Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
On Vagintine's Day
In the U.S. men spend on average $135 for Valentine's day - twice the average a woman spends on a man. Explain to me why women own V-Day? If it's a "celebration of romantic love" why should it be an annual sh!t test?
Tomorrow it will have been 11 years to the day that I proposed to Mrs. Tomassi (yes, this was back when I thought stuff like this made an actual difference), my Valentine's days now consist of Mrs. Tomassi meeting me at the door of the house I bought after coming home from work in a nice Fredericks of Hollywood getup with a couple martinis already shaken and chilled, with our daughter at her aunts house. Then, after we've gotten busy at least twice, I may suggest that we go off to a nice dinner or produce the roses I bought on the way home.
Women only turn b!tchy if this is the precedent you set for them in the beginning. They can also turn appreciative if this is the precedent you establish. Whenever you buy a woman a gift you ALWAYS communicate a subtext of compensation for something with a woman - even if this is the furthest thing from your intent.
Lets just clarify a few things about Vagintines Day since it's probably the most irksome manifestation of westernized/commercialized romanticism. V-Day is the epitome of female entitlement. On no occasion - even a woman's birhtday or her wedding anniversary - is this sense of entitlement more pronounced and our refined commercialization of this entitlement/expectation simply twists the knife in further for men to live up to this with ZERO expectation or entitlment to any reciprocation. He gets 'lucky' if his romantic offerings are sufficient to appease her media fueled expectations of 'good enough' to reward him with sex.
And exploit the media does. I can't get away from it; Every radio station, every TV show, every newspaper and magazine article. Go to askmen.com right now, I guarantee there's a "how not to fukk up this year's V-Day for her" article there.
I listened to a talk radio show that I regularly tune into on my drive home yesterday; it was about what not buy this year. "Don't buy lingerie, she knows it's really a gift for you" or "Don't pick up flowers at the gas station, women know they're cheap", and "God forbid you pick up some cheap jewlery or stop at one of those roadside urchins selling prepared flower baskets or arrangements - women know you didn't think about it until you were on the way home." On my way to work this morning, different show, same list.
Why wouldn't women have these expectiations? They're relentlessly marketed to as the primary consumers in western culture. V-Day isn't a celebration of romantic love, it's a machine that drives a wedge of expectation and entitlement in between otherwise happy, contented couples.
I'm not down on the idea of a special occasion to celebrate love (I actually proposed to Mrs. Tomassi on V-Day 11 years ago), I am down on the twisted expectations that have been perverted into it that puts a woman on some pedestal of entitlement (as if most aren't put there already by every AFC in western society) by commercialized popularization of this feminized ideal. Why isn't there an official "fukk your boyfriend like a wild animal" holiday or a list of criteria to meet that'll make his day special? "Show him how appreciative you are of all his dependability and hard work this year - buy some lingerie ON YOUR OWN and pretend that you like him cvming in your mouth on his special day!" If women are so liberated and interested in equality, one would think this would be the first thing to occur to them. We need a special day to make us appreciate each other?
This is why I say don't buy a woman a thing until your first wedding anniversary. It's gotten to a point where ANY gift given is perceived as an exchange or a negotiation of intimacy. It's about mutual appreciation - if she doesn't appreciate you in the first place, no gift is going to convince her otherwise.
For the single DJ on V-Day
Just as an aside here, Valentine's Day is ripe with opportunity for the DJ with the ability to see it. Go hit the clubs tomorrow night, particularly the ones that cater to a 25-40 y.o. affluent crowd. You'll notice impromptu GNOs (girl's night out) set up just for this occasion to prove to themselves "they don't need men to have a good time." A good PUA couldn't arrange a better opportunity to hook up in multiple sets.
Don't go play 'pity friend' with any girl on Valentine's. Call up your best wing man and sarge on the best night of the year to sarge. Wedding receptions aren't even as good as V-Day for this.
In the U.S. men spend on average $135 for Valentine's day - twice the average a woman spends on a man. Explain to me why women own V-Day? If it's a "celebration of romantic love" why should it be an annual sh!t test?
Tomorrow it will have been 11 years to the day that I proposed to Mrs. Tomassi (yes, this was back when I thought stuff like this made an actual difference), my Valentine's days now consist of Mrs. Tomassi meeting me at the door of the house I bought after coming home from work in a nice Fredericks of Hollywood getup with a couple martinis already shaken and chilled, with our daughter at her aunts house. Then, after we've gotten busy at least twice, I may suggest that we go off to a nice dinner or produce the roses I bought on the way home.
Women only turn b!tchy if this is the precedent you set for them in the beginning. They can also turn appreciative if this is the precedent you establish. Whenever you buy a woman a gift you ALWAYS communicate a subtext of compensation for something with a woman - even if this is the furthest thing from your intent.
Lets just clarify a few things about Vagintines Day since it's probably the most irksome manifestation of westernized/commercialized romanticism. V-Day is the epitome of female entitlement. On no occasion - even a woman's birhtday or her wedding anniversary - is this sense of entitlement more pronounced and our refined commercialization of this entitlement/expectation simply twists the knife in further for men to live up to this with ZERO expectation or entitlment to any reciprocation. He gets 'lucky' if his romantic offerings are sufficient to appease her media fueled expectations of 'good enough' to reward him with sex.
And exploit the media does. I can't get away from it; Every radio station, every TV show, every newspaper and magazine article. Go to askmen.com right now, I guarantee there's a "how not to fukk up this year's V-Day for her" article there.
I listened to a talk radio show that I regularly tune into on my drive home yesterday; it was about what not buy this year. "Don't buy lingerie, she knows it's really a gift for you" or "Don't pick up flowers at the gas station, women know they're cheap", and "God forbid you pick up some cheap jewlery or stop at one of those roadside urchins selling prepared flower baskets or arrangements - women know you didn't think about it until you were on the way home." On my way to work this morning, different show, same list.
Why wouldn't women have these expectiations? They're relentlessly marketed to as the primary consumers in western culture. V-Day isn't a celebration of romantic love, it's a machine that drives a wedge of expectation and entitlement in between otherwise happy, contented couples.
I'm not down on the idea of a special occasion to celebrate love (I actually proposed to Mrs. Tomassi on V-Day 11 years ago), I am down on the twisted expectations that have been perverted into it that puts a woman on some pedestal of entitlement (as if most aren't put there already by every AFC in western society) by commercialized popularization of this feminized ideal. Why isn't there an official "fukk your boyfriend like a wild animal" holiday or a list of criteria to meet that'll make his day special? "Show him how appreciative you are of all his dependability and hard work this year - buy some lingerie ON YOUR OWN and pretend that you like him cvming in your mouth on his special day!" If women are so liberated and interested in equality, one would think this would be the first thing to occur to them. We need a special day to make us appreciate each other?
This is why I say don't buy a woman a thing until your first wedding anniversary. It's gotten to a point where ANY gift given is perceived as an exchange or a negotiation of intimacy. It's about mutual appreciation - if she doesn't appreciate you in the first place, no gift is going to convince her otherwise.
For the single DJ on V-Day
Just as an aside here, Valentine's Day is ripe with opportunity for the DJ with the ability to see it. Go hit the clubs tomorrow night, particularly the ones that cater to a 25-40 y.o. affluent crowd. You'll notice impromptu GNOs (girl's night out) set up just for this occasion to prove to themselves "they don't need men to have a good time." A good PUA couldn't arrange a better opportunity to hook up in multiple sets.
Don't go play 'pity friend' with any girl on Valentine's. Call up your best wing man and sarge on the best night of the year to sarge. Wedding receptions aren't even as good as V-Day for this.
