Use of porn shown to boost testosterone - family life shown to decrease it

[MatureDJ]

http://www.newsweek.com/id/198512?from=rss

So basically, when men are looking at potential sexual conquests (porn), their testosterone increases, and when they're stuck with nothing to conquest (family situation), it decreases.

The article states that use of porn could be as good as, if not better than, medication to treat low testosterone:

Yes it's effective, yes it's powerful, yes it can produce a host of feel-good chemicals but the costs are extraordinary

I've always noticed that the only time Al Bundy nailed Peg was when he had the "Big Un's" magazine tacked up on top the bed. :woo:

What "extraordinary" costs? Wives loose their husband's "fidelity"? So basically a man has to suffer under less than optimal quality of life just because his use of porn would cause his wife shame?

This is like my then 52 y.o. friend who was banging a 16 y.o. saying "banging a young chick is better than Viagra." :woo:

P.S. Love the way the author describes being married with children: "captivity" :woo:

 

[radiodude]

http://www.newsweek.com/id/198512?from=rss

So basically, when men are looking at potential sexual conquests (porn), their testosterone increases, and when they're stuck with nothing to conquest (family situation), it decreases.

The article states that use of porn could be as good as, if not better than, medication to treat low testosterone:



I've always noticed that the only time Al Bundy nailed Peg was when he had the "Big Un's" magazine tacked up on top the bed. :woo:

What "extraordinary" costs? Wives loose their husband's "fidelity"? So basically a man has to suffer under less than optimal quality of life just because his use of porn would cause his wife shame?

This is like my then 52 y.o. friend who was banging a 16 y.o. saying "banging a young chick is better than Viagra." :woo:

P.S. Love the way the author describes being married with children: "captivity" :woo:

Interesting article. As a married man myself, I would rather suggest a guy go out and run, workout, get active and get occupied with something other than porn.

Porn just seems like a bad excuse to raise levels when there is so much else that can.

 

[horaholic]

If porn, increases testosterene, then I should be superman by now!

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

^^^^^^
Hahah,..I was gonna say, damn, pro bodybuilders must be porn addicts!

 

[Luthor Rex]

This is like my then 52 y.o. friend who was banging a 16 y.o. saying "banging a young chick is better than Viagra." :woo:

Your friend would probably like clicking on the smiley face in my sig.

 

[speed dawg]

So basically, when men are looking at potential sexual conquests (porn), their testosterone increases, and when they're stuck with nothing to conquest (family situation), it decreases.

This is interesting. But I'd go so far as to say it is not the family situation that is actually bringing the T-levels down. It's the fact that the husband gets comfortable in the situation, or any situation, and loses ambition ie gets fat, lazy, suburbanite and mindless.

 

[wjh]

This is interesting. But I'd go so far as to say it is not the family situation that is actually bringing the T-levels down. It's the fact that the husband gets comfortable in the situation, or any situation, and loses ambition ie gets fat, lazy, suburbanite and mindless.

... I doubt that's usually the case.

The wife plays a role, too. If she no longer provides the stimulation she once did, or maybe the stimulation he hoped he had bargained for with marriage, he may just shut down that testosterone fueled part of himself as a natural reaction... A sort of martyrdom. This is one of my worst fears.

 

[Juando]

I would love to hear more from you married and LTR guys on this, not so much about the porn or technical T levels, but about keeping the magic in a relationship.

 

[radiodude]

I would love to hear more from you married and LTR guys on this, not so much about the porn or technical T levels, but about keeping the magic in a relationship.

Well, in my situation, we just had a son back in October. It's a second full-time job. It can be a struggle to find time to make that magic.

One of things that I've found since we've been married, is when my 'fantasy' mind starts to get active, I always try and introduce some element of it in our relationship. That tends to stir things up in a good way.

Marriage, while very rewarding, is also a struggle. It takes work and effort. If you don't you'll run into issues.

The biggest struggle when things get a bit dry or boring is keeping yourself from thinking that the hottie you work down the hall from or know from someplace else can throw it down better than the wifey. You find yourself wondering if she'll do some things the Mrs won't.

Thats when you introduce some new ideas to liven things up a bit.

Btw- Preganancy and the after effects can mess with a womans hormones too, thus making that time togeather less or more frequent, depending.

 

[speed dawg]

Well, in my situation, we just had a son back in October. It's a second full-time job. It can be a struggle to find time to make that magic.

One of things that I've found since we've been married, is when my 'fantasy' mind starts to get active, I always try and introduce some element of it in our relationship. That tends to stir things up in a good way.

Marriage, while very rewarding, is also a struggle. It takes work and effort. If you don't you'll run into issues.

The biggest struggle when things get a bit dry or boring is keeping yourself from thinking that the hottie you work down the hall from or know from someplace else can throw it down better than the wifey. You find yourself wondering if she'll do some things the Mrs won't.

Thats when you introduce some new ideas to liven things up a bit.

Btw- Preganancy and the after effects can mess with a womans hormones too, thus making that time togeather less or more frequent, depending.

I understand all people are different, but I don't completely agree with this. My marriage has not been the least bit of work. I don't have a ball and chain like some chumps like to say. We are also expecting our first come December, and so far it's been more exciting than anything else. Some moodswings, but overall not bad. She does want me to read some of those cheesy feminista "make the husband into a caring pvssy" books but to no avail. I know what kind of father I want to be. I think she just wants to make sure I'm involved more than anything. And to tell you the truth, she's correct, and I want to be involved, because I care.

I have gone through spells where I'm not all into sex with my wife. And I no doubt check out every piece of hot pvssy I see. But there's that willpower that comes into play, you can't go against reality. It wouldn't bother me in the least if I saw my wife checking out some guy, as long as she doesn't act on it. Then again, we definitely have that healthy anxiety RT always talks about, keeps things interesting.

Bottom line is, I think I have a very good marriage and I don't see it as much of a struggle. Yes, the sex drive can decline, but sometimes we fvck like only she and I can, so I wouldn't trade it. Ten years from now I may think differently. I hope not, but in this world we live in........

Edit: To add a little example to make it Testosterone related, I went through a "downer" type period in Jan.-Feb. of this year. Buried in work, not enough time to work out, dreary outside, no good sports on TV, doing the same sh1t every day, routine, just all around crappy time of year for me. I didn't have much interest in sex, barely even got hard-ons at all. This kind of presented some problems and cramped my "social agenda".

Well, early spring, we were getting alot of rain, so I go out and dug a french drain around my house by shovel. Suddenly my problems went away.

 

[Da Realist]

I've heard that testosterone drops when a guy has a kid because it's a way to protect the child. I don't have any children, so walking into Chucky Cheese with a bunch of kids running around and screaming in high pitched voices isn't the most enjoyable thing... till I see some of the moms. But back to what I was saying, it's not hard to understand since male lions will kill cubs that aren't their own when they become head of a group. Seeing as people aren't really as evolved as we think sometimes, I can imagine seeing this little person getting some of the attention you used to get from your wife can work your nerves and its probably best for all involved that you're a little calmer than you would be if you weren't as aggresive.

 

[radiodude]

I understand all people are different, but I don't completely agree with this. My marriage has not been the least bit of work. I don't have a ball and chain like some chumps like to say. We are also expecting our first come December, and so far it's been more exciting than anything else. Some moodswings, but overall not bad. She does want me to read some of those cheesy feminista "make the husband into a caring pvssy" books but to no avail. I know what kind of father I want to be. I think she just wants to make sure I'm involved more than anything. And to tell you the truth, she's correct, and I want to be involved, because I care.

I have gone through spells where I'm not all into sex with my wife. And I no doubt check out every piece of hot pvssy I see. But there's that willpower that comes into play, you can't go against reality. It wouldn't bother me in the least if I saw my wife checking out some guy, as long as she doesn't act on it. Then again, we definitely have that healthy anxiety RT always talks about, keeps things interesting.

Bottom line is, I think I have a very good marriage and I don't see it as much of a struggle. Yes, the sex drive can decline, but sometimes we fvck like only she and I can, so I wouldn't trade it. Ten years from now I may think differently. I hope not, but in this world we live in........

Edit: To add a little example to make it Testosterone related, I went through a "downer" type period in Jan.-Feb. of this year. Buried in work, not enough time to work out, dreary outside, no good sports on TV, doing the same sh1t every day, routine, just all around crappy time of year for me. I didn't have much interest in sex, barely even got hard-ons at all. This kind of presented some problems and cramped my "social agenda".

Well, early spring, we were getting alot of rain, so I go out and dug a french drain around my house by shovel. Suddenly my problems went away.

When I say work, I don't mean the marriage itself is bad. We are happy and enjoy our son and time togeather. what I'm talking about is in the daily routine, finding 'time' togeather. Once you have a child, it's a full-time commitment. We both work full-time because I haven't advanced enough yet to support both of us which I'd eventually like to do.

I'm very involved with my son. I love spending time with him too and watching him grow.

Once the baby arrives, you'll see the schedule change. Add work, errands and family on top of that and it can get tiring.

Would I stray? absolutely not!

 

[fertileTurtle]

If this is true, then I wonder what sex does in comparision.

 

[sodbuster]

When you are dog tired from getting a wake up at 12,3 and 6 for feedings[darn bottles-we get to do our share now] and work the same hours,can't exercise because your kid is trying to stick his fingers in the eliptical track etc. yes your desire drops. Then if the child gets colic and screams for 3 or 4 hours straight at night, it might be good to have a lower rage factor.

 

[Solomon]

one has to wonder what the "extraordinary" cost of porn are.....