Use It or Lose It

[Galactus]

It's not like riding a bike. If you stop talking to women, you forget how. If you change your focus, you get rusty.

This is my first posting on this site in over seven years. That's right, seven years. I'm happy to see that I have a couple things in the DJ Bible, that's cool.

I went on a secret mission for my country, but now I'm back. I did get some action during that time, but overall, I really lost my ability to connect with women. It's freaking me out. Just the fact that I said it's freaking me out, freaks me out.

So I don't want the title of Master DJ until I re-earn it. I see that there is a whole new bunch of people here, and I hope you will forgive me if I come across a little AFC at times. I gotta put the training wheels back on. The cool thing is, I think I'm on the right website for getting back in the game. You'll see, I have a lot of useful stuff to contribute, it's just hiding in my brain, somewhere behind that chili recipe and my most recent memory of "30 Days of Night."

Anyway, the lesson here is: Keep those skills up. Don't forget the things you learn, not if using those skills has any value to you. Whatever you focus on, that's what comes about. If you keep wondering why you can't meet women, or can't get rich, then that's what will happen. Focus on actually getting those things, and how to go about getting them, and you will get them.

I hope to have some more great conversations here again.

 

[COD]

this is true for social dynamics suff, public speaking, writing, makng killer email enticements, etc, etc.

BEING OUT OF THE GAME...........for a bit equates to being out of the loop, not current, and so on.

Try to write stuff that works down, that way U always have a template.

 

[Galactus]

Thanks, COD! I had a feeling that just by coming back to this forum, I would start getting it back into my head. It has definitely been coming back.

I hope to contribute more meaningful stuff to you guys again in the near future. For now I'm just gonna kind of lurk in the background and absorb what people are saying.

And several years ago, I did write stuff down, enough for at least a small book. I just can't find it now.

Here's something I would have known how to handle in the past: There's a girl I saw about a month ago. We hit it off immediately. We had our arms around each other and all that stuff. But I didn't make a move to take it beyond that. Today I saw her, and she was less friendly. I'm not really asking where I screwed up, because I can think of several ways I did. But I think it really just boils down to the fact that my confidence has taken a beating, and for some reason it hasn't come back strong enough yet.

So, like I said, Use It or Lose It.

 

[Warrior74]

it comes back to you..but that's why guys get rusty in relationships...you change your focus and your skill set. It just takes some time to redevelop those skills. It can be done though. So just know that some failure is to be expected in the beginning....plow thru that shiit and keep going! good luck!

 

[Galactus]

Just wanted to report that things hadn't changed too much for quite awhile. But then yesterday I was on here looking at some of my posts from yesteryear, and some of the DJ stuff I had been doing in my previous life started coming back to me.

So I went to rehearsal last night for this play I'm in, and I tried a few little things I'd forgotten how to do. It's embarrassing that I forgot this stuff. For instance, there's this one girl that wasn't giving me the time of day previously. But I lobbed a neg at her and rubbed her thigh for a second, and, who knows what will ultimately happen, but I'll tell you this: I got her attention.

Not sure how I'm going to proceed with her, but I think next time I might dial it back a bit. She gets lots of male attention, so I think after last night she's expecting more from me.

Anyway, just wanted to mention how thrilled I am that the sleeping DJ is waking up again.

 

[initiatorhater06]

Yup, thats reality