Update On Married Woman. What's Next?

jamesfromhouston

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Hi bros!

Just an update on the married woman situation, (you can read the full thread here. Summary of last thread: I met up with a married woman a while back, she seemed keen to meet 1 on 1 but was giving mix signals throughout our first meet.):

Then I met up with her again 2 weeks ago, we went out for drinks and a live show performance. The following happened:

- Originally we set a date to meet up but she canceled last minute, which I was unfazed by, but she insisted and almost practically begged me to meet the day after. So we met up again.

- During the meet, she told me she isn't happy in her marriage. feels her husband had changed since when she first met him. she wants to feel alive and wants to party. she feels she has outgrown him.

- We sat close on a couch but I could also feel at times, she would maintain a physical distance from me when I tried to sit closer. she also held onto a cushion pillow between me and her.

- Yet she seemed ok when I touched/tapped her during our conversation. she seemed quite responsive when we talked generally.

- Eventually near the end of the night, I tell her that I am trying really hard not to kiss her. I wanted to read the situation before going for the close. she literally went blank for a moment, like speechless. it wasn't repulsion, more like confusion and hesitation. stared at me blankly. eventually telling me, it wouldn't be good if I did that. So I didn't go for the close.

- I thought it meant no interest and I wanted to end the night. Yet she insisted on driving me back to my home in her car. Had a good chat in the car, we pretended nothing happened then during the car ride. Once we arrived outside mine, I was ready to leave, but she undid her seat belt, (which to me usually means a sign to go for a kiss), but I decided not to act on anything and we hugged instead.

All-in-all the above has been confusing, I've no idea whether she is interested or not. So I decided to assume that there was no interest on her part. Anyway, despite the fact I've not really been initiating, she has been really following my every move on social media, leaving me responses/messages and recently has been asking me to bring her to the parties that I always attend.

She mentioned during our 2nd meet up, she misses partying since getting married and she knows I attend lots of parties. And she really wants me to bring her to the parties I go to. (She mentioned about hanging out again, so I said 'let's meet', her response was 'party?')

My question for everyone is this, is this girl just trying to get attention/access to parties from me or is the partying a context for her to get it on with me without too much guilt since now I've now made my intention/feelings clear.

I've not much experience with married girls, so looking forward to my bro's advice here!

-James
 
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Married women are off limits. Karma's a b!tch. Always has been and always will be. You could, somehow someway, come face to face with her husband one day. He could be strapped - and that could be the end of you. You think it's ludicrous now, because you're h0rny and just want to get your d!ck wet, but just be careful.
 

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Married women are off limits. Karma's a b!tch. Always has been and always will be. You could, somehow someway, come face to face with her husband one day. He could be strapped - and that could be the end of you. You think it's ludicrous now, because you're h0rny and just want to get your d!ck wet, but just be careful.
Feel the thirst.
 

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Don't listen to willie @jamesfromhouston. Why are married women off limits? The husband doesn't own her like a slave. She's free to make her own choices. Why do you owe loyalty to her husband, a complete stranger? Would her husband bail you out of jail? Someone is going to bang that woman. Her marriage is fvcked anyways. As often as married women have affairs, you'd hear about dozens of husband rampage murders everyday. It's not likely to happen.
 

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What other options do you have and why do you want to deal with the drama of this one?

Is it so you can say you "cucked" another guy?

Do you think banging a woman who is committed to another man means you are a great seducer?

Are you going to take her away from a bad marriage and make her happy?


If you answered yes to any of these questions you need to look inside yourself and ask what is missing from your life.

You can do better. Really.

If you were a great seducer , you would have had carnal relations with her the first time. So that is out. She is using you for her emotional masturbation. you are not an emotional tampon, you are an emotional dildo....
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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nice story so far. can't wait for chapter 3.

In this story, this is the (common) case of the bored woman that doesn't want to cheat and thinks she can manage herself but also wants some excitement. With medium to the long game, you will have her. Almost any guy with the skills can get any girl given enough time and access.

she has an instinct of boundary but is actively overriding it due to the lure of excitement.

take her to a party and get her into your circle, if you are prominent in your circle she will eventually fold to you especially if other women in your circle also want you. keep her husband away and don't ever meet him.

patience, at some point the time of her cycle will be right and she is already not on guard with you. figure out her cycle so you can know if it's not obvious to you. if it's from her side, she will hit you up 1 or 2 days before her menstruation, if it's from your side try on ovulation day. this only applies if she is not on BC. if she is on BC the timing doesn't matter as much.

this is a girl that is not slutting, but just bored. she is not going to sleep with any guy she can find because she is still with boundaries. it will take a guy to game her some.

if you do this, you have no excuse to give other than you wanted to do it.

her guy is not RP else he would know or have a more solid boundary set or she would have respect for him. if he finds out after you do it, and becomes RP you will have a very serious problem until he dies or you die. but hey,, it's a dog eat dog world; party on.
 

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No crystal ball needed to explain the outcome.

You'll attend the party; thinking that this will be the opportunity when she finally cuts loose.
She'll be attending the party; knowing that no one knows her marital status. With opportunities available, you'll see her flirting it up with another dude or dudes.

Hate saying this, but everything you've mentioned so far would suggest that the above will be the likely outcome.
Don't be her doormat.
 

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Sounds like she wants someone to hammer her and since you seem to not be up to giving her the experience she wants, she wants to go to these parties to see what else is out there.

I'd invite her over for a drink one night to your place and see how she responds. If it's unfavorably then you know she is only trying to use you for party access and other dudes to bang her.
 

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Hi bros!

Just an update on the married woman situation, (you can read the full thread here. Summary of last thread: I met up with a married woman a while back, she seemed keen to meet 1 on 1 but was giving mix signals throughout our first meet.):

Then I met up with her again 2 weeks ago, we went out for drinks and a live show performance. The following happened:

- Originally we set a date to meet up but she canceled last minute, which I was unfazed by, but she insisted and almost practically begged me to meet the day after. So we met up again.

- During the meet, she told me she isn't happy in her marriage. feels her husband had changed since when she first met him. she wants to feel alive and wants to party. she feels she has outgrown him.

- We sat close on a couch but I could also feel at times, she would maintain a physical distance from me when I tried to sit closer. she also held onto a cushion pillow between me and her.

- Yet she seemed ok when I touched/tapped her during our conversation. she seemed quite responsive when we talked generally.

- Eventually near the end of the night, I tell her that I am trying really hard not to kiss her. I wanted to read the situation before going for the close. she literally went blank for a moment, like speechless. it wasn't repulsion, more like confusion and hesitation. stared at me blankly. eventually telling me, it wouldn't be good if I did that. So I didn't go for the close.

- I thought it meant no interest and I wanted to end the night. Yet she insisted on driving me back to my home in her car. Had a good chat in the car, we pretended nothing happened then during the car ride. Once we arrived outside mine, I was ready to leave, but she undid her seat belt, (which to me usually means a sign to go for a kiss), but I decided not to act on anything and we hugged instead.

All-in-all the above has been confusing, I've no idea whether she is interested or not. So I decided to assume that there was no interest on her part. Anyway, despite the fact I've not really been initiating, she has been really following my every move on social media, leaving me responses/messages and recently has been asking me to bring her to the parties that I always attend.

She mentioned during our 2nd meet up, she misses partying since getting married and she knows I attend lots of parties. And she really wants me to bring her to the parties I go to. (She mentioned about hanging out again, so I said 'let's meet', her response was 'party?')

My question for everyone is this, is this girl just trying to get attention/access to parties from me or is the partying a context for her to get it on with me without too much guilt since now I've now made my intention/feelings clear.

I've not much experience with married girls, so looking forward to my bro's advice here!

-James
If I am being honest the bad that can come out of this outweighs the good that might. Meaning, not worth it.

If you are thinking only with your d**c, then set up the next date and don't hesitate. Go for it. She wants to live it up, so step it up in your charisma and confidence in your interaction with her. Truth is, she is looking for fun either with you or someone else.

However, if you are thinking with your head. Create and invest in better options aka spin more plates.

Either way, keep us updated. Kind interested in finding out what happens.


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She's definitely not d!ck hungry. I can tell you that!
Even though she complains about her husband, there's no shortage of sex in her life. She might be getting it from another guy that she hasn't told you about.
You don't make her horny. Everything you described by her actions does not represent a horny female.

I get the impression she enjoys your attention and you give her a reason to get out of the house.
But other than that, you're trying to read deep and find meaning from someone that doesn't give a fvck about you.
 

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Hi bros!

Just an update on the married woman situation, (you can read the full thread here. Summary of last thread: I met up with a married woman a while back, she seemed keen to meet 1 on 1 but was giving mix signals throughout our first meet.):

Then I met up with her again 2 weeks ago, we went out for drinks and a live show performance. The following happened:

- Originally we set a date to meet up but she canceled last minute, which I was unfazed by, but she insisted and almost practically begged me to meet the day after. So we met up again.

- During the meet, she told me she isn't happy in her marriage. feels her husband had changed since when she first met him. she wants to feel alive and wants to party. she feels she has outgrown him.

- We sat close on a couch but I could also feel at times, she would maintain a physical distance from me when I tried to sit closer. she also held onto a cushion pillow between me and her.

- Yet she seemed ok when I touched/tapped her during our conversation. she seemed quite responsive when we talked generally.

- Eventually near the end of the night, I tell her that I am trying really hard not to kiss her. I wanted to read the situation before going for the close. she literally went blank for a moment, like speechless. it wasn't repulsion, more like confusion and hesitation. stared at me blankly. eventually telling me, it wouldn't be good if I did that. So I didn't go for the close.

- I thought it meant no interest and I wanted to end the night. Yet she insisted on driving me back to my home in her car. Had a good chat in the car, we pretended nothing happened then during the car ride. Once we arrived outside mine, I was ready to leave, but she undid her seat belt, (which to me usually means a sign to go for a kiss), but I decided not to act on anything and we hugged instead.

All-in-all the above has been confusing, I've no idea whether she is interested or not. So I decided to assume that there was no interest on her part. Anyway, despite the fact I've not really been initiating, she has been really following my every move on social media, leaving me responses/messages and recently has been asking me to bring her to the parties that I always attend.

She mentioned during our 2nd meet up, she misses partying since getting married and she knows I attend lots of parties. And she really wants me to bring her to the parties I go to. (She mentioned about hanging out again, so I said 'let's meet', her response was 'party?')

My question for everyone is this, is this girl just trying to get attention/access to parties from me or is the partying a context for her to get it on with me without too much guilt since now I've now made my intention/feelings clear.

I've not much experience with married girls, so looking forward to my bro's advice here!

-James
Hey man, I did followed some of your past posts and you seem to be a well put together kinda guy.

i could care less about the moral aspects of being involved with a married woman but it’s rarely worth it and there are far easier and fun ways to get with a girl.

If you’re doing it to test yourself or make it into an experiment, then sure, go for it. But I have to say that the time is better spent gaming other women.
 

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Update bros: she asked me out for 1on1 dinner/drinks next week.

I was just being aloof when she asked to party and she’s been following me closely on social media then I tried to invite her to a party the other day and she couldn’t make it so suggested we have dinner and drinks instead.

bros how should I play this?

Just an to address some of your replies, yes I know it’s probably trouble. I’ve never laid a married woman. Honestly I’m still kind of on the fence. She is very very attractive and seems deprived. A part of me wants to try it. But again logically I know it’s risky and maybe drama fuelled. Still have not decided.
 
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Update bros: she asked me out for 1on1 dinner/drinks next week.

I was just being aloof when she asked to party and she’s been following me closely on social media then I tried to invite her to a party the other day and she couldn’t make it so suggested we have dinner and drinks instead.

bros how should I play this?

Just an to address some of your replies, yes I know it’s probably trouble. I’ve never laid a married woman. Honestly I’m still kind of on the fence. She is very very attractive and seems deprived. A part of me wants to try it. But again logically I know it’s risky and maybe drama fuelled. Still have not decided.
Invite her over to cook dinner with you and tell her to bring a bottle of wine
 

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Update bros: she asked me out for 1on1 dinner/drinks next week.

I was just being aloof when she asked to party and she’s been following me closely on social media then I tried to invite her to a party the other day and she couldn’t make it so suggested we have dinner and drinks instead.

bros how should I play this?

Just an to address some of your replies, yes I know it’s probably trouble. I’ve never laid a married woman. Honestly I’m still kind of on the fence. She is very very attractive and seems deprived. A part of me wants to try it. But again logically I know it’s risky and maybe drama fuelled. Still have not decided.
If she asked you out then you should accept. Let us know how it goes and if she pays.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Hi bros!

Just an update on the married woman situation, (you can read the full thread here. Summary of last thread: I met up with a married woman a while back, she seemed keen to meet 1 on 1 but was giving mix signals throughout our first meet.):

Then I met up with her again 2 weeks ago, we went out for drinks and a live show performance. The following happened:

- Originally we set a date to meet up but she canceled last minute, which I was unfazed by, but she insisted and almost practically begged me to meet the day after. So we met up again.

- During the meet, she told me she isn't happy in her marriage. feels her husband had changed since when she first met him. she wants to feel alive and wants to party. she feels she has outgrown him.

- We sat close on a couch but I could also feel at times, she would maintain a physical distance from me when I tried to sit closer. she also held onto a cushion pillow between me and her.

- Yet she seemed ok when I touched/tapped her during our conversation. she seemed quite responsive when we talked generally.

- Eventually near the end of the night, I tell her that I am trying really hard not to kiss her. I wanted to read the situation before going for the close. she literally went blank for a moment, like speechless. it wasn't repulsion, more like confusion and hesitation. stared at me blankly. eventually telling me, it wouldn't be good if I did that. So I didn't go for the close.

- I thought it meant no interest and I wanted to end the night. Yet she insisted on driving me back to my home in her car. Had a good chat in the car, we pretended nothing happened then during the car ride. Once we arrived outside mine, I was ready to leave, but she undid her seat belt, (which to me usually means a sign to go for a kiss), but I decided not to act on anything and we hugged instead.

All-in-all the above has been confusing, I've no idea whether she is interested or not. So I decided to assume that there was no interest on her part. Anyway, despite the fact I've not really been initiating, she has been really following my every move on social media, leaving me responses/messages and recently has been asking me to bring her to the parties that I always attend.

She mentioned during our 2nd meet up, she misses partying since getting married and she knows I attend lots of parties. And she really wants me to bring her to the parties I go to. (She mentioned about hanging out again, so I said 'let's meet', her response was 'party?')

My question for everyone is this, is this girl just trying to get attention/access to parties from me or is the partying a context for her to get it on with me without too much guilt since now I've now made my intention/feelings clear.

I've not much experience with married girls, so looking forward to my bro's advice here!

-James
There's nothing confusing about this. To me it's perfectly clear:

Talk: she complains about her husband, says she wants to party etc etc (a bunch of BS)
Action: she avoids physical contact and doesn't want to kiss.

All talk, no action. Classic attention whoare.
 
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