Update On My Life Without My Love/last Post Was About She Called Me

[catera]

Hey ,happy new year everyone. Just here to say my "girl " call contacted me , by a card. . I was surprised.. She said, she wanted to just wish me a happy new year. I have not spoken to her. I have been trying to stay distant and being away ftom her. I think that being apart may help her get into missing me and coming back the way things used to be, they were wonderful at one time not too long ago. I am confused. , was told in our last conversation , that she was angry at me , because I has not flown overseas and given her an engagement ring .She also said that i should have married her . before she moved overseas. I told her, but my dad had vpassed away. It was not the time. She has benn waiting 2 years o ver there to have me go and visit her with a ring in haND AND PROPOSE. Now , this is all in her head. I was in the midst of a crisis. My parents both passed away and grandmother within 7 1/2 months. Throughout this whole time she wants me to marry her. Anyway, I dis and do, but, I could not go there. Well, she is adamant now thgat her life is great with her friends and travel and life is peaceful now. She loves me, but does not need me. She needed me before, but not now. I told her what if i gave you a ring now. She said i do not know. Then said she was kidding about ring now, she wanted it then. Now she is happy as is. Then she gets emotional crying and saying for us to not talk anymore. It is better that we do not talk. to each other. I am haPPY AS i am. My last 2 threads were 1. update rhat she had called aND THE OTHER ONE WAS TELLING THE WHOLE STORY. I want ed to marry. In fact 8 weeks ago, she was all ready. All went to pieces. I felt I should leave her alone, but I am NOT SURE IF IT IS WORKING. tHIS CATD MEANS WHAT? What should I do? I do not want to turn into a afc guy and beg and plead for her. I do have to respect myself. Thanks guys. I am wondering what is the answer.? .respecrfully , catera

 

[Blurred Elevens]

Its simple, she loves you dude. You left her hanging, and now she doesn't want to seem needy and "AFC" if you will. Her crying about you means she loves you, but she doesn't want to go through the pain she experienced before waiting around for you.

It all really depends on what you want...If you want her, go get her tiger! If not don't screw her around. Just be real with her, tell her the hardship of losing your family members, just be straight with her dawg, she loves you. Write her an e-mail right now telling her how you feel about EVERYTHING. You'll feel better when you do. BTW-relationships are not about "needing" someone, don't worry about all that.

 

[Trogdawg]

Sounds like she was lying through her teeth in the end. Maybe to look like she didn't need you but then she broke down about it. I say you need to have a real talk with her. A straight out no nonsense talk. NO PRANCING AROUND but go STRAIGHT IN FOR THE KILL. IF she starts to pvssy foot around tell her you want the truth. That's all you can do.

 

[catera]

great you guys are really on the mark

I think you bith might be right. But what about the fact that she keeps saying she is happy now. What is that all about.? My last 2 threads on this subject are as folows : WHY IS SHE BEING a royal,,,,,,,? on dec.23 and the second one was: update my girlfriend called. I totally understand what you are saying. I would like you to read my 2 past threads and it may give an even better view. Thanks, you guys are great., catera

 

[catera]

Today she calls to say , happy new year and says she is not sure she can marry me? The reason is, because she does not know if i am the same. She loves the guy 2 years ago, but are you the same. Did I change? NOT AT ALL I TOLD HER. i Also said that are you a doubting thomas. I need to come to europe to let you see ,if i am the same. What is this? She said she is not sure about anything? She can not give me a definite answer. She will come in june , maybe, and if i want i can wait. but i can not make any promises about our future. What is all this? What should i do? Thank guys./catera

 

[DJ_Dork]

Damn sorry to say this, but we aren't doc juans, analyze your own crap.

 

[Player_Supreme]

she was angry at me , because I has not flown overseas and given her an engagement ring .She also said that i should have married her . before she moved overseas. I told her, but my dad had vpassed away. It was not the time. She has benn waiting 2 years o ver there to have me go and visit her with a ring in haND AND PROPOSE. Now , this is all in her head. I was in the midst of a crisis. My parents both passed away and grandmother within 7 1/2 months.

1. dayum what a bytch! You just lost your parents and all she can think about is getting that ring on her finger!

2. What is she said jump off a cliff-would you be willing to do it? I hope not. Maybe your life would be fine to let this one simmer for a much while longer.

3. If she loved you then why leave or why play these mind games. Women can love you but not need you... That is a strange situation, that I hope not to encounter.

4. Why not date some other girls for a while to see if you still love her before you cave in and give in to this demanding woman!

 

[catera]

THE REASON i AM STICKING IT OUT IS BECAUSE OF THE PAST. In the past , she was wonderful. She was caring and kind and considerate. So, i know she is capable. Those memories keep me in it. I appreciate your opinion guys. PLAYER, YOU ARE MAYBE RIGHT. i THINK I NEED TO MAYBE DISTANCE MYSELF FROM IT AND MAYBE GET A BETTER PERSPECTIVE, I DO LOVE HER. THANKS ALL. HAPPY NEW YEAR. CATERA