Unwanted Attention ruining EVERTHING!

[ryanvalmont]

Ok so i go clubbing every week as it's the best place in my opinion as there's loads of girls about the place.

Problem is 6 months ago i was friendly to a girl as you do...in a non sexaul way,just talking and joking.

Problem is this,she has just started going to the club i goto every week and,well she is somewhat...disabled

She is is somewhat vertically challenged and has some kind of neck problem that make her head lean one side.this is the only way i feel i can describe her disability.

Now the problem is she loves me,her friends keep telling me all the time and she keeps buying me drinks following me everywhere and trying to get me to dance.

I've spoken to her as nice as i possibly can be to say we will only be friends.
But i don't want to be her friend because i don't wanna really been seen with her as it's messing up my game and making me look alittle desperate that i have to resort to going for her.

If your reading this and your thinking i'm bad,i'm not a bad person....it's the way i'm describing my problem as it's kinda hard.

Now all i need is some advice on how to let her know i don't want her following me or pestering me or basically talking to me?.

Thx

 

[knight56]

If i where you i would hit it..lol PY IS PY..LOL as long as there clean and smell good.

 

[ryanvalmont]

Originally posted by knight56
If i where you i would hit it..lol PY IS PY..LOL as long as there clean and smell good.

Hey man NO WAY!,she's like to me waist in height and i'm not that big.

Plus her head leans one way and it's just a terrible situation when she follows me and won't take a god damm hint.

 

[knight56]

Well all chicks want some love. So you saying she is ugly?

 

[RoeCyris]

if u were from MD i would say i might know this chick cuz i use to work with a girl who was the same way. and she was all about Lord Of The Rings and thought she was a ****in hobbit, lol

But i have bad news. There is no nice way to make her understand. My friend and I were both her managers and I was nice and curtious to her even when she was annoying or interupting me while i was getting some work done. HE on the other hand would flat out say to her "shut the hell up and go stand over there while i get this done" and just get frusterated with her (sometimes it was understandable, she complained alot.) Anyways, the point here is that EVEN when he was an ******* where there was no way he was joking with her, she didnt really get the hint. It took over 2 months of him being an ******* for her to say to me "Does he not like me?" And i was like "you can't tell?!"

(This is gonna sound so evil but it has been my expierence
Some disabled people, girls in particular, are leaches. When they find someone who will talk to them they hang on for dear life b/c truthfully that person becomes their life if they dont have many or any other friends.


Sorry pal. Good luck. If you work it out in a nice way, id love to hear about it.

 

[alphawolfx]

I don't think you're a bad person at all. Don't allow her to use her disability against you. It's not your fault she's disabled, she is NOT your problem. Who the hell said that you're a bad guy if you don't take care of someone that ISN'T YOUR PROBLEM!? No one, and if anyone did... they're a moron.

Tell her bluntly, "Please stop following me around. You're a nice friend but it's starting to freak me out." You can always use the tactful b.s. that other women use... "I just don't think of you THAT way." and "No it's okay. But thanks for offering, though." when she offers you a drink or a dance.

You can still be nice to her in public, too. People will not think you're desperate. Think will think if you are man enough to deal with that and not be embarrassed by it, then you must be the f.uckin MAN. But make sure she keeps her distance, and don't let any idiot make fun of her. If you are seen doing those things, anyone worth talking to and befriending will know you are an awesome guy.

If you want to cut off all contact with her, use some other female tricks. Tell her you've started seeing someone, and describe the girl, and say that you're in love, blah blah blah. If she's said it openly that she likes you, tell her now you feel awkward around her, and that you don't feel the same about her. And then be distant.

Hope this helps.

 

[ryanvalmont]

Yeah your helping guys,some good advice there.

It's the fact that i go down this club to get with some girls and she's just interupting me and following me and generally being a pain.

It's the fact that i know i have to be mean to her in the way for her to get it into her head.
It's just that it's as if she's become obsessed with me and i don't want to totally kill her confidence etc...

I guess i could ignore her and go off or something,but isn't that too nasty?,plus she has friends who might give me a hard time about it.

 

[Wyldfire]

You need a female friend to help you out with this one. Get a female friend to agree to go with you to this club for about a month and act like your girlfriend. Then, when this girl you don't want following you starts following you, start doting on and kissing your friend everytime she comes around. She will most likely find someone else to have a crush on and follow around within a month's time and then you should be able to go to this club without feeling like you're dragging a dingleberry behind you all night.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
You need a female friend to help you out with this one. Get a female friend to agree to go with you to this club for about a month and act like your girlfriend. Then, when this girl you don't want following you starts following you, start doting on and kissing your friend everytime she comes around. She will most likely find someone else to have a crush on and follow around within a month's time and then you should be able to go to this club without feeling like you're dragging a dingleberry behind you all night.

Dingleberry? That's a disgusting but hilarious analogy at the same time.


I agree the advice given here is pretty good....I have another suggestion:

How well do you know her friends? You could use them to find out when she is going to the club and make sure you go at a different time so you avoid seeing her.

 

[alphawolfx]

LOL.

"Frankly, my dear, you have become a dingleberry. Now get off my a.ss and leave me alone."

PERFECT!

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Dingleberry? That's a disgusting but hilarious analogy at the same time.


I agree the advice given here is pretty good....I have another suggestion:

How well do you know her friends? You could use them to find out when she is going to the club and make sure you go at a different time so you avoid seeing her.

I once sent a Mexican to the store to buy some Dingleberries so they could bake a Dingleberry pie!
Damn was that funny. It wasn't nearly as funny as sending a guy to NAPA to buy some Fallopian Tubes, though...hehehehe

God I'm so mean...

 

[ryanvalmont]

Things is have female friends...but none that i'm really friendly with to go and do something like that for me.

I think i'm gonna ignore her or keep making excuses to leave...maybe she would get the hint after awhile?.

 

[alphawolfx]

If a girl that an AFC were totally into gave him anything LESS than blunt, clear communication, would he eventually get the idea, or would he just start shwing even MORE attention, and start getting even MORE obsessed with thoughts like "Well, she kind of smiled at me today, I think she likes me!"

This girl is an AFC. You need to be clear, blunt, and you will sound like an a.sshole to some peope, but you won't be.

I know she has a disability, but she is just like any other female that you're NOT interested in. Treat her as such.

 

[ryanvalmont]

Originally posted by alphawolfx
If a girl that an AFC were totally into gave him anything LESS than blunt, clear communication, would he eventually get the idea, or would he just start shwing even MORE attention, and start getting even MORE obsessed with thoughts like "Well, she kind of smiled at me today, I think she likes me!"

This girl is an AFC. You need to be clear, blunt, and you will sound like an a.sshole to some peope, but you won't be.

I know she has a disability, but she is just like any other female that you're NOT interested in. Treat her as such.

Brilliant advice,thx for the advice everyone as i know it sounds easy to show a girl you don't like her...but when they have a disability it's harder.

I will report back after saturday in this thread!

 

[alakazam]

You could just go to another club....
or mix it up and go to different clubs.

/shrug

 

[Boxer45]

Ya man go to another club, dont be mean to her cus she will prolly kill herself or something. But man the club is a bad place to pick up girls at, they are all drunk, and they prolly wont even remember half of the guys they give their # to. U wanna come with some game that they will remember the next day. But hey if it works for you then keep it up.

 

[ryanvalmont]

Well i think i go clubbing as i go out mostly with my brother and he is REALLY BAD at picking up women...he is a complete reck when it comes to girls.

So i needa goto a place he feel's most comfortable with,plus i like clubs as there's soooo many girls there.

Also i'll add that the club i goto "Destiny" is the only REAL club where i live as some others got shut down for some reason ;(

But i've heard that my old stomping ground where i'de get a girl a week might be opening soon again ))))

I think i'll have to be alittle mean,like either ignore her or keep walking off to the toilet or get a drink and not come back or something?