Vaginas: WMD's?

[seabreeze]

Guys,

I was showering this morning, doing the usual cleaning up, and just looked at my kitty. I looked at it and thought. "What is the big friggin deal?" Why does it seem to me now that vaginas are viewed as WMD's (Weapons of Male Destruction) to some of you guys. And it's not just the guys on this site---Askmen, Menshealth, and iVillage too! I mean, c'mon is it that scary? Is it true what Dr. Luv says: "A beautiful women, the most dangerous thing in the world." Nah! Couldn't be. Why do vaginas have so much power?

Okay, I guess what I'm really getting at is, how can we women put you guys more at ease? How can we let you guys know that you turn us on and you don't have to be afraid of us?

SB

 

[c-note]

Kitty? Show us what you're takling about.

 

[GaryNas]

I'd feel at ease if women initiated more conversations. Guys in general (including me) are sometimes shy and don't obey the "3 second rule". :/

 

[rgeere]

Well, as an illustration, I think I would feel a little less intemidated by the opposite sex if I knew that I could publically hop onto any random woman that came along and start getting in on without any worry of the end result of me doing so.

But no, we all have to follow societies rules of patience, persistence, and even the possibility of rejection every once in while. That all comes with that fact that we don't live in a perfect world and there are barriers and rules each and every one of us has to follow to a certain degree.

 

[Lost In Translation]

you are a woman on a mens website ?

And it's not just the guys on this site---Askmen, Menshealth, and iVillage too! I mean, c'mon is it that scary?

no what is scary TROLL is that you are hanging out on all the MENS websites

I was showering this morning, doing the usual cleaning up, and just looked at my kitty. I looked at it and thought. "What is the big friggin deal?"

are you a man ? on here posing as a woman ?

Why do vaginas have so much power?

go back to the rock that you crawled out from under

a. feminazi attention wh0re

b. 67 year old man who runs a child pornography ring and poses as a woman

Okay, I guess what I'm really getting at is, how can we women put you guys more at ease? How can we let you guys know that you turn us on and you don't have to be afraid of us?

you sicken me. you are a TROLL. nuff said.




Lost In Translation

 

[Knicknack]

to answer your question logically, it's because men have a natural desire to spread their seed, so to speak. when that desire starts to dominate a male's thoughts, it can lead him to act very strange. for some guys it's acting shy, some needy and clingy, etc...

you need to stop hanging around wusses and find a guy who "gets it." and don't start trying to PM or email me with your pic! you gotta be attractive AND have a personality to talk to me, sista!!!

 

[Lost In Translation]

don't you mean brother ?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59999

*Mariosex
Not any more, thats for sure . I've been fooled by 3+ girls now.. who have all turned out to be guys. Now.. that MAY sound like I'm a gullible idiot. But many others I knew were fooled also. I got revenge on all 3 of them though.



Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks for your replies guys. I agree that women should initiate conversation more. I agree that women should put guys through less of the "rules" crap. I read some of that book about the rules and tossed it. It sounded like gameplaying to me. Being a woman, I know that women feel the same insecurities and fear that guys do, and its a shame that we can cause the same thing in men that we don't want to feel. (By the way, ALL of those sites that I mentioned have an equal amount of women on them as regular community members and the men are very comfortable with that). I like this site because you guys show more of your frustration with women. Reading this site has helped me understand more of the struggles men go through, and I'm curious about that. It's something I never thought about before until now. I just assumed that everything that women said about men is true, now I don't.

So, I'm just curious about how men and women can make this thing work better between us and stop hurting one another. So, what are some other ways that women can be more open and less intimidating?
SB

And by the way, I won't be emailing ANYBODY here and if you haven't noticed I haven't included my email, so don't worry about that!

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by seabreeze
So, I'm just curious about how men and women can make this thing work better between us and stop hurting one another. So, what are some other ways that women can be more open and less intimidating?
SB

Show your feelings but don't expect anything back in return. In fact, expect the other person to be very insecure, and be needing some time (and maybe multiple efforts from your side) to accept that he IS actually sexy and turns you on.

I've tried this tactic with my last 2 girls and it worked nicely. At first they seemed like they didn't really care, but then they opened up after some time and became loving and nurturing.

It wouldn't have happened (I think) if I have just given up after some time.

 

[seabreeze]

Ice Cold,

So are you saying that women should take more chances and be more patient with guys? Should women be upfront about how they feel about a guy---you know be consistent with telling him that they find him attractive and sexy? Is this what you mean?
Thanks
SB

 

[frivolousz21]

by cliking on this post.

ive seen my IQ drop...and let me tell you if it drops any further they will call me

FOREST!

hehe!

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Ice Cold,

So are you saying that women should take more chances and be more patient with guys? Should women be upfront about how they feel about a guy---you know be consistent with telling him that they find him attractive and sexy? Is this what you mean?
Thanks
SB

Basically yeah...

I asked myself the same question some time ago: 'how can we women put you guys more at ease? How can we let you guys know that you turn us on and you don't have to be afraid of us?'

Which translates: "what should I change about myself, so that the girls are XYZ towards me in return"

Considering that most of the people are extremely insecure and take quite a bit of time to open up, you can only persist nicely and take initiative.

For example, I saw a shy girl (but cute) at a lab last week. Looked at her, she looked down. Came up, said hi. I was asking all the questions or talking about stuff. She didn't seem really intrested, but didn't say no. After the lab I took a walk with her, some touching and the next time she saw me, she hugged me and was really happy to see me.

Had I assumed she's not intrested cause she didn't hold a convo, I would've never gotten to know her.

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks for the clarification Ice Cold.

You know, I've noticed a thread on here about "women and self worth" ---something like that. I didn't really read it through, but basically the fact that a woman can damage a guys self worth really bothers me. And it bothers me the other way around too.

I just don't understand how what God meant to give guys so much pleasure can also cause them so much pain and angst. I know that there are some women out there who have really mistreated men and I admit that I have underestimated the emotional depth that men have. I think it's sad that I feel the same way about men that some of you guys feel about women too. It's like we're all afraid of each other! So, we either resort to being a DJ or DJette(I know they exist) or we keep taking chances with our hearts.

Now, I've already had numerous conversations with my female friends about men and our fear of them and the emotional power that you guys have over us. Most of my female friends tend to believe that women have sexual power over men, and the ones that are men-haters use it to their advantage. How is it soooo easy for them to do this to you guys? I think it sucks! I have this male friend who always stays on his guard with women (even though he admits that he is basically addicted to p----y). Every time I call him on his stuff he reminds me of the movie "Original Sin" with Angelina Jolie and Antonio Banderas. He says women have the power to destroy a man and he's never going to let that happen to him---even though he knows he can't live without the poon. I find this hard to understand!
SB

 

[Ice Cold]

It's about having your priorities in order. It's not only the guys who can get under control of a girl... it goes both ways.

If you pair up and unexperienced person with someone who had a few partners... and the innocent one (be it a guy or a girl) takes the other one seriously, then this person is gonna be controlled. Sometimes to a large degree.

Don't take that WMD literally. In extreme cases you'll have actually controlling relationships... killing each other because of revenge, suiciding, becoming bitter... But usually it's just causal stuff like where to go and who kisses each other's ass.

I just don't understand how what God meant to give guys so much pleasure can also cause them so much pain and angst.

True... And you can't even begin to imagine our favority toy! Boobies! I can play around with them for hours and I'll never get bored. It's ingrained really deeply: "boobs = fun"

I know that there are some women out there who have really mistreated men and I admit that I have underestimated the emotional depth that men have. I think it's sad that I feel the same way about men that some of you guys feel about women too. It's like we're all afraid of each other! So, we either resort to being a DJ or DJette(I know they exist) or we keep taking chances with our hearts.

Emotional depth? What's that? Probably that blue balls feeling we get

You're getting into the "who has the upper hand" in the relationship question. That's way too complicated.

How is it soooo easy for them to do this to you guys? I think it sucks!

It's not that easy usually. Especially if the guy is at least a bit experienced.

 

[Ice Cold]

BTW: Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase:

Hussain was finally captured and interrogated, because Bush suspected he had WMD.

 

[cactus3178]

Originally posted by seabreeze


Why do vaginas have so much power?

This isn't necessarily true. Maybe to some guys, but those of us who know better don't give it the 'power' some of you women think you (it) has.

IMO, being a guy is great because, hey, if a girl your with/dating/f*cking/whatever wants to get all greedy with the p*ssy, there's always another just around the corner. Same is true for most girls. And thank God it's this way.

I'm not saying that I view women as sex objects, I dont. But I absolutely hate women that use sex as a weapon against guys.

Truth be told, I like getting laid, but in the end, I can get the same effect (if not better from time to time) with my own damn hand.

Vaginas holding power? No, not for me.

 

[AFK Protector]

I really gotta go pretend I'm a chick now. Check out these responses! I'd be a pure DJ if you guys treated me like a woman.

 

[seabreeze]

Ice Cold,

I think you have a very balanced way of looking at the power dynamics between the sexes. You've given me a lot to think about. I guess it all depends on how secure a man (or a woman) is when it comes to who's in control and who's private parts are destructive. I guess it's hard for me to fathom why any man would be afraid of a woman, ie, afraid to approach her, etc. I always view guys as having most of the power in relationships anyway. So, a lot of the things I'm reading here surprises the hell out of me.
SB

 

[seabreeze]

Cactus,

I actually think you sound very secure and confident which is very healthy. You're right that vaginas are not powerful. They're just here to do what they're supposed to do---nothing to be intimidated about. And yes, mine looks completely harmless to me!

I hope you always keep this outlook so that no woman will ever use her sexuality to control you. Good luck with the ladies!
SB

P.S. how do you post a picture here?

 

[MetalFortress]

seabreeze, the biggest weapon here is that of perception. Guys start percieving it as dangerous, and so many of them start to believe it, then they spread it around, and it becomes "common knowledge". I personally think it's ridiculous, and I love being the initiator with women. Without taking a little step outside the comfort zone, life is boring.