Unusual situation

[Greensticker]

First time making a thread/post here. Hoping for honest feedback.

About myself, I'm neither someone that routinely goes out to meet women nor someone that has no idea what they are doing when approaching a woman. I've been in a couple of long-term relationships that both died off amicably when we realized we didn't want to pursue anything more in our early/mid twenties.

Current situation:

> Mutual friends party
> Meet girl, talk exclusively with her for 20 minutes
> Get her number, tell her I will call/text her to set up plans for next week
> Text back and set up a date for following week
> Go out, have good time (dinner/movie)
> Eye contact, constant communication, made her laugh, got close in cold movie theater (could be exaggerating on how well it went, all a matter of personal perspective but at the very least it was a good date)
> Send her goodnight text
> No reply
> Text her 2 days later asking if she wants to go out next week
> She takes almost a day to reply and agrees however she can't on the days I set (work), gives two other days that she is available
> I don't want to change my schedule around to her first one and say yes to second
> She hasn't replied in more than a day to the last text

Bit about girl > College degree, down to earth, bring home to mom type from what I can tell so far.

Basically the situation as it is now. The reason I'm asking for advice is because it's gone from hot to cold to her giving options for other days to meet up to not replying again within a decent amount of time. I haven't texted anything excessive/tried to keep most of the conversation for when we meet up, just setting up times to meet with small amount of small talk in between. I think being in relationships for so long made me come off as a bit too strong too soon however feedback would be appreciated as to whether she is playing games, isn't interested, or just has other options.

 

[Fireballs]

She has low interest. Judge her by her actions ie. taking that long to text you back... and remember, a girl who is interested in you won't confuse you. Did you escalate on the date? Kiss her? Even if she does reply to your latest text and get a date set up, be prepared for her to flake.

Also do yourself a favour and don't ever send 'goodnight' texts. I don't even send them to girlfriends. Next time you take a girl on a date, forget the whole dinner and a movie idea. Do you have a dog? Take her and your dog to the local park/beach..take her to mini golf..take her on an ACTION date.

 

[Greensticker]

She has low interest. Judge her by her actions and remember, a girl who is interested in you won't confuse you. Did you escalate on the date? Kiss her? Even if she does reply to your latest text and get a date set up, be prepared for her to flake.

Also do yourself a favour and don't ever send 'goodnight' texts. I don't even send them to girlfriends. Next time you take a girl on a date, forget the whole dinner and a movie idea. Do you have a dog? Take her and your dog to the local park/beach..take her to mini golf..take her on an ACTION date.

I kissed her on the cheek at the end/hug. We got close at the theater. Not much more you can do in such a situation on the first date. Like I previously stated, she is a normal/down to earth girl and not a club sloot. She was down to meet up the day after I sent the text if I would have changed my plans however I wasn't prepared to do that. I don't have a dog. Thanks for the advice though.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

1) This is not an unusual situation.

2) Find more women.

3) Stop over-analysing, especially a situation where you've met someone once.

4) Don't ever use the words 'snuggle' or 'snuggled' in public. Ever. You are a man, not a f*cking baby panda.

 

[Greensticker]

1) This is not an unusual situation.

2) Find more women.

3) Stop over-analysing, especially a situation where you've met someone once.

4) Don't ever use the words 'snuggle' or 'snuggled' in public. Ever. You are a man, not a f*cking baby panda.

Thanks, you're right about every point.

 

[Greensticker]

Anything else?

 

[ZTIME]

1) This is not an unusual situation.

2) Find more women.

3) Stop over-analysing, especially a situation where you've met someone once.

4) Don't ever use the words 'snuggle' or 'snuggled' in public. Ever. You are a man, not a f*cking baby panda.

This is just so Fu**ing funny!! True, but hilarious!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Green....

First time making a thread/post here. Hoping for honest feedback.

About myself, I'm neither someone that routinely goes out to meet women nor someone that has no idea what they are doing when approaching a woman. I've been in a couple of long-term relationships that both died off amicably when we realized we didn't want to pursue anything more in our early/mid twenties.

Current situation:

> Mutual friends party
> Meet girl, talk exclusively with her for 20 minutes
> Get her number, tell her I will call/text her to set up plans for next week
> Text back and set up a date for following week
> Go out, have good time (dinner/movie)
> Eye contact, constant communication, made her laugh, got close in cold movie theater (could be exaggerating on how well it went, all a matter of personal perspective but at the very least it was a good date)
> Send her goodnight text
> No reply
> Text her 2 days later asking if she wants to go out next week
> She takes almost a day to reply and agrees however she can't on the days I set (work), gives two other days that she is available
> I don't want to change my schedule around to her first one and say yes to second
> She hasn't replied in more than a day to the last text

As Fireballs said, there is probably low interest with this one.

Bit about girl > College degree, down to earth, bring home to mom type from what I can tell so far.

Basically the situation as it is now. The reason I'm asking for advice is because it's gone from hot to cold to her giving options for other days to meet up to not replying again within a decent amount of time. A good basic rule of thumb is (whether 1st date or 20th date) ask them out once, if they refuse with no counter-offer, give one more alternative, then it's up to them to make the next move. I haven't texted anything excessive/tried to keep most of the conversation for when we meet up, just setting up times to meet with small amount of small talk in between. Good. But I wouldn't even bother with the small talk, unless you've been seeing a chick for 6months. I think being in relationships for so long made me come off as a bit too strong too soon however feedback would be appreciated as to whether she is playing games, isn't interested, or just has other options. She may have other options, but your main concern is her interest level to you and how she (or any other chick) shows that. It is not easy to break out of the neediness cycle of relationships. I am just coming out the other side of that myself, having had three fairly difficult LTRs in my twenties. If there is one piece of advice I can offer, it is to become truly independent of outcome, even if you find yourself in a relationship again.

Let us know if you have any more specific questions.