Urgent Advice needed

[john1234]

I live with my partner for months and one day I told her that I need to move to my cousins house for 1 month to focus on my studies and save some money(thruth was that i needed space to study).

She has gone beserk and is ending the relationship.


Can you explain whats wrong here? don't understand what I have done wrong

 

[evan12]

you didnt do any thing wrong , the relationship was ended from her side and she was waiting for a good reason to put the blame on you .

rule: whenever women ends relationship for not a good reason releaise it wasnt your visible reason that pushed her to breakup .

 

[Ruleit]

When a woman says, "I need some space for ____" (insert any reasonable sounding bullsh!t excuse)

She means she wants to go out and f*ck other guys and evaluate his/their potential as a new boyfriend while you fap at home waiting for her to make up her mind.

This is what she believes is what you want to do. This is why she wants to dump you before you dump her. Additionally, she could be projecting her issues onto you because she was getting tired of the relationship anyway and you've given her just the excuse she needs to get rid of you. And, yeah, we know you don't, but trying to explain that to her is a waste of breath.

So what should you do? Nothing.
Shut your mouth because anything you say in your defence is only going to incriminate you more in her eyes. She's a lousy girlfriend with zero empathy for you and is holding you back in your life.

Go to your cousin's place, focus on your studies. She is jeopardizing your future and placing her own self-interest first. This is not the type of woman you want to continue having a relationship with.

Strangely enough (not really)
- if you put yourself first and concentrate on your studies
- go NO CONTACT with her
- get your **** together and maintain your frame
- Don't beg her to reconsider

And you have a good chance of her coming back to you because she has respect for you.

 

[john1234]

When a woman says, "I need some space for ____" (insert any reasonable sounding bullsh!t excuse)

She means she wants to go out and f*ck other guys and evaluate his/their potential as a new boyfriend while you fap at home waiting for her to make up her mind.

This is what she believes is what you want to do. This is why she wants to dump you before you dump her. Additionally, she could be projecting her issues onto you because she was getting tired of the relationship anyway and you've given her just the excuse she needs to get rid of you. And, yeah, we know you don't, but trying to explain that to her is a waste of breath.

So what should you do? Nothing.
Shut your mouth because anything you say in your defence is only going to incriminate you more in her eyes. She's a lousy girlfriend with zero empathy for you and is holding you back in your life.

Go to your cousin's place, focus on your studies. She is jeopardizing your future and placing her own self-interest first. This is not the type of woman you want to continue having a relationship with.

Strangely enough (not really)
- if you put yourself first and concentrate on your studies
- go NO CONTACT with her
- get your **** together and maintain your frame
- Don't beg her to reconsider

And you have a good chance of her coming back to you because she has respect for you.

ok will do, I have not begged her! just I told her I would not move after she gave me the ultimatum/end. Then she just rants like a mind less person and drags me into argue which I play it cool.

I felt really bad today but I will move on swiftly and hope you guys on here are right

 

[john1234]

She's a lousy girlfriend with zero empathy for you and is holding you back in your life.

i feel like this

 

[Ruleit]

Looking back on your previous posts:

ok will do, I have not begged her! just I told her I would not move after she gave me the ultimatum/end. Then she just rants like a mind less person and drags me into argue which I play it cool.

I felt really bad today but I will move on swiftly and hope you guys on here are right

Is this the same batsh!t crazy b!tch that:

1) You suspect was cheating on you?
2) Pulled a pregnancy stunt on you?
3) Pulled the getting an abortion stunt on you?
3) Blackmailed you into buying a ring?
4) Is coercing you to marry her up?

Dude, if I was you I'd be celebrating with the "Get out of jail free" card she's brandishing by her "dumping" you. Don't be a fool and continue a relationship with this drama queen. Things will only get worse.

EDIT:

Using her past behaviour as a predictor of future behaviour: The odds are favourable that she will be blowing up your phone within a week.

 

[john1234]

Looking back on your previous posts:



Is this the same batsh!t crazy b!tch that:

1) You suspect was cheating on you?
2) Pulled a pregnancy stunt on you?
3) Pulled the getting an abortion stunt on you?
3) Blackmailed you into buying a ring?
4) Is coercing you to marry her up?

Dude, if I was you I'd be celebrating with the "Get out of jail free" card she's brandishing by her "dumping" you. Don't be a fool and continue a relationship with this drama queen. Things will only get worse.

yes to all the above.
I agree she is doing me a favor.

Last week she told me she wants a baby, and we already agreed we were never going to have them! she insisted this and she wanted us to get married as well, I said nothing and played it cool and the next few weeks a series of arguments followed and then the topic of this post happened.

I know it, I need to separate from her but it was not easy, we live together,I feel sorry for her sometimes and I also enjoy her company and stuff.

I have secured a flat to move out to so there's no turning back now!

 

[yuppaz]

Dude, your body and subconscious are trying to get you away from a batsh*t crazy woman. You are coming up with all kinds of reasons to get away, like having to save money, got to study etc. It's time for you to realize that you don't want this girl. She is bad joojoo for you. Run now and get out of this cheap (maybe something thrown at your head vs. paying half of your money for 18+years

 

[john1234]

Dude, your body and subconscious are trying to get you away from a batsh*t crazy woman. You are coming up with all kinds of reasons to get away, like having to save money, got to study etc. It's time for you to realize that you don't want this girl. She is bad joojoo for you. Run now and get out of this cheap (maybe something thrown at your head vs. paying half of your money for 18+years

I guess so, I'm just so annoyed because I know she will start sleeping with guys straight away, cause I saw a message of her to some guy. She told the guy that " she broke up a relationship" and the guy said that should he come round and she said no just broke it up".

And the guy was some guy whom she mentioned in the past tried to use her and she said bad stuff about him?


I think she will f**k other guys straight away if they game her and I just don't want her back after we breakup because of this amongst the other reasons flagged!

 

[Gro0ver]

Good riddance to bad rubbish! Sounds like you got away just in time, I would go to the pub and celebrate :cheer:

 

[john1234]

nothing wrong done by you. I think she just need a reason to breakup.
OR
many time people are more sensitive then we are thinking. May be she never thought that you are going to leave her.

may be, she is very sensitive as well.

She called me today to ask how I was doing and I just said I'm busy and would talk later.

Is this the right DJ mannerism?

I truthfully don't know what she is playing?

 

[VladPatton]

Damn, holy shıt, bro. I think you dodge a bullet. Excellent advice given here, she slowly went after her own interest hoping you wouldn't notice. When you threw a monkey wrench into her machine, she flipped. Glad you realized and broke away.

Good luck to ya.

 

[hithard]

I guess so, I'm just so annoyed because I know she will start sleeping with guys straight away, cause I saw a message of her to some guy. She told the guy that " she broke up a relationship" and the guy said that should he come round and she said no just broke it up".

And the guy was some guy whom she mentioned in the past tried to use her and she said bad stuff about him?


I think she will f**k other guys straight away if they game her and I just don't want her back after we breakup because of this amongst the other reasons flagged!

This is the equivalent to an emotional dagger hanging over your head. It's like living your life in fear, that if something ever goes wrong she will emotionally destroy you. Biatches like this know all the hooks to try and bring you back into their frame.
You deserve more than that so break the hold because they don't change and it will never get any better with her.

 

[SecondHalf]

I guess so, I'm just so annoyed because I know she will start sleeping with guys straight away, cause I saw a message of her to some guy. She told the guy that " she broke up a relationship" and the guy said that should he come round and she said no just broke it up".

And the guy was some guy whom she mentioned in the past tried to use her and she said bad stuff about him?


I think she will f**k other guys straight away if they game her and I just don't want her back after we breakup because of this amongst the other reasons flagged!

You know, I get this bothers you, but the fact is, this is the best gift this chick could give you (given the very unhealthy dynamics of your relationship).
Her boning some other guy will set you free.
You won't weaken, you won't question your separation, you will be forced to move on ... which is exactly what you need.

This all came to pass because you had stuff to do, so do it with vigor.

This ex I would not keep a string of contact with as a future plate.
Best go NC and move on.

Good luck,

SH