OnTheWayUp
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Hi SS,
It's been a while since I last posted as I've been busy with career stuff and the gym. I've had an argument with my gf over Valentine's Day and am not sure how to proceed.
Context:
-Generally very good relationship, almost a year in duration.
-Her first sex, my first relationship
- Pros: Pretty (7), young (21), well-mannered, compliant girlfriend 95% of the time. Taught her about sex and helped her discover her own body. She's been very supportive of my degree and my work. She's clever, funny for a girl and makes decent conversation.
-Cons: she comes from a rich family so is sometimes entitled in her attitude, her family are very controlling of her, she fears confrontation with me or her parents so occasionally avoids explaining difficult situations to me.
-Met at a top university, both now graduated.
-She is now at law school, I'm doing odd jobs teaching and translating whilst looking for business work and living with my parents. This has taken a large toll on my self-esteem.
The argument:
She had been sending me the odd meme about Valentine's Day on Facebook. Last year we agreed that V-Day was commercial kitsch and did nothing to celebrate it. So I decided to broach the subject directly and said that I didn't want to do anything for V-Day this year for the same reasons as last year. Being a girl, she got upset, and said that she didn't expect tacky roses or chocolates, but she thought it would be nice to do something coupley. I thought dinner or dancing was a fair compromise so agreed to that.
Fastforward a few days and I invite her here for dinner on the 13th. She now tells me that she has arranged something with her dad for V-Day, and "doesn't want me to do something that I feel uncomfortable with." She had already mentioned the event with her dad when I saw her on Thursday, after our initial argument.
My gut feeling tells me that she's still very into me (really fun date on Thursday with great sex, she initiates contact 90% of the time), but feels a bit slighted that I was so blasé about V-Day.
I'm torn between:
-explaining my rationale again (I don't like V-Day, but it's always nice to see your gf)
-going NC as I feel she's taken my counteroffer of dinner entirely for granted and her turning me down is disrespectful
-leaving her entirely because of this argument + the cons above + plenty more fish in the sea
It's been a while since I last posted as I've been busy with career stuff and the gym. I've had an argument with my gf over Valentine's Day and am not sure how to proceed.
Context:
-Generally very good relationship, almost a year in duration.
-Her first sex, my first relationship
- Pros: Pretty (7), young (21), well-mannered, compliant girlfriend 95% of the time. Taught her about sex and helped her discover her own body. She's been very supportive of my degree and my work. She's clever, funny for a girl and makes decent conversation.
-Cons: she comes from a rich family so is sometimes entitled in her attitude, her family are very controlling of her, she fears confrontation with me or her parents so occasionally avoids explaining difficult situations to me.
-Met at a top university, both now graduated.
-She is now at law school, I'm doing odd jobs teaching and translating whilst looking for business work and living with my parents. This has taken a large toll on my self-esteem.
The argument:
She had been sending me the odd meme about Valentine's Day on Facebook. Last year we agreed that V-Day was commercial kitsch and did nothing to celebrate it. So I decided to broach the subject directly and said that I didn't want to do anything for V-Day this year for the same reasons as last year. Being a girl, she got upset, and said that she didn't expect tacky roses or chocolates, but she thought it would be nice to do something coupley. I thought dinner or dancing was a fair compromise so agreed to that.
Fastforward a few days and I invite her here for dinner on the 13th. She now tells me that she has arranged something with her dad for V-Day, and "doesn't want me to do something that I feel uncomfortable with." She had already mentioned the event with her dad when I saw her on Thursday, after our initial argument.
My gut feeling tells me that she's still very into me (really fun date on Thursday with great sex, she initiates contact 90% of the time), but feels a bit slighted that I was so blasé about V-Day.
I'm torn between:
-explaining my rationale again (I don't like V-Day, but it's always nice to see your gf)
-going NC as I feel she's taken my counteroffer of dinner entirely for granted and her turning me down is disrespectful
-leaving her entirely because of this argument + the cons above + plenty more fish in the sea
