update: she's feeling me

[.illadelph]

the friend of the girl that i work with told me that she wants to hang out sometime....

i said, most definately..

so next week we're probably going to do something...nothing is planned yet, but i want it to be a place where i'll feel comforatable with her...

remember, i'm inexperienced..i've never kissed a girl before, so i don't know the rush of it all. i've never had a girlfriend....i'm soo late on things...but this is my chance.

she said..."i bet you're busy pimping all those *my school* chicks..." yet i have no experience whatsoever...she thinks i'm some kind of don juan already...

sooo, i said, "i wouldn't mind pimpin' a *her school* chick...

she replied and said... "i wouldn't mind being pimped by you ; )

hollaa at me"

soooo.....now i know that she wants me....and i have to do something about it. Does a movie sound good>? i need some serious help here, i don't wanna blow this....


thanks..

 

[.illadelph]

much help needed please, thank you..seeing there are many suave guys that i can learn alot from...

 

[pkrx209]

meet for drinks after dinner or coffee that way you dont have to pay for dinner or a movie and you can talk and its cheap. let her buy her coffee you buy yours.

 

[.illadelph]

coffee? isn't that a little too formal?

 

[The Juan and only]

Originally posted by .illadelph
coffee? isn't that a little too formal?

Not really, I've found that having coffee makes an excellent first date - It doesn't have to be strickly "coffee" of course, you could just go for a meal somewhere (not mcdonald's and the like).

I would also recommend the so called "action dates"..i.e go cycling together/bowling/tennis/mini-golf, anything like that.

One thing I will say...taking her to the movies probably isn't a good idea for your first encouter..not enough opportunity to talk (and work that game) + it's quite predictable.

 

[.illadelph]

my friend was the one that recommended a movie..i don't drink coffee anyway. i think an action-oriented date will suit me better.

i wanna hang out with her sometime this weekend...i just need the confidence to work my game. she's already displayed interest, and i want to hook up. i'm so inexperienced, i don't wanna come off looking like a fool. i mean, i hope she can't tell that i'm inexperienced. she seems to think i'ma ladies man for some reason. where and when should i try to initiate a kiss?? that's if she doesn't come on to me first.

 

[Tazman]

You're going to ruin it if you keep saying "I'm inexperienced." Stop placing unnecessary pressure on yourself, it will only backfire. It doesn't matter man, you're only 18. Be excited and happy that you get to go out with this girl and see what she's all about. So she thinks you're a player? It means nothing, you continue to be who you are and if you feel the moment is right you go in for a kiss. Yes, it's that simple.

Don't pretend to be someone you're not like I did at age 16, it won't work, or it won't work for very long anyway.

 

[.illadelph]

she sent me a msg on myspace saying....

"mmm...so, i lost my number..could i get yours?

haha, i'm bad at pickup lines... ;]"

 

[Desdinova]

A coffee date isn't that bad. If you don't drink coffee, just have a pop. Meet up with her for coffee and bull5hit a little bit. Then, have a plan to take her somewhere else after you're done coffee. Don't bother with the movie 5hit, that's boring. Take her bowling, mini golf, rollerskating, basically, anything where you're not just sitting there.

Her IL is definately there. When you approach her for a date, have a time and place planned. Tell her, "Hey, why don't you meet up with me for coffee on xxxday?" If she says sure, give her a time and location. Bam, you have a date set.

 

[Brando23]

I'd say take her to play mini golf. I've taken 2 dates to play mini golf and both ended up good. Plenty of opportunity for kino and to just have fun. Then take her out for some icecream or dessert after.

 

[.illadelph]

mini golf sounds pretty good...i think that's what we'll do together.

i hope she wants to go mini golfing though..

 

[Serialized3]

Just try to make a set plan, not something like "Lets go bowling on friday" more like "I'll pick you up for bowling at 6" because chicks are notorious flakes if you don't set a solid plan


My 2 cents.

 

[.illadelph]

thanks for the heads up...

i have lots to learn...

 

[DJHoolahoop]

My favorite is honestly going to bistros, they have the same atmosphere as a quality cafe and have restaurant quality food to eat. Typically the waitresses and/or waitors there are very nice.

Also my next favourite thing is going to the local candy shop afterwards. Cuz what girl don't like candy! haha

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by .illadelph
mini golf sounds pretty good...i think that's what we'll do together.

i hope she wants to go mini golfing though..

If she's into you, (within reason) it won't matter in the slightest what you choose to do. If she's *****ing about what you want to do, it may not be worth it...

 

[.illadelph]

i met her for the first time today...it was random as hell b/c i was out w/ my boy today and i had errands to run....anyway, we had to go to the mall to return something...then i get a txt msg saying if i'm going to the mall, then give her a call....

so i called her, apparently her friend was with her...good so far. we ended up meeting at the food court..i gave her a hug...i think she looks really good, even better in person from the pictures..

a bad thing was i'm not to good at first impressions and i know that it's sooo important.

this morning it snowed in my area, and i was wearing some raggedy ass clothes from shoveling...i wanted to go home t change, but my boy was like...forget it man...so i looked totallly scruffed up compared to what she's seen on myspace....but i'm not going to worry about what she was thinking about...

i think things went well...after shopping for a bit, we sat down at the food court and talked for over an hour..funny thing was my friend was feeling her friend..

as we concluded...i said that we had to get going...so we left....and idiot me that thinks way to much didn't even give her a going away hug...she must think i'm an ass...anyway, i think it went well...i said thta i would call her...

i wanna plan something for us alone on sunday..bowling probably...

i feel so down on myself b/c i didn't even kino her one bit...

 

[.illadelph]

i need to step my game up big...b/c it takes a while for me to warm up to someone....but i wanna really open up tothis girl and be myself around her...it's so hard....

 

[.illadelph]

i called her like i said i would and we ended up talking on the phone for over an hour...i'm surprised i held interesting conversation for that long....she's obviously interested because she wouldn't say that she had to go..i ended the convo and said that we'll plan something..