only be “come in to’ by their husband and no other dude, otherwise she committed adultery.
Later on in the New Testament we see this rule changed by Paul in first Corinthians to say that any one who lusts after another person outside of the marriage commits adultery. He says sex outside of marriage is wrong not sex before marriage is wrong for those of you misinterpreting abstinent people. (I’ll find the versus later check I Corinthians Chapter 6 and 7 read it your self) Jesus lightly encourages abstinence in Matthew, but he did not say sex before marriage is a sin. Many people have twisted this around like St. Augustine in 1400AD.who in turn influenced the thinking of other saints who influenced European society who went on to influence the thinking of the whole world as we can see today.
Lastly if you take into consideration the love poems in Songs of Solomon, the book depicts sex as a very good and sacred thing. It is a gift from God to be enjoyed by both man and woman.
We as individuals need to take into consideration what is going on around us before we can make our own decision. Not the decision that society makes for us on our love life. Take these and any other factors into account when deciding what is best for you. The relationships between men and women are usually wonderful depending on how you choose to approach and treat them. Consider the validity that such relationships hold to you in terms of your well being in this long winding road we call life.