Using your gf's facebook: time bomb

[GhostWriter]

. We kissed in a nightclub and a few days later he broke up with her like a real cold nasty piece of work in the pub they had their first date in. Within a month we were together and so happy.

I'd say the girl is the real cold nasty piece of work. She kissed another guy while she had a long term boyfriend, so he dumped her. He did the right thing.

I've been in a similar situation, (minus the moving in together part). What I did was I let her know it made me uncomfortable, and that I really didn't know what to do about it.

If she says any crap like oh WHY WERE YOU ON MY FACEBOOK!? Tell her that is not the issue, the issue is her making you uncomfortable since she is talking with her ex bf. Ask her about why she wanted to send him a friend request.
(Fact: You already know she is reaching out to him.).

Like I said, DO NOT let her turn it into "you don't trust me" or "you are an insecure jerk" or "why were you on my facebook" or "you text YOUR friends!" That's not the issue. Keep calm, stay in control, be stubborn.

I also went through a similar situation. Telling her that you feel uncomfortable is the worst thing you can do. The reason for this is because it will elicit the trust/jealously/insecure card.

Why should you have to tell your girlfriend not to talk to her ex anyways? It's bull crap. It's like telling a thief not to steal your stuff.

I made the mistake of verbalizing how I felt in my situation. The next time I know to either play the same game, or even better...

Dump the b!tch (Which is what I did).

 

[Johnnyventana]

Is anyone surprised she wants the ex?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

You need to dump her. It should be common sence that when your in a relationship with someone you should not talk to past exes.