Allright, DJ's, i truly need as much insight as any of you experienced seducers can give me. I just got burned and I want to learn as much as i can from this. Please bear with me...
About two months ago, i posted this sorry ass message :
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=42002
Basically, me and this girl who lives on my floor in residence and goes to same program as me had the best 3-4 months ever. We spent tons of time together (I know, mistake) but it was inevetable. Regardless, 90% percent of that time was spent laughing and having fun.
So we have rocky two days with some minor arguments; she then breaks up with me, saying that we were too much alike and that she wants me to concentrate more on my studies.
I say allright, even tough i was hurt, and then i act like i don't care. She comes back 4 hours later, crying on my door and asking for my forgiveness, saying that she didn't know what she was thinking and that she doesn't want to lose me. I still act cold, and so then she treats me like a king for the next week and cooks me dinner every day (she hates cooking). I forgive her and we patch things up and everything is perfect, or so it seems. This is why i never read the replies to my first message that posted, I knew i was in control when she came back to me.
IMPORTANT INFO:
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This might help you guys if you want more detail: she broke up with a bf of 5 years for me, and they are still friends, even though i know he wants her back. He's a super afc, and does anything she wants. THe emphasis i want to point out is that they are still friends.
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Faster forward two months, we are both on holidays in our respective towns, far away from each other. SHe calls me, talks normally for a few mintues....and then asks me if we were ever just friends; she then answers her own question, saying " i guess we weren't huh". Then she starts talking about how she feels bad about her bf (he lives in her home town, so i guess she's been calling him/seing him more often). She's told him about us, even though she didn't need to (drama?). Finally, she tells me that she's torn up between us and that she just wants to be both our friends for now....and that maybe we rushed into this too quickly. She tells me that i'm perfect and that she's the one with problems. Standard generic stuff...a couple of days later, she calls me up...and i was somewhat more emotional this time, because quite frankly i was hurt. I did tell her that i'm not going to take her back, and then she says that this just verified that I just liked her as a fling, and that i did not love her, because according to her, 'love is unconditional'. In my head i'm thinking that she wants a door mat for a boyfriend.
This is the gest of the story, i have been debating weither i should ignore this girl, or just be her friend and act like i don't care. I have been ignoring her lately, she sent me a card saying happy new years, etc....i never replied, and i have been ignoring her steady for a week.
*****
My main dilemma is that I will live on the same floor as this girl for the next 4 months. We will stay in the same program (all classes are together) for the next 3.5 YEARS!. How should i act around her ? Be her friend or no?
*****
I've thought about this more than i'd like to admit, and one of my hypothesis is that perhaps i was not feeding this girl enough emotion, and that she's making all this stuff to get her fix of drama. What do you guys think? This girl is really caring and everyone loves her (guys and girls). Many guys tell her that they love her, and while she did say that i'm only the second guy she loved, i'm afraid i've fallen into the other guy category.
Deep inside i think she gets satisfied and wants to see me beg for her, even if her words have always been friendly and caring.
Anyhow, i will stop babbling, and i would truly appreciate guidance as this has been an extensively difficuly part of my dj experience and life in general. If any clarifications are needed please ask.
Thank you.
About two months ago, i posted this sorry ass message :
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=42002
Basically, me and this girl who lives on my floor in residence and goes to same program as me had the best 3-4 months ever. We spent tons of time together (I know, mistake) but it was inevetable. Regardless, 90% percent of that time was spent laughing and having fun.
So we have rocky two days with some minor arguments; she then breaks up with me, saying that we were too much alike and that she wants me to concentrate more on my studies.
I say allright, even tough i was hurt, and then i act like i don't care. She comes back 4 hours later, crying on my door and asking for my forgiveness, saying that she didn't know what she was thinking and that she doesn't want to lose me. I still act cold, and so then she treats me like a king for the next week and cooks me dinner every day (she hates cooking). I forgive her and we patch things up and everything is perfect, or so it seems. This is why i never read the replies to my first message that posted, I knew i was in control when she came back to me.
IMPORTANT INFO:
***
This might help you guys if you want more detail: she broke up with a bf of 5 years for me, and they are still friends, even though i know he wants her back. He's a super afc, and does anything she wants. THe emphasis i want to point out is that they are still friends.
***
Faster forward two months, we are both on holidays in our respective towns, far away from each other. SHe calls me, talks normally for a few mintues....and then asks me if we were ever just friends; she then answers her own question, saying " i guess we weren't huh". Then she starts talking about how she feels bad about her bf (he lives in her home town, so i guess she's been calling him/seing him more often). She's told him about us, even though she didn't need to (drama?). Finally, she tells me that she's torn up between us and that she just wants to be both our friends for now....and that maybe we rushed into this too quickly. She tells me that i'm perfect and that she's the one with problems. Standard generic stuff...a couple of days later, she calls me up...and i was somewhat more emotional this time, because quite frankly i was hurt. I did tell her that i'm not going to take her back, and then she says that this just verified that I just liked her as a fling, and that i did not love her, because according to her, 'love is unconditional'. In my head i'm thinking that she wants a door mat for a boyfriend.
This is the gest of the story, i have been debating weither i should ignore this girl, or just be her friend and act like i don't care. I have been ignoring her lately, she sent me a card saying happy new years, etc....i never replied, and i have been ignoring her steady for a week.
*****
My main dilemma is that I will live on the same floor as this girl for the next 4 months. We will stay in the same program (all classes are together) for the next 3.5 YEARS!. How should i act around her ? Be her friend or no?
*****
I've thought about this more than i'd like to admit, and one of my hypothesis is that perhaps i was not feeding this girl enough emotion, and that she's making all this stuff to get her fix of drama. What do you guys think? This girl is really caring and everyone loves her (guys and girls). Many guys tell her that they love her, and while she did say that i'm only the second guy she loved, i'm afraid i've fallen into the other guy category.
Deep inside i think she gets satisfied and wants to see me beg for her, even if her words have always been friendly and caring.
Anyhow, i will stop babbling, and i would truly appreciate guidance as this has been an extensively difficuly part of my dj experience and life in general. If any clarifications are needed please ask.
Thank you.
