Up and ... down again

saigonheadache

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What's going on Brothers. Need to hear what you gotta say about this. About 5 months ago I had it goin on you know. It's like I knew already that a girl was going to give me her number before I even approached her, I mean I just felt it you know. Well now all of this is gone. Whenever I picture approaching a girl I feel this really weak feeling in my gut. If I do start talking to a girl the conversation just turns out to be AFC-like and i just feel I'm not going nowhere. When I try C&F it comes across as rough not confident and smooth enough which makes me look like an *******. It got to a point where I dont even feel like getting out of bed. What's happening here, will I have to go through all that "first approach pain" again? Within these 5 months this what happened. Stoped working, had a gf for about 3 mths which i lost due to turning in afc (but I got out in time so now she's calling back). And right now I got like 4 numbers I could be working on but I cant do nothing untill i know I can approach strange women again, becasue that will put me back in position of power and choice so for now I am just ducking calls from my ex and the girls I know cause if I will pick up they will sense the disaster I'm in and I will lose those too. I'm so confused, please help me out
 

Scought

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holy sh man

Cmon dude, are you for real? Dont want to get out of bed, why? that sounds almost suicidal or depressed. Damn, when you get to that point you just gotta say F the world, and do your thing.
You need to meet new people. Vent, workout. Cmon, man, get your ass outta bed for starters. Nothing is going to come to you that way. Go out with some friends.

Staying in bed is ridiculous. Im not here to be nice, im here to shake you outta this mess. So freakin do it already.

Damn. your complaining about a girl. Holy sheet. Far worse things to worry about. Who cares about what a girl thinks anyway.
IF you are at the poing where you dont care, thats a good point to be at, cause you can go out, have fun, and guess, what you dont care about S, you are just out ot have fun, and what happens happens.

Grow up man. Stop sulking. You had the mojo, then you laid low. Offseason is over. Go out to have fun first, everything else, including girls, is secondary. Get a grip, and talk to someone just to talk, if you want to approach. Act like you are going up asking her what time it is. You arent there for a number, you are just asking a question, then go from there. Im not sayin ask for the time, im just sayin have that mindset. Cmon now.
 

Sexual

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Originally posted by saigonheadache
you guys really think mating season has anything to do with this?
Whoa.

Go to a party with a bunch of guy friends and get trashed, hook up with the hottest sl*t you can that's equally trashed (and if not go for a 6 as long as her body is nice.. also try to get one from out of town or that nobody knows) and get out of your slump. Wear a condom if u decide to f*ck. It always gets my game back up to par.
 

jamesw82

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Always man, i go through it I think alot of people do...

Its life though, you have highs n lows, like a rollercoaster... you've just gotta do everything in your power to make the highs freakin awesome and damage limitation on the lows...

I think exercising has helped me loads dealing with periods of low confidence or depression, cos everyone feels good after a work out, and hey, you're getting fit too ! A bargain at twice the price!!!
 

xsonik

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it's all about growing up from AFC to Master Don Juan bro. See Don Juans bounce back, theres like a million chicks out there! Learn from whatever mistake you made, and move on man.
 
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